Kristina Dorner Psychotherapist

Kristina Dorner Psychotherapist Feeling stressed, anxious or low in mood? I am an accredited therapist providing short and long-term therapy in the UK.

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01/03/2022
20/01/2021

Top tips to cope during the coronavirus pandemic.

Many people; therapists, patients, healthcare workers… may find themselves isolating for a variety of reasons to protect their own and the physical health of others. The following tips are there to protect your emotional health during this difficult time. Please change and adapt these tips for the guidance you have been given.

• Stay connected to others – by writing to, phoning or messaging others. Set up a “chat” so that you can say hello to others during the day. Keep in mind though that it might be overwhelming to be sending and receiving lots more messages so try to strike a balance between contact and quiet time.

• Strike a balance with screen times – we may all be looking at our screens more than usual. Screens can affect our eyes and our ability to sleep so try to balance screen time with reading a book, playing a game, trying out a new recipe or training your pet :-)

• Establish a new routine – routines are crucially important to our wellbeing as they provide structure, a sense of safety and control over the aspects of our life we can currently control. Your routine may involve meal times, work time, exercise time, relaxation time, social contact time…

• Get as much fresh air and variety as possible – have a window open as much as possible (given the Winter months) and move around to different rooms where you can

• Exercise – this is especially important for your physical and mental wellbeing, try to find an online exercise class or dig out an old exercise DVD!

• Acknowledge your feelings – most of us will be experiencing a range of emotions during this time and it is important to notice and acknowledge what we are feeling, rather than trying to push these feelings away. It may be useful to share your feelings with another.

• Do what is important to you – take some time to consider what is meaningful to you in your life; is it being helpful, being creative, being honest, being productive, being practical? You can’t do your usual activities, consider what you can do instead that is still important to you. For example, if staying fit is important to you and you normally go to an exercise class twice a week - think about what can do to stay connected with your value of staying fit.

• Try something new – many people are trying new activities, such as joining a new activity class online or learning a new skill. If this interests you then make the most of this opportunity, however, do not feel pressurised to do this!

Please note these organisations may be useful if you wish to talk to someone at short notice or if you are experiencing a crisis:

Samaritans – please call 116 123

The Silver Line (for people over 55 years old) – please call 0800 4 70 80 90

Shout (a 24 hour text based helpline) - please text 85258

20/01/2021
20/01/2021
11/02/2020

SLEEP- so important for good mental health!


An irregular sleep pattern can disrupt the body clock and lead to the loss of certain cues such as feeling tired in the evening and alert in the morning.

Daytime Inactivity can make it more difficult to go to sleep. .

Sleeping in the day will lead you to needing less sleep at night.

Drinks and other substances such as caffeine containing drinks (coffee, tea, cola), alcohol, ci******es and certain medications can affect sleep by making it difficult to go to sleep or waking you up in the night.

An uncomfortable sleeping environment such as an uncomfortable mattress, being too hot/cold, a restless partner or excessive noise may keep you awake at night. Studying or other paperwork in your bedroom may make it more difficult for you to “switch off” at night. Long periods of wakefulness in your bed may lead you to associate your room or bed with being awake, therefore making it more difficult for you to go to sleep.

An overly active mind or worries at bed time can lead to tension, restlessness and an inability to relax making it more difficult to fall asleep.

Sleeping too much can make you feel constantly tired, as the sleep is often “light” and non-refreshing.

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE YOUR SLEEP

Sleep diary

In order to build up an accurate picture of your sleep, it can be helpful to keep a sleep diary for a week or two. Complete the diary on waking. It may be difficult to give exact times of going to sleep or how long you are awake in the night (if applicable) but an estimate will be fine.





Establish a routine

The aim of establishing a routine is to help your body clock to get used to a set routine. Establishing a routine will help to regulate your body (circadian) rhythms so that you begin to “feel” things at certain times each day and establish a regular sleep-wake cycle. We do not recommend that you should go to bed at the same time every evening, as you may not feel sleepy at that time. However, you may find that when you start getting up at the same time each day you get “more” tired at a particular time of the evening and therefore naturally start going to bed at a similar time each day.

The guidelines below will help you to establish a routine. If your sleep pattern is very erratic, you may find it difficult to put them into practice all at once. Short sharp shock treatment works for some people, i.e. implementing all the guidelines at once, whereas a more gradual approach works for others.



In order to establish a routine:

Get up at the same time each day even if you have not had much sleep the previous night. It may be helpful to set your alarm clock.

Do not nap during the day even if you feel very tired.

Do not go to bed early even if you feel very tired, or to make up for lost sleep.



How to associate your bed and bedroom with sleep rather than being awake

If you have had poor sleep for a long time, you may find that when you get into bed, instead of feeling sleepy, you feel wide awake or restless which will make it harder for you to fall asleep. Subconsciously, you may therefore associate your bed/bedroom with being “awake” rather than being “asleep” which may make it harder to fall asleep.



