Men's Advisory Project

31/03/2026

We want to thank everyone who attended and spoke at our conference yesterday and of course thank the Department of Justice NI and Belfast PCSP for helping to fund it.
We'd like to again thank the men and their families who trust and have trusted us to support them every day.
We hope that we explained what you have gone through well enough to those in attendance to have them change behaviours, shift policies and make changes for other male victims.
Thanks again

30/03/2026

We are so honoured by the support and help we have been offered for our conference.
For our treasured delivery partners to the thoughtful, switched on professionals who attended today and offered their help.
With many thanks 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💙

29/03/2026

“If you leave, I’ll kill myself.”

Threats of su***de from abuser are not a rare occurrence.
They are used deliberately. They are used to:

- stop someone from leaving
- force them do ###x
- make them feel responsible for the abuser's life
- create fear, guilt, and emotional walls to control them

That sentence is all about control and power.
It's really effective.
So many men we help are staying because of that one sentence.

Please tell someone. Speak to the GP. Call an ambulance. Get help for you and, if need be, your children. Always speak to us. We can help you safely leave.
Housing Executive Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline Police Service of Northern Ireland

27/03/2026

Our conference on Monday - we're happy to be able to host the PSNI domestic abuse lead Chief Superintendent Kerry Brennan.

25/03/2026

With many thanks to Derry & Strabane PCSP for sharing this information and the The Executive Office for their work in producing them

24/03/2026

It is important that we work together to end domestic abuse.

Support and understanding should be provided to anyone who is a victim/survivor of abuse.

It is important we also recognise men and boys as victim survivors and know how to support them confidently.

RSVP to reserve your tickets to our conference.

QUB - School of Psychology QUB School of Law QUB Mind Matters QUB Law Society Ulster University Student Wellbeing Ulster Uni Students' Union Belfast Met SERC RapeCrisis Northern Ireland Antrim and Newtownabbey Borough

23/03/2026

We are relieved to see the McNally family receive some justice today for the murder of Natalie and Dean.

We know everyone was behind them, from the communities of Lurgan and Craigavon, to people all people across all of NI.

We had the good fortune of meeting Natalie's mum and dad, Bernie and Noel and having dinner with them before a domestic abuse conference being held by the Southern and South Eastern Domestic Sexual Violence Partnerships.

We were lucky to hear about Natalie's life and to understand more about the love they all shared as a family. We remain so sorry for their losses.

It is important to think of all we have lost with each of these murders. To see each person as a family member, as part of a community and to jointly feel this loss as a society.

Armagh, Banbridge and Craigavon PCSP Police Service of Northern Ireland Department of Justice NI Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline Victim Support NI

14/03/2026

These seem real and are frightening. Remember your abuser will need evidence of what they are threatening you with for Police Service of Northern Ireland or Prosecutors to act. Tell MAP, we'll record the threat and impact. Report as an incident to police.
Feel safer immediately.

13/03/2026

Do men tell their friends they love them?
Do men tell their friends they miss them?
We'd love to know your truth.
Let us know in the comments

12/03/2026

Non fatal strangulation is well explained here by Nexus.

What the excellent slides don't mention are the numbers of male victims experiencing non fatal strangulation.

Where this information has been collated in the UK we can see that male victims of non fatal strangulation make up between 15 -25% of incidents known to police.

It would be good to see dedicated mention of men and boys when discussing non-fatal strangulation in NI. We hope that this risk is being assessed adequately for all victims as it poses a high risk to significant additional harm or death.

If you or someone you know has faced abuse like this please contact Police Service of Northern Ireland for help and support.
Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline are available 24/7 for telephone based support.
Also contact Men's Advisory Project for dedicated 1-2-1 specialist support

12/03/2026

🚩 Threats of False Allegations

Anyone who comes into contact with an abuser may experience coercive control and psychological abuse, including threats of false allegations.

In reality, false allegations rarely go anywhere. In our experience, abusers often threaten them but seldom follow through. And when they do attempt to, they are very very rarely able to provide any evidence to support their claims.

However at the time these threats are made they can feel extremely convincing and frightening. What the abuser says they can do may seem very real, and it can feel overwhelming. These threats are another form of abuse designed to control and intimidate you.

💙 You are not alone. We have been supporting men dealing with these fears for many years.

➡️ The Police Service of Northern Ireland and the Public Prosecution Service are very familiar with abusive tactics, threats, and intimidation.

➡️ It is important to understand that evidence is required by police and prosecutors for allegations to become charges or convictions.

➡️ The Men's Advisory Project provides support to help counter these threats and reduce the fear they cause.

➡️ Any man working with us who is being threatened with false allegations can report these threats to us.

➡️ We will record what has been said and document the impact on the man, his children, or any boy being threatened.

➡️ We will also keep copies of any evidence of these threats.

➡️ We can support you in reporting these incidents to the police if needed.

💙 You are not alone. Support and help are always available. 💙

📞 The Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline is available 24/7.
As is support from Housing Executive
🚓 Police can be contacted on 999, 101, or via email.

📩 You can also contact Men's Advisory Project directly: info@mapni.co.uk

➡️ Please call or email and leave your contact details.
➡️ If you have a preference, you can request a call back from either a male or female staff member.

Men's Advisory Project (MAP) is a registered charity offering help to abused men across all of NI.