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Harmonise Your Heart www.denisedavis.co.uk Denise Davis The Heart Alchemist for Mind, Body & Spirit.

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During my trainings we were taught that children learn by imitation so the way you behave and speak is what has the easi...
15/12/2025

During my trainings we were taught that children learn by imitation so the way you behave and speak is what has the easiest absorption. I understand how for some kids this request for performance may cause anxiety but luckily many children have still learnt with performance basis as much of school learning used to be this way…

Entrainment… when you child is distressed ensure you’re on a good calm state so they can feel safe and entrain to your s...
11/12/2025

Entrainment… when you child is distressed ensure you’re on a good calm state so they can feel safe and entrain to your state…

Children often save their most intense emotions for their mothers because they see her as the ultimate “safe base” to release stress and be their unfiltered self, trusting her co-regulation (calming presence) to soothe their nervous system after holding it together elsewhere. Their nervous system literally attunes to the mother’s, and showing big emotions is a sign of deep trust, not defiance, indicating they feel secure enough to “fall apart”.

▶️Why this happens (The Science):
📑Safety & Trust: A child’s nervous system recognizes the mother (or primary caregiver) as the person they can fully trust to handle their big feelings without judgment or threat, allowing them to drop their guard.
📑Co-regulation: Mothers help calm a child’s distressed nervous system through mirroring (heartbeat, breath) and soothing. This teaches the child self-regulation.
📑Mirroring the Nervous System: A child’s internal state (heart rate, stress hormones) mirrors the parent’s. A mother’s calm presence is medicine; her anxiety can become the child’s “normal”.
📑The “Safe Field Effect”: When a child sees their mother, their brain gets a signal they’re safe to release pent-up emotions from school or other situations.

▶️What it looks like
📑“Saving the Worst for Last”: They might behave perfectly at school but have meltdowns at home because the tension has to go somewhere.
📑Not Misbehavior, but Release: The tantrum isn’t defiance; it’s the child letting go of stress in the one place they feel secure enough to do so.

▶️How to respond
📑Regulate Yourself First: Your calm is their medicine. Take deep breaths to signal safety.
📑Validate & Connect: Say, “You held a lot in today. It’s okay to let it out now”.
📑Offer Presence, Not Logic: Their logical brain is offline. Offer connection, gentle touch, and calm, not lectures.

Studies also show that when children don’t have this secure attachment to lean on, it negatively rewires the child’s brain.

So there are many ways to ground the simplest being to stand on the grass bare foot, to use a grounding sheet/mat/socks ...
15/11/2025

So there are many ways to ground the simplest being to stand on the grass bare foot, to use a grounding sheet/mat/socks or visualisation like a teee growing roots down to the core of earth and drawing up the earth energy… I have more suggestions in my book available on Amazon worldwide paperback and kindle.

01/08/2025

This is so true… as a primary school teacher in the past I used make time each day to help the children use their imaginations as it seemed they’d forgotten how to do it…

Yesterdays gratitude was thinking about an uncomfortable, difficult, upsetting or annoying situation and finding ten thi...
07/07/2025

Yesterdays gratitude was thinking about an uncomfortable, difficult, upsetting or annoying situation and finding ten things to be grateful for - I found 7 and then the ten daily blessings of gratitude which have to be different to the ones prior. It is good to look for the silver linings and I had a friend who challenged me at my hardest and most difficult times of my life to find them. I dug deep but did find them. Shame he passed shortly after I left living in Stopsley as he was only 50 and my best male friend - we brought out the bedt in each other and had good fun as well as tears. Very grateful for him being in my life.

Yesterday I went and met friends for coffee so it was a chance to put on a dress and make up - so grateful for friendships as they sustain my soul ###

Today’s gratitude is featured around nourishment for the body. Being grateful for all the food and drink I ingest and imbibe. Where it comes from who grew it delivered it prepared it sold it etc.

For the animal giving its life to provide protein for my body. Blessing every drink and food eaten. I have placed words under my water (ages ago) on either a coaster with a special message or the flower of life (it used to be on the container itself years ago but that become difficult when cleaning). In fact I may put words on the lid of my distiller and the jug and container I store my water in too… I will also think about what the food or drink provides for me ie Life…

I have also written my ten blessings and was particularly grateful for a good eight hours uninterrupted sleep - woohoo…

Teach children their voice counts in the world…
26/04/2025

Teach children their voice counts in the world…

Normalize your kids having opinions.
Normalize them asking “why?”
Normalize them saying “that hurt my feelings.”
Normalize letting them know it’s okay to cry sometimes when something is too much.