The following guidelines aim to help you to associate your bed and bedroom with sleep rather than being awake.



Avoid using your bedroom during the day if at all possible. If you live in a bed-sit or in one room in a house or student accommodation, try to have a separate work area in your room, so that you just use your bed for sleep.

Do not read, study, watch television, or sort out the day’s problems etc in bed, as these are waking activities.

Go to bed when sleepy rather than at a time you think you should go. For example, if you think that you should go to bed at about 11.00, but do not feel sleepy, wait until you feel sleepy.

Do not be tempted to go to bed very early (e.g., before 9.30pm), even if you feel very sleepy, as you may wake in the middle of the night or early in the morning.

Turn the light off straight away when you get into bed.

If you are not asleep within 20 minutes, go to another room and sit and relax or read until you feel sleepy again.

Repeat the previous step as often as is required, and also if you wake up for periods of more than about 20 minutes in the night.



Try to follow this programme rigidly. It can take several weeks to establish an efficient and regular pattern.





Establish an optimal sleep pattern

An optimal sleep pattern is one that provides you with good quality sleep, few wakeful periods and a short time to fall asleep.



Your sleep pattern is optimal when it is both efficient and regular. By efficient, we mean that the more time you are asleep when in bed, the more efficient your sleep is. To establish your optimal sleep pattern, you will reduce the amount of time you are in bed; in order to increase the amount of time you are asleep. This can be done in conjunction with the guidelines in the above two sections, or alone.



Calculate your total time asleep on an “average” night.

Stay in bed for the time that you are usually asleep only.

For example: If you are usually in bed for 10 hours a night, but are only asleep for 6 hours in total, you should only stay in bed for 6 hours.

You may feel more tired for a while, but the slight sleep deprivation you may experience will in turn produce faster sleep onset, reduced broken sleep and a deeper sleep.

The time in bed can be gradually increased as your sleep efficiency improves (if applicable).


Reduce your sleep at night, if you sleep too much.

Sleeping for longer than you need may contribute to feelings of tiredness in the morning.



Cut down your sleep time gradually- either by going to bed 1/2 hour later, or getting up 1/2 hour earlier.

Be consistent in either getting up earlier, or going to bed later.

Do not compensate by getting up later or going to bed earlier, even if you feel more tired.

Review your sleep-pattern weekly, and continue to reduce your sleep time gradually until you are more “refreshed” on waking.



You may feel more tired for the first few weeks after changing your sleep routine, but in the long run you can expect the quality of your sleep to increase as the quantity of your sleep decreases.




Sleep Hygiene

Sleep hygiene refers to lifestyle and environmental factors that may be beneficial or detrimental to sleep.



The following guidelines may help to promote an improved sleep pattern



Exercise: Avoid exercise within 3 hours of bed-time, as this may waken you up. Exercise in the late afternoon may deepen sleep.

Diet: A light snack before bed-time may be sleep inducing, but a heavy meal too close to bed-time will interfere with sleep. Fluid intake should be limited.

Caffeine is a central nervous system stimulant and is associated with delaying sleep onset and it can cause wakefulness. Substances containing caffeine, e.g. coffee, tea, chocolate and coke should be avoided 4-6 hours before bed-time or during the night if you waken up. Coffee may contain twice as much caffeine as other caffeinated drinks depending on its preparation.

Ni****ne: is also a central nervous system stimulant and although many people say that ci******es help them to relax, the overall effect is one of stimulation rather than relaxation. Smoking ci******es should therefore be avoided near bed-time and during night time wakings.

Alcohol: is a central nervous system depressant, although it may speed up sleep onset, it often causes disrupted sleep later in the night as it is metabolised. A milky drink before bed can help you to feel sleepy.

Environment: Your bed and mattress should be comfortable. Minimise light, noise and excessive temperature during your sleep period. Your room temperature should be around 18[Symbol] C. Use blinds if necessary, ear plugs if you live in a particularly noisy place and are unable to get used to it and use a fan/ heating to control temperature.


Preparing for sleep

Establishing a set routine will help you to prepare both mentally and physically for going to sleep.



Try to wind down in the hour or so before you go to bed.

Include relaxing activities such as watching television, having a warm bath, listening to music in your schedule.

Avoid stimulating activities that may keep you alert; for example work, studying or planning.

Develop a regular order of doing things, e.g. locking up the house, turning out the lights, brushing your teeth etc. This will act as a signal to your body that it is preparing for sleep.




Problem solving strategy for reducing worries at night

Lying in bed at night worrying about problems can make you feel tense and prevent you from going to sleep. The strategy described below may help you to reduce worries at night, therefore helping you to feel more relaxed and allowing you to get to sleep more quickly:



Set aside 20 minutes in the early evening.

