Stephen McFarland Inspired Counselling

Stephen McFarland Inspired Counselling Through counselling with me I will walk your journey with you to find inner peace, confidence and courage, to face the dark places in your life. Stephen.

Integrative Counselling with psychodynamic at its core, incorporating mindfulness, if you wish, for my clients wellbeing. Make peace with the past in your mind, to live in peace in this moment, and look forward with confidence. I will walk beside you and give you 100% in each session, it is the way I am. Mindfulness is incorporated if you wish, to enable you to sit with your feelings, and in time, watch the feelings you do not want drift away. Counselling with me allows you to take time out from this crazy and fast paced world, to sit and think, cry, shout, whatever you need to do, in a discreet, safe, confidential, warm and friendly environment. Everything we do will be at your pace, and your style, for you. Thank you for taking the time to read about my counselling style, and I hope to hear from you soon.

Inspiration and hope, even after many years, you can recover. Dont believe me? I dare you to book in with me and feel yo...
09/04/2026

Inspiration and hope, even after many years, you can recover.
Dont believe me? I dare you to book in with me and feel yourself change, bit by piece.

The needle went in easy. Too easy.

Mackenzie Phillips was nineteen, famous, and falling apart. Millions knew her face from "One Day at a Time" - the hit show where she played the sweet teenager every American family invited into their living room each week.

What they didn't know was happening behind the cameras.

Her father was John Phillips, the brilliant mind behind The Mamas and the Papas. He'd written songs that defined a generation. He'd also destroyed his daughter's childhood one hit at a time.

Growing up as rock royalty sounds glamorous until you're living it. There were no bedtimes. No rules. No adults sober enough to notice when a little girl needed protection.

Mackenzie found her first high at thirteen. In a house where co***ne lived on coffee tables and pills rattled in every drawer, saying no wasn't really an option. Especially when your own father was your dealer.

But the drugs were just preparing her for something worse.

The night before her wedding in 1979, everything changed. She woke up confused, her body aching in ways that didn't make sense. Then the horrible understanding crashed over her.

Her father had r***d her.

Not a stranger in an alley. Not some Hollywood predator. The man who was supposed to protect her had taken something that could never be given back.

What do you do when your whole world collapses in one moment? When the person you're supposed to trust most becomes the person you fear? When love and violence get tangled together so tight you can't tell them apart?

Mackenzie did what countless survivors do. She survived the only way she knew how.

She got higher.

The pills and powder weren't just numbing the pain anymore. They were erasing entire days. Entire months. The trauma had carved out a hole inside her that seemed impossible to fill.

And it didn't stop with that one night.

For years afterward, the abuse continued. Her father manipulated her addiction, her career, her desperate need for his approval. She was trapped in a nightmare that wore the mask of family.

She's described those years with heartbreaking honesty - how impossible it was to process what was happening. How the drugs made everything blurry. How she blamed herself for things no child should ever have to carry.

By 1980, her world was crumbling publicly. She showed up to "One Day at a Time" sets high. Missed filming days. Finally got fired from the show that had made her famous.

The headlines painted her as just another child star gone wrong. Party girl. Drug problem. Wasted talent.

They had no idea she was fighting for her life.

The 1980s and 90s became a blur of arrests, failed rehab attempts, and rock bottoms that kept finding lower floors. She'd get clean for a few months, then crash harder than before.

Her father died in 2001, taking his secrets with him. Or so everyone thought.

For eight more years, Mackenzie carried that weight alone. The trauma. The guilt. The impossible complexity of loving someone who had destroyed you.

Then in 2009, she decided she was done hiding.

Her memoir "High on Arrival" hit shelves like a bomb. She told everything. The r**e. The years of abuse. The addiction that followed. The career that crumbled. The family that looked perfect from the outside while rotting from within.

Some people believed her immediately. Survivors recognized their own stories in her words. They understood that kind of courage - speaking truth when the whole world might turn against you.

Others couldn't handle it. How could she accuse a dead man? How could she destroy a musical legend's legacy? Why didn't she speak sooner?

