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JHR Counselling - Relationship Counsellor

I am an experienced Counsellor offering support to couples & Individuals. Check me out on Instagram www.instagram.com/jhrcounselling

23/07/2025

Set the scene: You're in the middle of an argument with your partner, emotions are high and voices are raised.

How much of what they are saying are you actually listening too?

Often heated discussions and arguments, or repeated discussions and arguments can be a little bit like a game of tennis. Each person shoots back whatever statement or comment they feel best supports their argument.

If this tends to be the pattern of your arguments then its time to step back and make a change.

Arguments are normal, they offer an opportunity to get high emotions and differences of opinion off of ours chests, yet when they get like this they just become a game of who can hit the hardest.

It's time to stop and listen, arguments are a sign that you need to hear your partner and they need to hear you, so step back and listen. Take a breath before you answer and try to respond to what they are saying as oppose to whatever comment will offer the best defense.

Eventually if you do this often enough your partner will notice and start to mirror this behaviour, then you will have a chance to finally discuss the issue and solve it 😉

For further support & advice, head to my website her you can book a free 30 minutes Zoom consultation 😊

22/07/2025

Do you feel lonely in your relationship?

Feelings like this usually indicate that something isn't quite right. Maybe your lives have changed and you are struggling to find your place. Maybe you have different priorities, stresses or concerns and they need to be discussed and supported.
There could be a range of reasons why you feel like this but more often than not, whatever the reason, you don't feel like your partner is hearing or supporting you.
I can help you to address and explore these issues in a way that doesn't feel confrontational or scary. I can help you and your partner work out the problems and look for solutions to help you both.

To book a free 30 minute Zoom consultation with me, head to my website where you can book a time and date to suit you. The link is in my profile 😉 x Jo

http://www.jhrcounselling.co.uk/

21/07/2025

Happiness comes in many forms and at many different stages of your life. The relationships you have should make you happy, of course there are ups and downs, but these should be few. Your happiness matters. If you need support navigating any difficulties in your life and relationship, counselling could be the answer. Head to my website to book a free 30 minutes Zoom consultation where we can have a relaxed chat about how counselling can offer you the support you may need.

20/07/2025

Cheating means different things to different people. To some people, flirting is harmless, the odd text or whatapp isn't a problem, but to others texting can be as bad as actually having a physical relationship with someone else.

If you are in a relationship you should be aware of each others boundaries. What does your partner think? Have you ever discussed it? Is it just taken for granted that you both feel the same?

It may not be the easiest conversation to have but its an important one.

19/07/2025

Does your partner blame you of the same negative traits you see in them?
Do you often wonder.. 'Is it me, or is it them'?

Projection Examples:

"You are so selfish, you never spend time with me you are always busy doing your own stuff!"
Projection? Deep down you may desire more time to yourself but feel this would be selfish.

"I have seen you looking at them, I know you want to cheat"
Projection? Maybe you secretly feel an attraction to someone else and the thought to stray is present.

"You never listen to me, all you do is interrupt and argue"
Projection? Do you listen? Do you interrupt? Maybe you find it difficult communicating in the way you expect from your partner.

"You never spend anytime with my parents and friends, why do you hate them so much?"
Projection? Do you avoid or dismiss their friends and family?

Projections in relationships can be devastating. Projection is where we fail to see the negative behaviours and personality traits in ourselves and instead projects them onto our partners, blaming and accusing them of displaying them instead.

We all have elements of ourselves that we don't like or would like to change, no one is perfect. Recognising them is the 1st step, accepting them and committing to changing them comes next.

18/07/2025

You have found a partner you get along with and can see a future with, and they have kids. That’s not a problem right? We all have a history and there is no reason why you cannot accept and love their children, but what happens when, for whatever reason, you just can’t get along with them, what’s more you don’t actually like them?

Trying to adapt and live with children can be difficult and when you are not their primary care giver that can be even more difficult. The most important thing here is that you have great communication with your partner and can talk to them and discuss any concerns or issues you are experiencing, but there are other golden rules that you should be aware of. Have a look at the below article that explores this in a little more detail x Jo

https://bit.ly/41ec5I6

17/07/2025

Life is full of relationships, romantic, family, friendships, colleagues... every connection we make with another human being forms a new relationship, however small.
Sometimes those relationships don't come as easy as the movies say they should, and sometimes they take work, hard work. We all grow, we all learn and we all change. If your relationships needs a little support head to my website where you can book a free 30 minute Zoom consultation with me and we can have a chat about how you and your loved one can work together to make things work for you.

16/07/2025

Avoidance can, at times, be easier than confrontation, just like denial can be easier than acceptance, but unfortunately these habits are only ever short term fixes and make things a lot harder in the long run. If you recognise avoidance and denial in your communication toolkit it may be time to stop and think.
Avoidance and denial are coping mechanisms usually developed in reaction to a particularly stressful event. However, in reality they are not the best way of coping. If you would like to talk through anything that is causing you problems, head to my website where you can book a free 30 minutes consultation.

15/07/2025

When you are with a partner that is excessively needy of your time and attention, it can be really difficult. As humans we are not meant to be with people all of the time, we need our own time, space and the opportunity to think freely. So being with a partner like this can often lead to a range of negative behaviours and outcomes.

However, there may be hope. Your partners neediness is much likely a response from their early experiences when they learnt what it was to be loved, cared and looked after. It may be that your partner is unaware of just how needy they are, how this effects you or how to change.

If you are experiencing similar problems it may be time to seek some additional support. Therapy can help you both communicate your needs in a safe and equal space, together we can explore the issues that you are experiencing and look to find out where they came from and importantly, how they can be changed.

To book a free 30 min zoom consultation with me, head to my website 🙂

https://bit.ly/4kl0w81

14/07/2025

Sometimes relationships need work. Sometimes you need another perspective, a different way and a place where you have the time and space to find clarity, together.
Relationships counselling can offer you just that and more. I can support you to clarify and meet your goals for your relationship and your future, offering you time, empathy and understanding.
Sometimes relationship counselling is the way.

13/07/2025

Let's face it, who has time for s*x?

Well, s*xual intimacy is a big deal in relationships, not only does it build trust, strengthen your bond, and improve closeness, its feel good and its fun!

If your s*x drive has taken a dive and you would like to add some spark back between the sheets then its time to address it. Think about some of these steps and ask yourself how easy it would be to add them into your routine.

However, the first thing to do it to speak about it, be open and honest, don't forget about the 'you' in your conversation and make sure your feelings are heard. Work together, understand each others perspectives and be kind. Above all else, remember why you are with this person, what your end goal is and work together.

If you need any support communicating about your s*x life or working through the issues that are getting in the way, then please get in touch. You can book a free 30 minute consultation via my website or message me direct.

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12/07/2025

Relationships are not all sunshine and butterflies but they should not make you feel silenced, dismissed or bad about yourself. Everyone has communication problems at some stage because we all grow and change, but you should be with a partner that respects you, listens to you, understands when things are not working and works with you to find a place where you are both happy x

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