Surviving Divorce

09/05/2022

This is sad but true.

The narcissist may leave you bewildered because you don't know what you did wrong.

You didn't do anything wrong. You just stood up to them.

If you're struggling with a narcissist and their toxic behaviour please get in touch.

I have so much experience in this regard.

Christina xx
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0787 294 2873

21/01/2022

It's estimated that 85% of the population suffer with low self esteem. This is particularly the case when you're going through a break up or divorce.

The vast majority of clients I see in my therapy and coaching practice struggle with this. Just like I used to.

With this in mind I've launched a new branch of my business - Dream Self Esteem.

Why not take a look at my website www.dreamselfesteem.com and my Facebook www.facebook.com/dreamselfesteem

Christina xx

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01/01/2022

Wishing every one of you a very healthy, happy 2022.

Wherever you are in the world, I hope you are SURVIVING DIVORCE. If you're struggling and need some support please get in touch.

NEW YEAR - NEW BEGINNINGS

Much love
Christina xx

15/07/2021

Breaking up with a Narcissist will test every last piece of you. No divorce is a walk in the park but this kind of break up is particularly difficult.

Emotional support in most cases like this is essential.

Often a true narcissist will stop at nothing to make life difficult for you for leaving them. They will even use your children as a weapon against you. A toxic narcissist will stop at nothing - using every dirty trick in the book. You'll think how can the man I've spent all these years with turn into this monster. Often the monster was there lurking in the background, but if his needs were being met in the relationship then it stayed hidden (most of the time). The divorce or break up triggers this narcissistic rage that is so difficult to deal with.

Sadly I have so much experience helping clients in these kinds of situations. If you're experiencing this right now then please get in touch. Let me hold your hand through this painful period. You will come out the other side with a strength you never thought was possible.

Much love
Christina x

0787 294 2873

25/05/2021

The break up of a relationship can severely damage your Self-Esteem.

Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. It’s how we rate ourselves as human beings, how worthy we feel just as we are. Self-Esteem refers to our acceptance of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. The word "esteem" means to regard highly or favourably. The story that you tell yourself about yourself will dictate the results that you achieve in your life.

If you're struggling with a break up or divorce then it will very likely impact how you feel about yourself. In the short term at least.

With that in mind I have created a course all about Supercharging Your Self Esteem. Its a 28 day programme designed to go back through your lifetime and release the blocks holding you back from really, really liking yourself. You can have a dream home or a dream holiday well now you can have Dream Self Esteem. With Dream Self-Esteem every area of your life improves.

Please send me a message or email if you're interested in Supercharging your Self Esteem.

Christina x

survivingdivorce.co.uk

0787 294 2873

07/05/2021

Sometimes it's so hard to let go.

You didn't want the break up, you didn't want the future you had planned to be snatched away, you didn't want to be without that person that you thought was so special.

These feelings are natural when you first break up, but some people are stuck in this place months, or even years later.

If you don't let go, you can't move on and find happiness again. You deserve to be happy, everyone does.

I've worked with so many people who thought their life was practically over after their break up but with some support and inner work they've gone on to be happier than ever. They move from their pain into a life of possibility.....and you can too! A break up really can be a breakthrough.

Let me help you cross those monkey bars.

Christina x

0787 294 2873

28/04/2021

Do you seem to have a repeating pattern when it comes to the opposite s*x?

Have you had a few different relationships but they all seem to be with the same kind of person?

Or are you bringing old wounds and hurts into your present relationships?

You have to fully heal and spend some time assessing what went wrong in your relationship so it doesn't go wrong again.

Everybody needs to have that pause, put yourself in a cocoon, before you move on or you may make the same mistakes again (and again and again).

Working with a coach in this time can have tremendous benefits because they can often see what we cant see. They can offer insights and perspective as well as healing.

If you want to avoid making the same mistakes again then please get in touch today. Let me help you to get some new bricks.

Christina x
0787 294 2873

20/04/2021

Are you a single parent now?

Although most people don't set out on this path, many end up on it.

It can be the one of the hardest but most rewarding things you will ever do. The bond that you establish with your children in this period can be absolutely unbreakable ❤️

Children are the innocent parties in break ups, they're just caught in the middle. In the vast majority of cases, they love Mum and Dad but now have to settle with just being with one of them at a time. Family life changes completely - often at a time of high conflict. It's a huge change for everyone concerned and they will need your support more than ever....when you are more than likely struggling yourself.

If you're finding it hard to cope then please get in touch. There are strategies we can use to make this period easier for all of you. Give me a call today.

Christina x
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0787 294 2873

06/04/2021

YOU WILL SURVIVE!

Even if your heart is breaking right now.

It's just a case of putting one foot in front of the other every day and taking baby steps. Baby steps can take you a long way...

You can more than survive, in the right circumstances you can thrive and be happier than you've ever been.

Christina x

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01/04/2021

Gaslighting

If any of these statements feel uncomfortably familiar to you it may be that you're being gaslighted by your partner.

This might have eroded your confidence and made you doubt yourself. Even if you were previously confident before. Day after day you're being insidiously worn down by the person who is supposed to love you.

It's not always easy to break away from a partner who is slowly dissolving your confidence and self esteem. But it is possible, if that's what you want.

Let me help you.

