Laura How

21/08/2025

So many people say, “S*x is just a want, not a need.”

But imagine saying the same about affection, respect, or trust.

The truth is, s*x isn’t optional in a healthy marriage, it’s a core emotional need. Without it, relationships slip into roommate territory.

When both partners feel desired, cherished, and connected, marriage thrives. 💞

👉 Do you agree that s*x is a need in marriage? Let me know in the comments.

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23/07/2025

I had a lovey time talking with Monica Almaguer about marriage dynamics, s*xless marriages, menopause, feminism, and personal growth in relationships amongst many, many other topics.

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22/07/2025

In this video, I share a practical, structured exercise to help couples move beyond just meeting basic relationship needs like trust and communication, and rediscover the joy, adventure, and passion of the honeymoon phase.

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16/07/2025

To determine whether s*xual intimacy is a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an individual or a relationship, I explore the research comparing outcomes of a s*xually active lifestyle with a life without s*xual intimacy.

The key difference between cold, disconnected, and tense relationships and those that are warm, peaceful and vibrant often lies in the degree of s*xual intimacy shared between partners.

S*xual Intimacy IS an emotional need and more than this; it’s a vital thread in the fabric of a healthy, vibrant relationship, woven together with trust, communication, and mutual generosity. By embracing it as such, we open the door to deeper intimacy, greater well-being, and a love that truly flourishes.

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To determine whether s*xual intimacy is a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an individual or a relationship, I explore the res...

03/07/2025

Today I'm joined by Dr Samantha White aka Dr. Psych Mom where we discuss emotional needs vs. s*xual needs, why couples who have regular s*x raise happy children, the lack of education about physical intimacy in marriage and why relationship counsellors aren’t addressing marital s*x as a priority in therapy.

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Dr Samantha Whiten is a clinical psychologist in private practice, author, podcaster, wife and mother. Visit her group practice at https://BestLifebehavioralhealth.com

Listen to her podcast The Dr Psych Mom Show here: https://open.spotify.com/show/2oUpweoWrPUke8QHLlafue?si=rhyke0U1TwSZwB0NgaIWNw

We discuss emotional needs vs. s*xual needs, why couples who have regular s*x raise happy children, the lack of education about physical intimacy in marriage...

13/05/2025

In this candid conversation I sit down with UK therapist Laura How - - to unpack the quiet crisis facing men today: loneliness, s*xless marriages...

13/05/2025

Is s*xual obligation implied within marital vows?
Do you have a moral duty of care towards your husband or wife?
What does a ‘sense of duty’ even mean?

In this video I explore the concept and morality of s*xual obligation in marriage.

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30/04/2025

If you want your husband to function well, then s*x needs to be regular and enjoyable feature of your marriage. If you have committed to loving your spouse, then do it well!

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This is a short clip from an upcoming interview with the lovely Ralph from Dad Starting Over

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Laura x

30/04/2025

By request, informal online coaching sessions are now available for booking via my website.

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17/04/2025

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09/04/2025

What if your husband or wife wants to have s*x every day but you could take it or leave it. How do you manage mismatched libidos to ensure that both of you are happy with the amount of s*xual intimacy in your marriage?

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Some people need to feel emotionally connected to want s*x, and others need s*x to feel emotionally connected.

We must therefore accept that both s*xual and emotional connection are equally valid needs, and we must develop our willingness to engage with our partners in whatever way that they need to feel connected.

The ultimate goal here, is for s*x to become as freely given and enjoyed as any other reasonable relationship need, which should of course also be abundantly provided and enjoyed. A marriage underpinned by this spirit of mutual generosity is a marriage that will become stronger and more fulfilling to both spouses over the course of their shared lives.

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25/03/2025

Why do so many women stop wanting s*x with their husbands after marriage or children? And what can you do, as a couple to rescue your s*x life? This in-depth guide is for men & women.

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If you want your marriage to thrive and to be filled with pleasure, contentment and satisfaction, then you simply cannot give up on s*x.

Choosing to have no or little to no s*x in marriage is like taking a wrecking ball to the whole enterprise. If my own story had not convinced me of that, then the countless couples I meet who aren’t having s*x certainly would have.

There is a solution. It doesn’t have to be this way. There are plenty of things both spouses can do to understand what’s going on and work together to resolve the situation. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how long this has been a problem in your marriage; the solution is the same.

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Why do so many women stop wanting s*x with their husbands after marriage or children? And what can you do, as a couple to rescue your s*x life? This in-depth...