Zen with Jen Healing Therapies

21/12/2025

There have been big energetic shifts over the past few weeks. Many people are feeling it, especially within the masculine energy that lives in all of us.

A lot of men have been “heating up” during this time. Frustration, intensity, and pressure have been rising to the surface. This isn’t random. It’s part of a deeper transformation taking place.

What’s significant is that the feminine has been forced to step up through deeply challenging and often painful times, finding voice, strength, and visibility just to be seen and heard. That rising became a mirror for the masculine. Not to compete with, but to awaken.

When the masculine meets the feminine at the same level, with honesty and emotional presence, something shifts. Old structures based on dominance, suppression, or avoidance can no longer hold. What we’re witnessing now is a deflation of the wounded masculine. Not a weakening, but a humbling. An invitation to mature and lead from integrity rather than control.

This is uncomfortable work. It can feel like uncertainty, pressure, or a loss of identity. But it is necessary.

The emerging masculine is not loud. It is grounded, emotionally available, and accountable. It listens, holds space, and takes responsibility without overpowering.

This moment coincides with the winter solstice, the deepest point of darkness in the year. The solstice brings a pause. A clearing. A reset. As the light begins to return, so does a more intentional form of confidence and direction. One rooted in truth rather than habit.

The real change isn’t happening out there. It’s happening within.

18/12/2025

17/12/2025

Pause, breathe and let your eyes rest on the card you feel drawn to.

Top cards from left are 1-4
Bottom cards from left are 5-8

Comment your choice and I’ll reveal your personal message in the comments

16/12/2025

Ever catch yourself saying,
“I just need to get out of my own way”?

That’s fear talking.
A mental prison built on the belief: “I always mess things up.”

Until you make the unconscious conscious, those blind spots will run your life, and you’ll call it fate.

But here’s the truth:
Everything you do leads to results.

Your thoughts and feelings are often the byproduct of your constraints.
And without awareness, you don’t transcend them, you simply become the most perfected version of your limited self.

26/11/2025

Do you ever notice how your body reacts when things feel threatening? You might catch yourself in fight mode, feeling fiery, defensive, maybe even snapping at someone. Your brain’s basically going, “I’ve got this, back off!”

Or maybe it’s flight mode, where you suddenly want to run, escape, avoid, or distract yourself. Your inner voice is screaming, “Get me outta here!”

Sometimes it’s freeze, you feel stuck, numb, or like you can’t move at all. It’s your body saying, “Maybe if I don’t move, they won’t see me.”

Then there’s fawn, where you find yourself people-pleasing or appeasing to keep the peace .. “let’s not upset anyone”

Or maybe you just get flooded, overwhelmed by feelings, sensations, or panic. Everything feels like too much, and your system is spiralling.

And sometimes it’s fatigue or collapse, you feel drained, exhausted, maybe even shut down. After all that fighting, fleeing, or freezing, your body literally runs out of steam.

Here’s the thing: all of this is totally normal. Your nervous system is just trying to keep you safe. Next time you notice one of these reactions, try giving yourself a little nod: “Ah, that’s my body protecting me. I see you, I hear you.”

24/11/2025

Life can throw all kinds of things at us.
As a counsellor, I hear so much, people holding in emotions, trying to stay strong, and sometimes wanting to scream but never letting themselves.

Well, I say SCREAM.

Scream in a forest where no one can hear you.
Bury your face in a pillow and let it out.

It won’t take away what you’re going through,
but it will release some of the pressure you’re carrying.

You don’t always have to hold it together.
Sometimes, letting it out is the first step to breathing again.

15/11/2025

We accept what we think we deserve ..
Sometimes the hardest part of growth is realising that the standards we’ve settled for were shaped by old versions of ourselves.

When you start believing you deserve better, better love, better boundaries, better opportunities, you naturally stop accepting less.

What is your belief system saying?

29/10/2025

Many trauma survivors don’t appear “broken.”
On the outside, they look capable, driven, and caring. The ones who hold everything together.

But behind that strength is often a story.
A child who believed love had to be earned becomes the adult who never feels enough.
A child who grew up in chaos becomes the adult who must control every detail to feel safe.
A child who felt unseen becomes the caregiver who meets everyone’s needs except their own.

These responses were never flaws, they were brilliant survival strategies that protected you when you had no other choice.

But as we grow into adults and life changes, those same protections can keep you trapped and disconnected from your body, your needs and peace.

Healing isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong.” It’s about understanding what happened, and offering the parts of you that learned to survive a sense of safety to finally rest.

So when you notice those patterns, meet them with curiosity because every survival strategy once had a purpose. And seeing it with compassion is how it begins to loosen its grip.