Christina x

0787 294 2873

23/03/2021

Are you breaking up from a narcissist?

Someone who is controlling, manipulative and toxic?

Most break ups are difficult and painful but if you're divorcing a narcissist it will be on another level.

I'm sorry to say that, but you won't be in for an easy ride.

You have been incredibly brave so far but you're going to need support to weather the storm. No storm lasts forever and you WILL come out the other side but please, please please get some professional help to support you.

A very significant number of my therapy and coaching clients have a narcissist in their life somewhere. They often think they are going mad but I'm glad to tell you IT'S NOT YOU! The narcissist has gaslighted you to such an extent that you don't know whether you're on your head or your heels.

Breaking up from a narcissist is not easy but working with someone who knows all of their toxic tricks helps immensely.

Please get in touch straight away.

Christina x

0787 294 2873

16/03/2021

Are you heading for a divorce or break up?

Does it feel like the end of the world? Is your heart breaking? Is this not what you wanted at all?
Even if you are the one who instigated the divorce it can still be incredibly painful. Guilt can be crippling. This can be one of the most emotionally difficult things you'll ever go through.

I can help.

If you're feeling stuck or struggling to come to terms with everything that's going on I can support you. I help people ease their divorce journey every day. I hold your hand until you come out of the other side of your pain. And you do, even if that doesn't seem possible right now.

Let me help you get through this.

Christina x
0787 294 2873

08/03/2021

Dates in your diary!

This has been the most difficult year most of us have ever encountered. If you're going through a break up then chances are it's been even worse for you.

There is light at the end of the tunnel now, covid wise. We have a roadmap and suggested dates for things to start opening up. At the weekend I put my first social date in my calendar for the summer. A beautiful week away with my most cherished friends to celebrate a big birthday ☺️ What dates can you start to put in your diary? What plans can you make that will help to ease what you're going through?

Plan something with family or special friends or a spa - anything that will lift your spirits. Sometimes the anticipation of an event can be just as nice as the event itself. It's a win-win.

Get your diary out now and start planning. It will increase your hope for the future and positivity. You will get through this and be happy again 🙂

Christina x
0787 294 2873

01/03/2021

In 2 minds?

Are you in a relationship but not sure if you want it to continue?
Are things ok/not bad some of the time but you feel unfulfilled, flat or even downright unhappy other times? Do you spend time thinking is there somebody out there more suited to me than my current partner? Is this all I can expect from love? Have I outgrown this relationship?

Not all relationships are meant to last forever.

Sometimes its hard to make sense of things and see the wood for the trees when these thoughts are swirling around in your mind.

Maybe you have outgrown the relationship, OR maybe with some tools and guidance you could breathe life into a stale relationship and make it stronger than ever.

You need to talk it through. To verbalise all of your feelings with a non-judgemental, supportive relationship expert. Doing this will help you gain clarity, help you see what you really want from a relationship going forward. Every relationship (unless its abusive) deserves to be given another chance. You can either kick start it again or you can walk away knowing that you gave it your all.

If you're in this situation then please get in touch with me today. I can help and support you individually and/or help with communication as a couple if that's the path you choose to go down.

We all deserve to be happy in our love lives so if you're not take the step and give me a call, we can work through it together.

Christina x
0787 294 2873

17/02/2021

Moving from pain to possibility...

As painful as a divorce or break up can be, it is also an opportunity for you to do things in a very different way. To learn different ways of being, to discover who you are really meant to be. It can switch on the light. It can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you.

With the right guidance and support you can move forward to a future that can be better than you've ever imagined.

No matter how painful this feels now you can recover and be happier than ever. If you don't believe me, please borrow my faith. This is absolutely possible for you.

Christina x
0787 294 2873

03/02/2021

Divorce is a journey.

Some divorce journeys are reasonable, amicable and over fairly quickly meaning both parties can get on with their lives separately.

Other divorce journeys are acrimonious, bitter, painful and drawn out meaning neither party can get on with their lives. In most cases of this type one of the parties is stuck and can't let go. They struggle to accept things so dig their heels in.

Your divorce may be the most painful emotional experience you've ever had. You feel like you're drowning. Your future feels uncertain and your life is in turmoil. This can be the case even if you were the one who initially wanted the divorce.

Wherever you are in your journey I can help. I'll hold your hand until you're feeling steady again. I'll help you to see that not only will you be ok but life can turn out to be even happier and more fulfilled than when you were in your marriage. I can take you from pain to possibility.

Please give me a call today if your journey feels too difficult alone.

Christina x
0787 294 2873

28/01/2021

Have you been blindsided by your break up?

It takes two committed people to have a successful relationship. If one decides that it's no longer for them the other one has no choice in the matter unfortunately. Accepting that a relationship is over can be such a difficult thing. You're in shock, you're in denial, you're in disbelief. How can this be? I thought this person loved me and wanted to be with me forever. The shock and pain can be immense, overwhelming.

Coming to terms and accepting that your future is not going to be with that person can be so hard. I feel your pain.

Working with a coach in a caring, confidential environment can help you process that pain safely. It can help you come to terms with what has happened. It can help you see that you can have a happy future without that person, even if you think that's impossible in the beginning.

If you're in pain now, please get in touch. I can help you to heal and move on.

Christina x
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06/01/2021