Sorrel Pindar, Resilience in Relationship

14/08/2025

This week's blog post is about how boarding school syndrome shows up in relationships.

The survival personality the child created at boarding school gets in the way of healthy adult relationships.

So how can you and I support the change he wants in order to be able to enjoy a close, happy relationship?

The link to the blog is in the comments - enjoy!

10/07/2025

Why healing your marriage is good for the whole of humanity

It's a big claim isn't it?

But as a certain British supermarket says, "Every little helps."

Repairing a marriage has ripple effects which pass down through the generations and sideways into society at large.

Read the blog to find out more!

26/06/2025

Are you married to a boarding school survivor?

Is he shut down, behind walls and you feel like he keeps you outside?

Wishing he would change?

If nothing you're doing is working, then it's time to look at a different approach.

Find out more in this week's blog - link in the comments

05/06/2025

The problem with authenticity...

What does it mean to you?

Authenticity is a bit of a buzzword these days. I seem to hear it especially from men who feel they’ve not been their authentic selves for a very long time. So what’s the problem with authenticity? There are two problems with the drive to authenticity. The first is when we mistake unfettered sel...

14/04/2025

80% of millennials say they feel like they're not good enough

And I'm sure it's not just millennials

But how do you change that?

Self-esteem is a deep rabbit hole, where you're running in the Red Queen's race

To find out what on earth I'm on about, read the blog

https://www.sorrelpindar.co.uk/blog/how-do-i-stop-feeling-like-im-not-good-enough

04/04/2025

“In the end we started to avoid each other. Some days we don’t talk at all.”

It’s sad when you see a relationship spiral down to the point that the only way to stop the conflict is complete avoidance.

That’s how it was with my ex. We slept in different rooms, we cooked at different times and we could never be in the living room together.

If we did collide in the kitchen, it was always really painful.

If I only I’d known then what I know now, it could have been very different.

It was obvious that we had got caught up in a repeating pattern of conflict, but we didn’t know how to break it.

Will power just didn’t work. Because it doesn’t.

Yes there are small things you can do using will power which can help.

But the real power lies in understanding the origins of those patterns – deep in our childhood.

Working on the childhood roots of our communication problems makes lasting change possible. And this is what I offer my clients when they come to me with relationship problems and it helps them move from conflict or avoidance to loving connection and collaboration.

Right now you can take advantage of an offer to work with me to get a handle on those repeating patterns.

Relationship Kickstarter will give you the opportunity to get to the root of your communication problems and to plot a way forward.

It’s a three-session coaching package in which you can work with me 1-to-1 or as a couple. And right now it’s reduced from £495 to £95.

But there are only four slots left at that price.

To start your journey from conflict to connection, click the link and sign up: https://www.sorrelpindar.co.uk/relationship-kickstarter?coupon=SPRING95

Make sure you use the voucher code SPRING95 to get the package for £95

03/04/2025

How frustrating is it?

You think you’ve had a breakthrough. You’re speaking to each other at last.

But it doesn’t last, and within days you’re fighting again.

So you’ve begun to believe that no matter what you do to get the relationship back on track, nothing will ever stick.

Still… are you up for trying something new?

Most couples who experience relationship difficulties identify communication as the main problem. Things like:

• Dismissive eye-rolling
• Uncontrolled angry outbursts
• Fighting over small things like how to load the dishwasher

But what most of us don’t know is how to address the underlying issues which lead to the communication breakdown. It’s only by addressing those issues that we can learn to change the way we communicate and make it stick.

How would that be? Knowing that you could trust yourself and your partner to be kind and loving, even when you get triggered?

The truth is we can get to the bottom of why your communication is so dysfunctional pretty quickly.

What if you could spend three hours with me (that’s three one-hour sessions), and discover what lies behind the challenges in your relationship and how you can start to address them?

This is what we do in Relationship Kickstarter. It’s a chance for you to find out more about what lies behind your relationship dynamics and find out how to change them.

By the end of those three sessions, you’ll understand the ‘dance’ you and your partner are caught up in – the way you set each other off and how it plays out.

With a clear idea of that dance and the kinds of losing strategies you use in your communication, you’ll be well on the way to transforming your relationship from one which is full of conflict to a joyful dance of love, care and collaboration.

Right now you can have those three hours for £95 – which is a fifth of what it would normally cost.

But there are only four slots left.

Just click the link and sign up: https://www.sorrelpindar.co.uk/relationship-kickstarter?coupon=SPRING95

Make sure you use the voucher code SPRING95 to get the package for £95.

Relationship Kickstarter will introduce you to the art of 'relational' communication. This package is suitable for couples and for one-to-one work with one partner. During your three sessions we will: * identify the patterns of communication you are repeating as a couple which are creating problems....

20/03/2025

When are you gonna start?

Pots, painting, or listening skills – it’s all the same.

A friend told me about art students.
The best work comes from those who create every week.
They reflect on their progress and create anew.

Rinse and repeat.

Those who overthink don’t reach their best work.
It’s the same with throwing pots – the more you throw, the better you get.

Sound familiar?

I love this saying: 'be a progressionist, not a perfectionist.'
It’s the same in relationships.

Instead of overthinking, recognize you’re still learning.
Try something new this week.
What will it be?

What are you gonna try now that you’re ready to start?

16/03/2025

The secret to supporting a husband who went to boarding school...

Are you married to someone who went to boarding school and it's putting a strain on your relationship?

You might be wondering how you can help your partner to change the behaviour which is creating problems for you as a couple. Or perhaps you just wish he could be happier.

It’s not easy living with someone who went to boarding school. There are some things you can do, though, that you might not have thought of.

Read the blog and discover five things that might help you make a difference.

See the comments for the link 👇

27/02/2025

How can I stop the anxiety in my relationship?

Imagine being able to relax and enjoy yourself with your partner without fear of offending or upsetting them. How would it be for you if you could tell your partner what you need without being worried about being dismissed or put down for being needy?

When do you feel the most anxiety in your relationship? Does it come up when you have a decision to make or something you want to ask for? Or is it when you’re afraid of being criticised or worse still, being hit with recriminations for something you did last year or even in the last decade?

Some of us experience a lot of anxiety in our closest relationships and it can make things really difficult. If you have challenges in your relationship, there is only one person you can change and that is yourself. Your anxiety may be the best place to start!

In this week's blog I talk about why we experience anxiety and how to get it out of the driving seat of your life.

Check the comments for the link 👇