Counselling with Anne Kee

20/09/2025

Just a wee reminder to talk kindly to yourself…
Be your own best friend.
Charlie Mackesy

24/08/2025

I came across this online and felt it was really useful.
Feel free to share your thoughts?

We often imagine our biggest obstacles as things outside of us; bad luck, difficult people, unfair circumstances. But in reality, the hardest battles are usually the silent ones we fight within ourselves. It’s the moments when we know what we want, yet keep holding ourselves back. The times we repeat patterns we promised we’d outgrow. The countless ways we sabotage the very happiness we say we’re searching for. That’s what Brianna Wiest confronts in The Mountain Is You—the idea that our struggles aren’t proof that we’re broken, but evidence that we’re carrying pain that still needs healing. The book is shows us how our inner wounds shape our choices, and how to finally transform them into strength.

Wiest reminds us that the mountain is not something standing in our way—it is us. And because it’s us, we also hold the power to climb it. Here are some key insights I picked from the book:

1. Self-Sabotage is a Misguided Form of Self-Protection
Wiest explains that the ways we sabotage ourselves aren’t signs of weakness—they’re survival strategies we developed to avoid pain, rejection, or disappointment. For example, procrastination, avoidance, or even perfectionism may have once protected us from failure. But now, those same patterns stop us from growing. Recognizing this shifts the narrative: self-sabotage isn’t self-hatred—it’s misplaced self-protection that needs redirection.

2. Emotional Pain is Information, Not a Life Sentence
Instead of fearing negative emotions, Wiest encourages us to see them as data. Sadness, anxiety, and anger are telling us something about what we value, what we need, or what we must release. Avoiding these feelings only keeps us stuck. Healing starts when we listen to our pain instead of numbing it.

3. Your Subconscious Beliefs Shape Your Reality
Much of what holds us back comes from hidden, often unconscious beliefs: “I don’t deserve success,” “People will abandon me if I change,” or “I’m not enough.” These internal scripts quietly dictate our actions until we bring them to light. Wiest pushes readers to challenge these beliefs and rewrite them with healthier truths—because transformation begins with awareness.

4. Change Requires Grieving Your Old Self
To grow into who you want to be, you must let go of the version of yourself that only knew how to survive. This means grieving old habits, comfort zones, and even identities you once clung to. Transformation isn’t just about gaining something new—it’s also about releasing what no longer serves you, even if it once felt safe.

5. Your Triggers are Teachers
The things that upset or frustrate us most often reveal the wounds we haven’t healed. Instead of resenting triggers, Wiest invites us to lean into them with curiosity. Each trigger is an opportunity to understand where healing is needed. By using them as mirrors, we turn pain into growth.

6. The Mountain is an Invitation to Evolve
The metaphor of the mountain reminds us that life’s challenges aren’t punishments—they’re invitations to rise. Every setback, every fear, every block is an opportunity to strengthen resilience, deepen self-knowledge, and step into a higher version of ourselves. The mountain doesn’t shrink as we climb—but we grow stronger, wiser, and more capable of reaching the peak.

The Mountain Is You is more than a such a helpful guide to facing your inner struggles with courage and grace. Brianna Wiest hands you the tools to dismantle self-sabotage and rebuild from within. The mountain may be you, but so is the strength to rise above it.

BOOK: https://amzn.to/3UIhGSD

20/08/2025

12/08/2025

When you consider all that Viktor Frankl lived through, it certainly gives weight to his words. The importance of a ‘pause’ & ‘choice’. Choose well!

02/07/2025

Room Enquiry:
Does anyone know of therapeutic office space for 1:1 counselling for rent on an hourly basis in Downpatrick, Saintfield, Enniskillen & Fivemiletown areas?
Or thereabouts….

20/06/2025

You wouldn’t half guess I am a Carolyn Spring super fan?! Saw her speak live last year and her humility and lack of ego shone brightly! Being aware of my therapeutic limitations is key to ethical and safe therapy. But also the therapeutic relationship is key.

19/06/2025

Talking in a place of psychological safety can transform your life….

19/06/2025

We cannot change the past but by looking at it with a compassionate focus we can help more accurately inform & understand the present and help create a better, freer future….
One of the best parts of my job is being part of that journey to some psychological safety & sense of freedom….

29/04/2025

Next Group Zoom on Wednesday 7th May:)
Contact Adopt Ni if you wish to join or know someone who might?

A reminder of our Relative Peer Support Group - For more information and to register please see details below.

13/03/2025

So important that the relationship between therapist and client comes first.
Therapy backed by theory but relationship driven….. That’s my aim as a counsellor

05/03/2025

I am now doing some work with Adopt NI. This is a group I will be facilitating. If you know of anyone who could benefit, please phone Adopt NI on the number in the poster? If you follow Adopt NI you will see other support available and the need for testimonies for Truth Recovery Independent Panel.

26/01/2025

Keep it simple & just keep moving forward?
“Rest if you must, but don’t you quit”