Tranquility Tree

27/06/2022

It has been quite a while since I posted. How are you? I really hope life is treating you well.

The reason I have been so quiet, is that last May, I was unexpectedly taken ill and ended up in intensive care. I spent nearly two months in hospital and most of the last year recovering. It was a challenging time, but I am blessed with a wonderful family and friends that supported me and took care of me (and my husband and kids!). I feel so incredibly grateful for those beautiful people. 🙏🏻💜

The experience also gave me a whole new appreciation for my life coach training, which provided me with all the mindset tools I needed to navigate my way through such a difficult time. The old 'negative thinking me' would have gone into victim mode and spent a lot of time and energy on the unfairness of it all, focusing on what I had lost and feeling frustrated and sorry for myself.

Instead, what I felt was overwhelmingly grateful to still be alive, to get to see my kids grow up. The positive mindset I have cultivated over the last few years enabled me to focus on building up my strength little by little - being able to get from the hospital bed to the chair, building up the time I could sit for, working up to being able to walk to the bathroom. I celebrated each little milestone of my recovery and at each step I set myself a new target to achieve. Slowly but surely I got to where I wanted to be, I have my life back. 😀

Why am I sharing this with you? Because we all experience challenges in life, some small, some large, some earth shattering. You've been through challenging times in the past and you will go through challenging times in the future. Maybe you are in a challenging time right now?

The truth is, you can't control what happens in life. The ONLY thing you can control is how you respond to what happens. That is where the mindset you choose makes a difference to how you experience the challenging times - as a total disaster or as a something you can overcome (and grow from!).

How do you respond to difficulty? Do you feel like a victim, like life is happening to you? Do you get caught up in the unfairness and the 'what ifs'? Or do you accept what is happening and make the best of it? I'd love to know! Comment below and share your thoughts.

And if you are having a hard time right now, please know you are not alone. Reach out - my inbox is always open.

Now I am getting back to my mission, I will be posting thoughts and ideas on how you can navigate challenges with more ease and self-compassion.

In the mean time, may you be happy, may you be healthy and may your life be blessed with ease. 💜

17/01/2022

How are you feeling today? Full of energy and raring to go or feeling drained and run down?

The last couple of years have been challenging. I've noticed a lot of mental and physical exhaustion in those around me. So how do you pick yourself back up?

Self-care is really important - making nourishing food choices, getting out in the fresh air for some exercise, making time to do things that fill you up (reading, long baths, meditating, yoga, whatever works for you). It's important to make sure you are taking care of yourself.

Another thing that can help is regular reflexology. Taking an hour for you on a regular basis, to have someone give you some TLC, someone to listen to you, to have someone focus on your needs...

If you are local to Basingstoke and need some TLC, then book a reflexology appointment today. Email or message me and let's get your cup refilled. 💜

23/11/2020

Reflexology should hopefully be back from 3rd December - just waiting on confirmation from the Association of Reflexologists (the professional body I am a member of). 🤞🤞🤞

10/07/2020

Happy Friday! I am so excited that I can reopen my doors to my reflexology clients once more! 🥳

My professional body have provided me with guidelines to ensure I am Covid-secure, so I am just working through the required paperwork and protocols to make sure I have everything in place.

I plan to start offering treatments again from Monday 20th July. There will be some changes and I will be unable to offer day time appointments until my children go back to school in September. I will provide more details soon.

If you would like to book an appointment, then drop me an email me or send me a message to arrange this. Please ensure you use my new email address: karen@karen-dyer.com

Can't wait to see you again! 💜🥰

24/06/2020

Hello lovely people. I hope you are all well? I was really hoping to announce that I was able to open my doors for reflexology next month, but having looked at the details of the government announcement it doesn't look like I will be able to do that for a while yet. 😢

I also wanted to let you know that I have rebranded my business to add in self-empowerment coaching for women. So I will be closing this page down at some point in the next couple of months. I will still be offering reflexology but will be posting everything on my new business page, Karen Dyer - Self-Empowerment Coach, so please come and join me there if you'd like to keep up to date with my offerings. 😀

Stay safe, Karen x

Helping anxious, self-critical women learn to love and accept themselves, so they can reclaim their inner peace and live a happier life.