They are not being rude.
They are not being dramatic.
They are learning how to express themselves.

We can teach respect without silencing them.
We can teach boundaries without making them feel small.

Let them speak.
Let them question.
Let them feel safe using their voice with you.

That’s how they grow into adults who don’t let the world walk all over them.
That’s how they learn their voice matters.
It starts at home.

As an ex early years teacher I can vouch for the information in this post…
21/04/2025

As an ex early years teacher I can vouch for the information in this post…

“ Should my child be writing their name before starting school?”

This is a great question and one that gets asked millions of times.

To understand when children write their name is NOT determined by a date in the diary. Or a looming transition into big school.

School is a PLACE, not a marker in time when children must have achieved something by. We understand the worry and the societal expectation that a writing their name is required prior to starting school!

Please know this is NOT the case.

Ask the vast majority of reception teacher or Kindy teachers and they’ll tell you, that they don’t want children to start forming letters before they join their class.

There are so many other important skills and development that come first !

Please recognise and understand that a child writing their names isn’t an indication of how well they’ll do at school or even if they are ready.

Their body needs to be ready first.

To understand if children are ready to formal sit and write their name, ( even long after they’ve stated school) we firstly have to talk about SHOULDERS

Shoulders?

Did you know that shoulders are immensely important in children being able to write their name?

The reason being, that through natural physical development, children develop from the top down & inside out!

Babies firstly strengthen, neck, chest, they crawl and then come up to standing enabling them to walk. It’s a natural biological process.

Children also develop from the inside out- Their core strength, then their shoulders, elbows, wrists and FINALLY their fingers.

They develop what are called their pivotal joints!
Pivotal or rotary joints are
Eg Shoulder, elbow, wrist and fingers!

Let’s consider and pause for a moment shoulders are that low load, bearing joint and muscle that supports the movement of the arm!

Notice the image

Notice how he is holding his pencil - A Palmer & or emergent Palmer grip

This is an indicator that his control is being lead by his shoulder ( supported by his shoulder ) and moving to his elbow and not his fingers.

His shoulder is driving the movement of the pencil and not his fingers.

It’s no good us keep getting him to practice holding his pencil ‘properly’ or re adjusting his grip. It’s no good us keep getting him to copy our writing and form letters on a page. It’s not necessary to TEACH letters, children will do things when ready and interested.

Children have to develop the core strength, shoulders, elbows, wrists FIRST

How ?
How can we help a child then?
Oh my goodness that’s EASY

PLAY !

large gross motor play opportunities, activities and experiences are fundamental to developing those pivotal joints - before it progresses to elbow, wrist and finally thumb and fingers !

Enabling children to lift, pull, push, raise their arms, touch their nose, get dressed. Hold a spoon, feed themselves, hold a paint brush, crayon Dig, climb, pull themselves up, lift, carry, swing, dance, rough and tumble play, large movements, vertical painting, climbing ladders, etc etc

We have to stop the fixation of pushing our children to write and see and recognise that non of this quantifiable stuff ( writing their name ) is possible until a child has been given the opportunity to develop strength in these pivotol joints!

Reminder - Shoulders, elbow, wrist and finally fingers.

Children learn in so many different ways whilst being at home, nursery kindergarten or the childminders.

PLAY is vital to this natural process !

Sooner is not better
Hang onto childhood
Be a guardian of this precious time, children will have another 14 years in formal education 😳
Let them be little
PLAY is the way !

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We know how effective this can be…
21/04/2025

We know how effective this can be…

13/04/2025

😵‍💫 The Science Behind Why Hypnotherapy for Parents is SO Effective 🤯

Your brainwaves operate at different frequencies throughout the day. 95% of what we do (think of when you're triggered by your child) is governed by our subconscious mind. Here’s the breakdown:

🧠 Gamma (30-100 Hz): Peak focus & cognition, problem-solving, learning new ideas

🧠 Beta (14-30 Hz): Awake & alert, where you focus on work, stress and problem-solving

🧠 Alpha (9-13 Hz): Relaxed & calm, the state you enter when daydreaming or meditating

🧠 Theta (4-8 Hz): Deep relaxation or light sleep - this is where hypnotherapy happens, allowing access to your subconscious

🧠 Delta (1-3 Hz): Deep sleep, essential for restoration. Hypnotherapy helps shift you from Beta to Theta, where deep transformation can occur 🦋

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