Write down problems or loose ends that you have not dealt with during the day

Write down possible steps to resolve the problems, or to tie up the loose ends; allocate time to do the actual work.

Consider other longer term problems which may intrude on your sleep, for example, emotional, financial or other worries.

Write down the first or next positive step of action to take and when you will take it.

If you cannot go to sleep or wake up worrying about a problem, remind yourself that you have the matter in hand, and that worrying about it now will not help.

If new worries occur to you at night, write them down on a notepad or a piece of paper, and ‘deal’ with them the next day.


How to deal with frustration about not being able to sleep

If you become frustrated about not being able to fall asleep, and worry about the possible ‘negative’ consequences the next day, it is likely that you will inhibit sleep further by trying harder to fall asleep.



Do not try too hard to fall asleep.

Tell yourself that `sleep will come when it is `ready'', and that `relaxing in bed is almost as good.'

Try to keep your eyes open in the darkened room and as they (naturally) try to close tell yourself to `resist closing them for another few seconds'. This procedure "tempts" sleep to take over.

Visualise a pleasing scene using senses of sight, sound, smell, touch and taste.

Try repeating a neutral word (such as "the") every few seconds.

A Relaxation Programme may be helpful. This should be carried out in bed at night. It can also be practised at other times of the day.





Relaxation programme

Concentrate on your breathing- Try to breathe deeply and slowly.

Repeat silently the words `in' and `out'- in time to your breathing.

Try breathing in to the count of `three', and out to the count of `four'.

Tense and then relax each of the following parts of your body for a few seconds

a. Arms

b. Neck

c. Shoulders

d. Legs

e. Stomach



Tense each part of your body for a couple of seconds, but relax them for ten seconds.



When you are able to distinguish between tension and relaxation, try relaxing, without tensing first.





Relaxation is a skill which takes time to master. However, it is worth persevering in order to gain benefit.

25/04/2019

What is Anger?

Anger is a normal human emotion that can be expressed by shouting, yelling or swearing. In extreme cases it can escalate into physical aggression towards objects or people. However, anger may look much more subtle, like brooding or withdrawal.

Some anger can be helpful and motivate us to make positive changes or take action about something we feel is important. However, when anger gets very intense or frequent, it can be harmful in many ways.

Anger can cause problems in many areas of your life. It may cause conflict with family, friends or work colleagues and in extreme situation to problems with the law. Often, people who have a problems with anger feel guilty about their behaviour, suffer from low self-esteem, depression or anxiety.

Some of the physical side-effects of intense or frequent anger may be high blood pressure and heart disease. Some studies suggest that angry people tend to drink more alcohol, which is associated with a range of health problems.

- Do you feel irritated, angry or tense a lot of the time?

- Do you seem to get angry more often than others?

- Do you feel your anger gets out of proportion to the
situation that sets you off?

- Is your anger leading to problems with your
relationships?

- Have you noticed that others close to you sometimes
feel intimidated by you?

- Have others around you mentioned that anger may
be a problem for you?

- Do you find that it takes you a long time to “cool off”
after you have become angry?

- Do you find yourself worrying a lot about your anger, perhaps feeling
depressed or anxious about it at times?

- Do you tend to take your frustration out on loved ones or people less powerful
than you, rather than dealing with the situation that triggered your anger?

If the answer is YES to any of these questions it may be that anger is a problem for you. Addressing your anger can allow you to live a more rewarding life.

Anger management can be addressed through individual therapy and is not just about counting to ten before you respond (although that is often not a bad idea). It’s about helping you to better understand why you get angry, what triggers your anger and about learning a variety of strategies for managing those feelings better.

Therapy can help with that. Please get in touch via info@centrallondontherapies with any questions or to book an appointment.

28/03/2019
28/01/2019

What is Generalised Anxiety Disorder?

Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is a common mental health difficulty. It involves anxiety, apprehension, continuous worry and physical tension experienced on most days over a minimum period of six months.

Individuals experiencing GAD may find it difficult to control worry about a number of different situations including work, family matters, personal responsibilities, finances and relationships.

GAD is characterised by a tendency to worry about minor or hypothetical situations which often leads to worry about the symptoms of worry itself; feeling anxious about getting anxious.

Individuals with GAD often find it difficult to control their worry, with at least three of the following six symptoms over a minimum period of six months:

Restlessness or feeling on edge
Being easily fatigued
Difficulty concentrating or mind going blank
Irritability
Muscle tension
Sleep disturbance

The anxiety, worry or associated physical symptoms cause significant distress and impairment at home and at work. For a GAD diagnosis, the anxiety should not be better explained by substance abuse / dependency, or by another anxiety disorder such as panic disorder, social phobia or obsessive compulsive disorder.

If you would like to speak to an expert please contact me via the link on my website.

Kristina Dorner
CBT therapist

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