Belinda Shackson Counselling

23/04/2026

22/04/2026

I’ve often thought you are only as happy as the relationship you have with yourself, let alone others. As we gain awareness also of how we feel around people, do we feel a bit of dread to see them? Does it feel hard work to be around them? Do we tend to mask ourselves when with them, and how does it leave us feeling after….

Have you outgrown friendships, are they no longer right for the person you have become. It’s okay to walk away from someone.
Whether that’s in a romantic sense, friends or family.

15/04/2026

Triggers, probably an overused word these days. Not everything that upsets you is a trigger. You can’t control what you are exposed to, but you can control how you respond. Triggers are echos of the past and we can act disproportionately in the here and now. If you are too reactive take a pause, take some breaths and ask yourself ‘ why do I find this so uncomfortable’ Then you can respond with more neutrality.

It’s all data and it’s all useful. How can you respond differently, try a new approach consistently over time. You can break the negative pattern of relating. 🙂

11/04/2026

Give it a try. We have to show vulnerability to really talk about how we feel. We also risk an opinion or advice that’s not wanted. People pleasers really struggle with this.

If the feelings are deep and not routinely shared choose someone you really feel you can trust to talk to.

All feelings are ok, no right and wrongs. Also bear in mind that others don’t get to tell you how you feel.

If it’s an area that’s not familiar, you struggle with upsetting others, or not wanting to appear weak in some way, try counselling- safe, confidential, non judgmental space.

Enjoy your weekend- it’s a chilly one! 😬

077585 334 399.

09/04/2026

After working with relationships for a while now, this is one dynamic that’s often been presented in the room.

For a secure attachment we have to engage in other relationships outside of it. We need other meaningful connections, we cannot rely solely on our partner to provide everything we need. Women tend to have a small trusted circle of friends, this isn’t always the case for men.

If this is something you may be interested in, or just feel you’d appreciate a non judgmental space to work through some issues, get in touch. 🙂

28/03/2026

It’s far more common than you think, go, take it with you. You’ll be ok.

27/03/2026

Really felt this. ❤️

Go easy on yourselves because life won’t go easy on you.

Take care all. Weekend almost here.

25/03/2026

One of the most talked about topics in the room. ANXIETY

These are my tips to manage it, if you feel it popping up in a more generalised way. Hope you find these useful.

1- Reframe it, ‘What if ‘ to ‘Even if ‘ as it often attaches to the fear we won’t cope.

2- Name it. Something ridiculous is good, also to give us distance from it. ( Not now Hilda)

3-Don’t keep consuming information on it. Trying to intellectualise it doesn’t stop you feeling it.

4- Focus on the next 5 minutes when it feels threatening. It’s managed in minutes not milestones. Not everyday will be good.

5-Not every sensation needs fixing. You are a human being with human reactions to situations.

Take it with you and go about your day. 😊

20/03/2026

Lovely long walk with Mila this morning😍

Didn’t take one photo, just wanted to soak up the sun, fresh air and the bursts of colour.
It’s a time for me to be mindful, great way of setting my intentions for the days ahead.

Looking sunny tomorrow too! Happy weekend everyone, hope you get a moment or two to enjoy the weather.

(Mila post walk, her favourite place to be when the sun is shining)

16/03/2026

This is really useful. 👇 advice collated by Young Minds about parenting teenagers.

11/03/2026

One piece of insight I’m wholeheartedly taking on. Intending to slow things down, less urgency.
Not everything needs my attention. I’m going to be really mindful of this. 🙂

Does it resonate? Women are very good at multi tasking because we hold and rush through things to get them done. If everything feels urgent then nothing is.