The Trauma Recovery School

06/10/2025

We talk about how people-pleasing is not a personality trait, but rather a trauma response called 'fawning'. This fawn response is a survival strategy that our bodies have learned, often from growing up in abusive or neglectful environments. We discuss how to rewire this fawn response through self-awareness, inner child work, practicing boundaries, and assertiveness training. The key is to realise that people-pleasing is not who you truly are, but rather trauma programming that can be healed.

05/10/2025

We discuss how the need for approval from others can be rooted in trauma, leading to people-pleasing behaviour, suppressed needs, and unhealthy relationship dynamics. The key is to recognise this pattern and rewire it, choosing yourself and your own worth over the opinions of others.

05/10/2025

Sunday Reset: Your Next Step to Healing
Healing after trauma takes more than willpower—it takes guidance, structure, and tools that actually work. 💡

That’s exactly what you’ll find in our Masterclass Replay. Whether you’re just starting your journey or ready to go deeper, this session will give you practical steps to move forward.

🎥 Watch anytime here: https://www.traumarecoverymethod.co.uk/register

04/10/2025

We discuss the impact of trauma and the need for approval on our lives. We explore how the desire for approval can become a survival mechanism, and the importance of recognising whose approval we are chasing and why. The key is to heal our trauma and rewire our beliefs, so that our self-worth is not dependent on others' opinions.

03/10/2025

We talk about how trauma doesn't just stay in the past, but lives in our body, mind, and relationships. One of the speaker's clients was unaware of how much her nervous system was running the show due to past trauma. After just 4 weeks in the speaker's program, the client had a breakthrough and realized how stressed her body had been, and how defensive she had been without knowing it. The speaker explains that trauma recovery isn't just about talking or positive thinking, but requires working with the body and brain to regulate the system that's been carrying the trauma for decades. In just 4 weeks, the client is already regulating her thoughts and feelings, feeling calmer and more in control, and excited about her future instead of just being scared of it. The speaker reassures that if your relationships feel like hard work or your body feels constantly stressed, it's not because you're broken, but due to trauma patterns running in the background.

03/10/2025

"🎉 It’s Friday… and you know what that means!

✨ Bonita is going LIVE today!
Get ready for real talk, healing insights, and a space to feel seen and supported.

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02/10/2025

We talk about a client's remarkable progress in overcoming anxiety, overthinking, and food issues related to her self-perception and worries about what others think. By facing her fears in a controlled manner, reassessing her social circle and environment, and implementing a system for her nervous system, she was able to transform her life from barely surviving to thriving, grading herself 8 out of 10 in all areas.

01/10/2025

We discuss the formula for recovering from trauma and PTSD, which involves disrupting, desequencing, deconstructing, and reconstructing.

01/10/2025

Wednesday Wisdom: You Are Not “Too Much”
After trauma, it’s common to believe you’re “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or even “too broken.” But the truth is—your reactions are a reflection of what you’ve survived, not a measure of your worth. 🌿

Healing begins when you replace self-judgment with compassion. Every step forward, no matter how small, is progress.

💬 What’s one gentle reminder you give yourself on hard days? Share it with the community—you might be giving someone else the words they need.

30/09/2025

Breaking Free from Disconnection: Understanding Depersonalization
Ever feel like life is happening around you, but not with you? That “out-of-body” feeling is called depersonalization—and it’s more common in trauma survivors than you think.

✨ In this video, you’ll discover:

Why trauma triggers depersonalization and detachment

The brain and body’s role in this survival response

Practical tools to feel grounded, real, and connected again

Take the first step back to yourself. Watch now: https://youtu.be/FmaLyiSe07c?si=AXJSRo6j1eyXm5Bw

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29/09/2025

We talk about a client from Australia who experienced a 50% improvement in reactivity, anger, and anxiety after working with the program. The client realized that she had been living with underlying fear and anxiety for a long time, and that her negative beliefs about herself were not accurate. She is now more accepting of herself and recognizes her own strengths and value, which is allowing her to better serve her clients.

28/09/2025

We discuss how the body remembers the feelings and emotions of a traumatic event, even if it happened 20 years ago. The brain and body can become disconnected, leading to being triggered in the present moment and reacting as if the event is happening again. This is why traditional talk therapy may not be effective for healing trauma.