But Mackenzie had learned something important in recovery. Other people's comfort wasn't her responsibility anymore. Her healing was.

She kept speaking. At events. In interviews. To other survivors who reached out with their own buried secrets. She became living proof that you can survive the unthinkable and still find a way to help others.

Today, she's been sober for years. Not because the pain went away, but because she finally found tools strong enough to carry it.

She turned her father's greatest crime into her greatest weapon - truth. Raw, uncomfortable, life-saving truth.

Every time she shares her story, she's telling other survivors something crucial: You are not alone. You are not broken. You can survive this too.

That takes the kind of courage most of us will never understand. The courage to break silence when silence feels safer. To choose healing when hiding feels easier.

Mackenzie Phillips lost her childhood, her career, and decades of her life to trauma and addiction. But she found something her father could never take away.

Her voice.


~Forgotten Stories

02/04/2026

Ok Y'all this is a very inspiring guy, Drew Baldridge you need to sit your ass down and watch this beautiful video by Kara.
This shines out kindness, humbleness, a real kind Soul.

My bride and I got to see this guy live in Belfast, just him and a Geetar, telling stories and songs. A real down to earth dude. Listen to his story, let it inspire you to keep fighting for your dreams.

Let your light shine like Drew Baldridge. 😎

I have won an award. Thank you to whoever all nominated me, I am very surprised. I am happy working in the background wi...
19/03/2026

I have won an award. Thank you to whoever all nominated me, I am very surprised. I am happy working in the background with clients and helping them become the best version of themselves, but this is an unusual time for me to celebrate me being me, which I encourage clients to do. I’m truly honoured to receive this award, and proud to be recognised for the work I care deeply about. I enjoy supporting people with compassion, understanding, and a safe space to heal. Compassion is at the heart of everything I do, so I am especially happy to have won an award that recognises my compassion.

Thank you for trusting Inspired Counselling Services with your journey.

��I am the winner of Most Compassionate One-To-One Counselling Service 2025 – Co. Antrim at the SME News Northern IrelandAwards. ��https://smenews.digital/winners/inspired-counselling-services/

��Have a look at my website here. �https://www.inspiredcounsellingservices.co.uk/

Inspiration for a Monday. Be you.
02/03/2026

Inspiration for a Monday.
Be you.

