Laura How

Laura How I’m a relationship therapist specialising in s*xless marriage and female s*xual desire in long-term relationships. Her mission?

I help couples rebuild intimacy, emotional connection, and s*xual confidence. Laura How is a UK-based relationship counsellor and coach with over 20 years of experience in mental health. Known for her no-nonsense, results-focused style, Laura challenges traditional counselling models with a bold philosophy rooted in truth, personal responsibility, and self-agency. She helps couples create intimate

, honest, and s*xually connected relationships that support mutual growth, healing, and lasting fulfilment. Laura believes strong marriages are the foundation of emotionally healthy families—and a healthier society. To end the gender war—one couple at a time—by helping men and women truly love and respect each other. Follow for insights, tough love, and real strategies to transform your relationship.

"Emotional safety" has become one of the most misused phrases in modern marriage advice, usually wheeled out as a vague ...
24/04/2026

"Emotional safety" has become one of the most misused phrases in modern marriage advice, usually wheeled out as a vague justification for avoiding intimacy.

In my latest article I define it plainly, using my own marriage as the example, and break it down into the six questions every wife is asking her husband, and what that means for his emotional safety.

07/04/2026

Marriage is s*xually exclusive. Which means the promise not to have s*x outside it carries an implicit agreement that s*x will happen within it.

So any change to that arrangement isn't one person's decision to make.
In this video I explain why opting out of intimacy in a s*xless marriage isn't simply a personal choice and why that isn't coercion.

🔔 For more on intimacy in marriage and s*xless marriage dynamics, subscribe and follow.

⚠️ This content is intended for safe, stable and loving relationships only. It does not endorse pressure, coercion, or non-consensual s*xual contact of any kind.

Click "YouTube" in bio for the full video.

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One of the most important things nobody says about marriage.When you choose monogamy, you don't just agree to be faithfu...
07/04/2026

One of the most important things nobody says about marriage.

When you choose monogamy, you don't just agree to be faithful. You agree that s*x lives between the two of you and nowhere else.

Which means any decision to stop is never just yours to make.

(This is only for couples who a feel safe with each other and want to tend to this part of their marriage better.)

New video is live. Link in bio.

26/03/2026

Sexual withdrawal doesn't come up on the list of harmful behaviours in marriage, but it should.

We challenge cruelty. We challenge contempt. We challenge neglect, addiction, and infidelity. But when there's no intimacy, no willingness to talk about it, and no effort to change it — that silence causes damage too.

If your partner is withdrawing without explanation or engagement, you're allowed to name it.

What if the ideology that promised to liberate women is actually making them unhappy? I sat down with philosopher and au...
25/03/2026

What if the ideology that promised to liberate women is actually making them unhappy? I sat down with philosopher and author Carrie Gress to find out.

Link in the comments 👇

24/03/2026

Sexual frequency in marriage has dropped 50%+ since the 1990s — and this cultural narrative is partly why.

"Women don't owe men anything" belongs in a single life.

Not a marriage.

Marriage is built entirely on what we give to each other. The moment "I don't owe you anything" becomes the operating principle of your relationship, you're not in a partnership anymore.

💬 Does this resonate? Drop a comment below.

📺 Watch the full video on my channel.

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24/03/2026

More positive. More s*xual. More loving. More confident. More compassionate. More patient.

You are the creator of your own life, and the list of who you can become is infinite.

What are you working on right now?

Let me know in the comments 🙏

If you're a devoted husband and s*x has disappeared from your marriage, this one's for you.Sexual withdrawal is one of t...
24/03/2026

If you're a devoted husband and s*x has disappeared from your marriage, this one's for you.

Sexual withdrawal is one of the most talked-around and least talked-about problems in long-term relationships. There's always a reason. Always another barrier to address. Always something to work on first.

And the men on the receiving end are usually the kindest, most patient ones in the room.

This video is about why that pattern happens, why it causes real harm, and why you're allowed to name it as a problem, not a preference.

Full video in comments. 👇

17/03/2026

Many couples who come to me feel confused about what happened to their marriage.

They still care about each other. They may even communicate well. But something important has disappeared.

The s*xual connection.

When intimacy fades, the advice couples almost always hear is to focus on communication and emotional closeness first. And sometimes that genuinely helps.

But in many long-term relationships, the sequence runs the other way. The s*xual connection fades, and emotional distance grows in the space it leaves behind.

Understanding what intimacy truly means to each partner is often where things begin to change.

Because a lot of marriages don't have a communication problem. They have an intimacy problem.

If this pattern feels familiar, you're not alone.

Many couples who come to me feel confused about what happened to their marriage.They still care about each other. They m...
17/03/2026

Many couples who come to me feel confused about what happened to their marriage.

They still care about each other. They may even communicate well. But something important has disappeared.

The s*xual connection.

When intimacy fades, the advice couples almost always hear is to focus on communication and emotional closeness first. And sometimes that genuinely helps.

But in many long-term relationships, the sequence runs the other way. The s*xual connection fades, and emotional distance grows in the space it leaves behind.

Understanding what intimacy truly means to each partner is often where things begin to change.

Because a lot of marriages don't have a communication problem. They have an intimacy problem.

If this pattern feels familiar, you're not alone.

I work with couples online and in Somerset, including One-Day Couples Intensives designed to help partners understand what's really going on in their relationship and begin finding their way back to each other.

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Screen addiction in marriage is the elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about. Not because it's complicated, but b...
10/02/2026

Screen addiction in marriage is the elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about.

Not because it's complicated, but because we've all normalised it.

If you're living with someone who'd rather scroll than connect, you're not needy for wanting more.

New blog post - link in comment.

Social media isn't just stealing her time. It's rewriting the story of your marriage.Every scroll feeds her a highlight ...
10/02/2026

Social media isn't just stealing her time. It's rewriting the story of your marriage.

Every scroll feeds her a highlight reel of someone else's life — curated, filtered, and designed to make reality feel like it's not enough. Designed to make you feel like you're not enough.

It's what I call the Wormtongue Effect. A constant voice whispering comparison and resentment until she starts believing it.

And the worst part? She probably doesn't even realise it's happening. 👀

Full video on this one 👇

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