20/06/2020

Are you struggling with self-criticism? Are you always beating yourself up for mistakes you've made or worrying that you have said or done the wrong thing? The way we talk to ourselves is crucial to our happiness and well-being. If you would like to silence your inner critic and unleash your inner cheerleader I can help - download my free 5 step guide (link below).

I also have a free Facebook group to support women who want to build self-confidence and self-love, if that sounds like something you would benefit from them come and join me - Phoenix Rising - Igniting The Spark. 💜

25/05/2020

Is fear controlling your life?

When we are afraid of something and avoid it, it reinforces the belief that there is something to be afraid of. If this goes unchecked it can create a negative spiral resulting in us feeling unsafe all of the time.

This is how it was for me when I suffered with anxiety. As I avoided more and more things out of fear, the more things I became afraid of, so the more things I gave up. Inaction literally created terror in me. The more I gave up to anxiety, the more it wanted.

I had to take a long hard look at my fears and realise that they weren't real. The chances of the worst happening were low to non-existent. Then I had to take action, even thought I still felt afraid, it was the only way to prove to myself that there wasn't really anything to be afraid of. The more you face the fear and take action, the less of a hold it has on you.

If you need help facing your fears then I can help. Drop me a message and lets connect...

17/05/2020

So the next part of my adventure has begun, my business is expanding to include coaching. I will be winding this page down, so please come and join me on my new page and read my first post about why coaching is so important to me.

Hi, I'm Karen. I'm a Self-Empowerment Coach, Holistic Therapist and mum to two gorgeous boys. My mission is to empower anxious, self-critical women to build unshakeable confidence and unconditional self-love, so they can be the fearless heroine of their own story. Why is this so important to me?

For the longest time I was lost, buried under the weight of everyone else's opinions about me. Everything people didn't like about me, I took onboard and believed to be true. At school, in relationships, in friendships, at University – I picked up and held onto every single negative comment as the truth of who I was.

With each criticism I would hide that 'dislikeable' part of myself in an attempt to stop the world from seeing it and judging me. I ended up hating myself, telling myself constantly how worthless I was and how nobody liked me. I tried to hide so much of myself that I lost who I really was. I was afraid to let anyone see who I was.

Eventually, I crumbled under the weight of all my self-loathing and suffered with severe anxiety and depression. I hit bottom. I was in the darkest, scariest place of my life. It's hard to describe exactly what it was like. The best I can manage is to say it was constant, unending pain and sadness with no possibility of joy, peace or happiness. It felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel, no way out, no hope of ever leaving. I didn't want to die, but at the time it honestly felt like the only way the pain would stop.

Thankfully, I started to get some counselling and began working through the pain. I started to see the light again. My healing journey wasn't plain sailing. There were setbacks, other things happened that sent me back into anxiety and depression, but never as badly as that first time. As the pattern of anxiety and depression kept playing out in my life, I asked myself, 'Why does it keep coming back?'

Then I realised, whilst the counselling had helped me deal with the emotional side of my experiences, it hadn't changed the way I saw my self. I still didn't like me. I realised it wasn't other people's opinions of me that were the problem, it was what I had CHOSEN to make those things mean that had done the real damage. I had been stuck in victim mode, blaming other people for how I felt about myself. I had let them dictate how I was writing my story.

When I realised I had a choice in what I believe about myself, I was able to really start changing my life for the better. If I had CHOSEN to take on those negative comments and believe them to be true, then I could CHOOSE not to believe them. I could CHOOSE to believe something better, something more loving and supportive. I could write my story however I wanted. I could CHOOSE to be the heroine of my own story.

For me that is one of the most empowering things about coaching - making people aware of unhelpful beliefs that are holding them back and helping them CHOOSE something better. This is why I chose to train as a coach. So I could write a better story for myself, to help my kids write a better story for themselves and to help other women become the heroine of their own story.

You can't choose what happens to you in life, but you ALWAYS get to CHOOSE what you make it mean.

What are you choosing?

Karen x

17/04/2020

I’m concerned that, once lockdown is over, I may need a pedicure before I can resume having my monthly reflexology treatments. 🤔😂😂 What do you think? 😉

19/03/2020

Have you sorted your Mother's Day gift? Reflexology e-gift vouchers make a wonderful gift.

As an added bonus you can send them to your loved one by email, so no social contact required!

All vouchers will have a 12 month expiry date (which can be extended if needed).

If you'd like one, please contact me: karen@tranquilitytree.co.uk