They called him too weak to lead. Then he asked one simple question that ended a thirty-year war.
Jimmy Carter never matched America's idea of a strong president.
He carried his own bags. Wore cardigan sweaters in the Oval Office. Asked people to turn down their thermostats. He taught Sunday school and spoke, in a quiet Georgia drawl, about humility, love, and sacrifice.
Washington called him weak. Opponents called him naïve. Late-night hosts turned his decency into a joke.
But in September 1978, that same quiet man did what every powerful leader before him had failed to do.
He helped end a war that had defined a region for three decades.
Since 1948, Egypt and Israel had fought four brutal wars. Thousands were dead. Entire generations grew up knowing nothing but fear and hatred across a shared border.
Every attempt at peace collapsed under the weight of history, grief, and pride.
The conflict felt permanent.
Jimmy Carter refused to believe that.
By then, his presidency was already unraveling. Inflation crushed families. Gas lines snaked around city blocks. His approval ratings had fallen through the floor.
Advisors begged him not to gamble what little political capital he had left on an impossible dream.
Carter ignored them.
He invited Egyptian President Anwar Sadat and Israeli Prime Minister Menachem Begin to Camp David, the secluded presidential retreat in the Maryland mountains.
No press. No speeches. No escape.
Thirteen days. One mission.
He told them plainly: We stay until peace is found—or until every path has truly been exhausted.
The talks nearly collapsed immediately.
Begin was a Holocaust survivor who had lost most of his family. He believed Israel could never afford weakness again.
Sadat had led Egypt through devastating wars. He believed his people deserved an end to endless funerals.
They wouldn't sit together. They shouted through messengers. They stormed out of meetings.
Carter's own team urged him to end the summit quietly before it destroyed what remained of his presidency.
Carter refused.
Each night, he walked alone through the woods. He prayed. He wrote letters by hand. He stopped thinking like a politician trying to survive and started thinking like a human being trying to heal something broken.
On the eleventh day, Begin announced he was leaving. The talks were over.
Carter went to Begin's cabin with a small request: Would he sign a few photographs for Carter's grandchildren?
As Begin carefully wrote each child's name, Carter spoke softly. Not about politics. Not about pressure.
About legacy.
About what remains when power fades.
About the stories we tell the children who come after us.
Then Carter asked one quiet question:
"What will you tell your grandchildren about this moment?"
Begin stayed.
Two days later, on September 17, 1978, Sadat and Begin signed the Camp David Accords.
The Sinai Peninsula was returned to Egypt. Diplomatic relations were established. A framework for peace replaced decades of bloodshed.
The border violence stopped.
Sadat and Begin received the Nobel Peace Prize. Jimmy Carter did not.
Within months, his presidency collapsed under the weight of the Iran hostage crisis. Fifty-two Americans were held for 444 days.
Carter refused to sacrifice their lives for political theater or reckless force.
History would later honor that restraint—but voters did not.
In November 1980, he lost the presidency in a landslide. The hostages were released minutes after Ronald Reagan was sworn in.
The story seemed settled: Jimmy Carter, the failed president.
But Carter wasn't finished.
He returned to Plains, Georgia. To the same modest home. To teaching Sunday school.
Then he picked up a hammer and joined Habitat for Humanity—not symbolically, but physically. For decades, he built houses with his own hands, sweating under the sun, climbing ladders into his eighties and nineties.
He founded the Carter Center. Fought neglected diseases.Monitored fragile elections. Mediated conflicts others wouldn't touch.
He lived simply. He showed up.
In 2002—twenty-two years after voters rejected him—the Nobel Committee finally recognized what time had revealed.
Jimmy Carter received the Nobel Peace Prize for a lifetime of humanitarian work.
In 2015, doctors told him cancer had spread to his brain and liver. He smiled calmly and said he was at peace with whatever came.
The cancer went into remission. Carter went back to work.
On December 29, 2024, James Earl Carter Jr. died at home in Plains, Georgia. He was 100 years old.
By then, history had reversed its verdict.
The Camp David Accords still held—nearly half a century of peace between Egypt and Israel. Entire generations alive because one man refused to accept that failure was inevitable.
Jimmy Carter never ruled through fear. He never confused cruelty with strength.
He believed leadership meant appealing to the best in people—even when it cost him power.
Once, he asked two bitter enemies what they would tell their grandchildren.
That question saved lives.
The man they called too weak left behind something rarer than dominance.
He left proof that moral courage, relentless service, and quiet kindness can outlast every headline—and rewrite every judgment made in haste.
He did not always win.
But he changed the world.

02/03/2026

Do you have little or no friends, and are you misunderstanding the situation and giving yourself a hard time? Give this a listen. 👍🏼

28/02/2026

Hey Guys, what are you up to today? Are you off work relaxing at home, out a walk, binging a good show, going a short cold blast on your motorbike, or just petting the dog?

Maybe you are working over the weekend? Is it work you are ok with? Is it annoying? Are you feeling tired?

With this video, I created it primarily for listening with your eyes closed, letting your other senses, feelings, emotions, somatics, resonate with you.

So, I recommend you watch it once right through to the end, then you know you are not missing anything lol, then watch it again, with your eyes closed, and just notice what you feel.

I hope you enjoy your weekend whatever you are at.
Stephen

www.inspiredcounsellingservices.co.uk

21/02/2026

This man is indeed pure inspiration, even now at 78 years old. A reminder you can be a good guy or gal and still succeed in life.

This is an older post but is still reacting well with people, so I've posted it again.
19/02/2026

This is an older post but is still reacting well with people, so I've posted it again.

08/02/2026

I am very privileged to be in a room with clients when they have sudden, beautiful, scary, caring, confusing, little moments, of realisation, empowerment, love for their younger selves, whatever it is, it happens in the quietness, safety, confidentiality, of a therapy room.

