Heartspace Counselling

29/03/2025

I have been working as a counsellor and psychotherapist for many years now and helped many people get their life back on track. I know how hard it is to seek help, and I know from my own struggles that it is completely possible to turn your life around.

I have worked in the NHS as a Cancer Care Counsellor and with NDADA and have a history of teaching meditation and mindfulness. I truly believe counselling is a privilege and I love it with a passion. I have worked successfully with issues of abuse, anxiety, depression, anger issues, panic attacks, low self esteem, and bereavement and more recently through training I have been able to go deeper into issues of trauma.

I work with a range of techniques and models and adapt my approach depending on what you need.

I will not waste your time, and a short conversation should help you decide if we can work together. I am a compassionate and professional practitioner and I look forward to having a chat to see how we might work together.

I offer a free initial consultation.

Please call or text 07443 647604, if I cannot pick up please leave a message - this is a secure line - and I will get back to you promptly.

You are also welcome to email me at fiona.heartspace@gmail.com

If you wish to read more please visit my website:

Adults and Couples Therapy - Anxiety - Depression - Trauma - Bereavement - Relationship Issues.

05/02/2025

Is anger a personality trait?

This article points out that it isn't. Whereas being neurotic for example is seen as a personIlity trait, anger is deemed a coping mechanism, a learned behaviour and therefore can be changed through practice into patience and love.

In our closest relationships, we can learn compassionate assertiveness, standing up for our own rights and preferences while respecting the rights and preferences of others.

04/02/2025

"Piglet?" said Pooh.
"Yes?" said Piglet.
"I'm scared," said Pooh.
For a moment, there was silence.
"Would you like to talk about it?" asked Piglet, when Pooh didn't appear to be saying anything further.
"I'm just so scared," blurted out Pooh.
"So anxious. Because I don't feel like things are getting any better. If anything, I feel like they might be getting worse. People are angry, because they're so scared, and they're turning on one another, and there seems to be no clear plan out of here, and I worry about my friends and the people I love, and I wish SO much that I could give them all a hug, and oh, Piglet! I am so scared, and I cannot tell you how much I wish it wasn't so."
Piglet was thoughtful, as he looked out at the blue of the skies, peeping between the branches of the trees in the Hundred Acre Wood, and listened to his friend.
"I'm here," he said, simply. "I hear you, Pooh. And I'm here."
For a moment, Pooh was perplexed.
"But... aren't you going to tell me not to be so silly? That I should stop getting myself into a state and pull myself together? That it's hard for everyone right now?"
"No," said Piglet, quite decisively. "No, I am very much not going to do any of those things."
“But - " said Pooh.
"I can't change the world right now," continued Piglet. "And I am not going to patronise you with platitudes about how everything will be okay, because I don't know that.
"What I can do, though, Pooh, is that I can make sure that you know that I am here. And that I will always be here, to listen; and to support you; and for you to know that you are heard.
"I can't make those Anxious Feelings go away, not really.
"But I can promise you that, all the time I have breath left in my body...you won't ever need to feel those Anxious Feelings alone."
And it was a strange thing, because even as Piglet said that, Pooh could feel some of those Anxious Feelings start to loosen their grip on him and could feel one or two of them start to slither away into the forest, cowed by his friend, who sat there stolidly next to him.
Pooh thought he had never been more grateful to have Piglet in his life.

01/02/2025

This is one you definitely don't want to miss, frankly it's relevent for all of us at some point in our lives.

He speaks with sooo much wisdom about this subject, I'll be listening to this again and again, there's so much to take away and practice.❤

Anxiety is a modern-day epidemic. In this podcast, Buddhist monk, Gen Rabten, uses his own experience of anxiety to explain how to deal with this debilitatin...

19/12/2024

Please look for me in the present
You won't find me in the past
There may be some wonderful memories there
But memories... they don't last
I'm here in every moment
I'm in every breath you take
I'm constantly watching over you
I watch every decision you make

I see you sometimes struggling
to be strong and a comfort to all
So I'm here to gently remind you
You can't always shoulder it all
Let me be the light for you
For I see the road ahead
It's paved with many new memories
So come with me there, instead

We can look to a brighter future
One that's exciting and new
Don't worry, you don't have to go it alone
I'll be standing right next to you.
It's an invitation I'm offering
To help you out of this sorrow and pain
Open your heart to new adventures
I promise you, life can be joyous again

Exploring a new way of communication
Let's experience the joy that it brings
I'll open your mind to the unexplored realms
I promise... you won't regret a thing
You have me as your very own 'angel'
Your guiding star... a guiding light
So take a step out of the darkness,
Let me show you a future that's bright.

~ 'An invitation from our loved ones...' by Dances with Dan: Embracing Grief from the book 'Embracing Grief A Love Story'
~ Dances with Dan: Embracing Grief

~ Art by Kürti Andrea

19/12/2024

Remember, you don't need...
to be merry and joyful this Christmas.
If instead, you're feeling blue or alone.
And you don't have to be brimming
with festive cheer, if you're struggling
to find your own.

The Christmas season can be especially hard
when loved ones are no longer around.
Memories start to surface, with certain
songs, sights and sounds.

Give yourself permission and space to
'feel your feelings', for every emotion
has its own purpose and meaning.
If you're feeling stressed, full of sorrow or pain.
Invite those feelings in, let them sit with you,
for a while, they are never in vain.

Let your tears fall,
release those sad thoughts.
If you need a hug, or comfort,
perhaps, tell someone you trust.
Give them a call.

Remember, it's okay not to feel ok...
After all...

Christmas is a time for love and peace.
And that includes being kind to yourself.
So be extra gentle with your heart please.
Acknowledge your worries...
Reach out and talk to someone, you trust.
For it may help, your pain soften a little and ease.

And if nobody has told you this today.

You are worthy,
you are beautiful and you are loved.

~ 'Christmas Blues' by Demelza Dhotel ~ Demelza Dhotel

~ Art by Nino Chakvetadze

18/12/2024

If you haven’t sent cards this year, or forgotten someone’s gift.
If you don’t have matching pyjamas or a festive family photograph.
It’s okay.

If you can’t find the energy to be merry and bright,
or your tree isn’t even decorated yet.
That’s really just fine.

If you don’t feel like watching your favourite Christmas movies, or honouring the traditions that you normally always do.
Don’t sweat it, my friend.

This year has been hard, for many.
Really hard.

If you can’t see a way to celebrating like you have in the past, don’t worry.
Just hang on in there, finding any joy you can in any little way.

Just make it through till next year.
One day at a time.

We need you.

Hang on in there.

You are loved.

~ Donna Ashworth from 'Wild Hope' ~ Donna Ashworth

~ Art by Jane Newland

13/12/2024

Sharing this reminder again for anyone who needs it at this time of year.

Take it one tiny shiny moment at a time.
❤️✨

13/12/2024

"The highest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. Pays attention to detail. Holds you in regard when making decisions that could affect you. In any bond, how much they care about you can be found in how much they consider you.” ~ Kira J

13/12/2024

You don’t have to celebrate the holidays like everyone else. Traditions are great IF they bring you joy. If not? It’s okay to create your own version of what feels nourishing, restful, and fun.
P.S. What’s your favorite non-traditional way to celebrate? (Mine’s watching Christmas horror movies.)

13/12/2024

These words spoken softly and gently to my self saved me today; “I know you’re doing your very best. I don’t need you to be any different than you are”.

How do you speak to your self, your nervous system?