This is inspiration. I want to say whats stopping you? But us Bikers dont think right lol
05/12/2025

This is inspiration.
I want to say whats stopping you?
But us Bikers dont think right lol

“I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes aged 27. The whole process leading up to the diagnosis was pretty tough. That year had actually been one of my best racing seasons. I was leading the British Superstock 1000 Championship and everything felt like it was heading in the right direction. Toward the end of the season, things started to change. I kept quiet about it and convinced myself it would pass. I was so focused on the championship that I pushed through and did my best, eventually finishing 4th.

“Once the season ended, things went downhill quickly. Some days I struggled just to get out of bed, let alone train or carry out day-to-day tasks. I went to the doctor several times but couldn’t seem to get the support I needed. At one point I was told to come back in three months if I still felt the same. At the time, I felt like I could barely last three days.

“I already had plans to head home to Australia for Christmas, and by the time I got there my condition had worsened. It was obvious to my parents that something was seriously wrong. Even though we live in a fairly remote town, they encouraged me to see a doctor. I thought it would be a waste of time, but blood tests were taken and within hours I was being rushed to the nearest hospital. That’s when this whole journey really began.

“Racing after my diagnosis was challenging, and it definitely had its moments. My biggest worry at the time was that I had just signed my first major contract with a factory team, something I had worked toward my entire life. My race licence was revoked after the diagnosis. It felt like everything I’d worked for was slipping away, through no fault of my own.

“Over the following months, I had to quickly learn and adapt, and thankfully I was able to demonstrate that I had my condition under control. My licence was reinstated just in time for the opening round. Since then, much of my approach to managing diabetes while racing has come down to trial and error, figuring out what works best for me and building routines that keep everything as controlled as possible.

“Looking ahead, my main goal is to compete in the World Endurance Championship. Pushing my mind and body to their limits in these races is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but also the most rewarding. Showing what’s still possible while living with diabetes is a huge motivator for me. Alongside that, I’m still very determined to compete at the highest level in the British Championship. Getting back on the top step as a type 1 diabetic is a major personal goal. I want to use these challenges to reach a wider audience, everyday people living with diabetes, and show that pushing boundaries is possible.

“My message to anyone, with or without type 1, is that it doesn’t have to be seen as a limitation or something that stops you from living your life. Of course, it can be tough and there are challenging moments every day, but it shouldn’t prevent anyone from pursuing their goals. No matter how big or small, no one should let diabetes stop them from making the most of life and chasing what matters to them.”

Brayden Elliott, who lives with type 1 diabetes and races motorcycles professionally, recently shared his incredible story with us. His message of resilience through life’s challenges is totally inspiring, and we hope you’ll enjoy it too!

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Counselling with me allows you to take time out from this crazy and fast paced world, to sit and think, cry, shout, whatever you need to do, in a discreet, safe, confidential, warm and friendly environment. Everything we do will be at your pace, and your style, for you.

Counselling with me is integrative counselling with psychodynamic techniques at its core. Make peace with the past in your mind, to live in peace in this moment, and look forward with confidence. I will walk beside you and give you 100% in each session, it is the way I am. Mindfulness is incorporated if you wish, to enable you to sit with your feelings, and in time, watch the feelings you do not want drift away. I have many clients in my private practice, from 11 years old to elderly, with different issues, different religions, different cultural backgrounds, from different countries, and we have either worked long term (over 1 year), or short term (6 weeks), depending on their reason for coming to counselling. Two clients are never the same so therapy is tailored to your individual need.

I have experience as a counsellor in a school setting for over 3 years with 11yr olds up to 18 yr olds. I have also worked in an adults homeless hostel for 3 years. Both of theses settings have included clients with mental health issues, alcohol addictions, drug addictions, both illegal and prescription related, su***de, self harm, bullying, gambling addictions, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, grief, trauma and much more.

At my counselling room in Cullybackey, there is regular bus routes, and the train station is only 5-7 minutes walking distance away, which makes it extremely accessible from Derry/Londonderry, Belfast or wherever you wish to come from. Thank you for taking the time to read about my counselling style, and I hope to hear from you soon. Stephen.