Chalice Therapies & Workshops

28/04/2026

Beautiful time co-facilitating our annual Sheela weekend in Glastonbury with the beautiful Suzi Quatermass, Christine Watkins, Karin and others. Sheela gong sound healing journey went fabulously well, and with the beautiful vocals of Analee. My sounds and therapies will be travelling around the country this summer and autumn, also available at my clinic Chalice Therapies & Workshops that takes place within the magical Space Therapies, Stirchley Village.
John Roberts the Peruvian shaker and cow bell bought from your shop played wonderful!

27/04/2026

(From Buddhism FB page)

JAPANESE TECHNIQUE TO STOP OVERTHINKING
Master the art of letting go — Shikata ga nai

1. Accept what you cannot control.
“Shikata ga nai” means it cannot be helped. Not as defeat—but as wisdom. The more you resist reality, the more your mind suffers. Acceptance is the first step to peace.

2. Separate action from worry.
Ask yourself: Can I do something about this right now?
If yes—act.
If no—release it. Overthinking lives in the space where action is absent.

3. Limit mental replay.
The mind loves to revisit past conversations and mistakes. But the past cannot be edited. Each replay only deepens anxiety, not clarity. Let the moment end where it ended.

4. Ground yourself in the present.
In Japan, mindfulness is lived through simple acts—tea, walking, breathing. Bring your attention back to now. Overthinking cannot survive in full awareness.

5. Focus on small, meaningful steps.
Instead of trying to solve everything, do the next right thing. Progress reduces anxiety. Clarity comes from movement, not endless thinking.

6. Let go of perfection.
Perfection is a trap that fuels overthinking. The Japanese embrace wabi-sabi—the beauty of imperfection. Done is better than perfect.

7. Create mental boundaries.
Not every thought deserves your attention. Observe your thoughts like passing clouds. You don’t have to chase each one.

8. Simplify your life.
Too many choices create noise in the mind. The Japanese value simplicity for a reason—less clutter outside means less chaos inside.

9. Trust the flow of life.
Not everything needs to be figured out today. Life unfolds step by step. Sometimes peace comes not from knowing—but from trusting.

Overthinking doesn’t come from having too many problems…
It comes from trying to control what was never yours to control.

Let go…
because some things—Shikata ga nai.

21/04/2026

For mindful times the Malvern Hills, and town are great. Engaging with the elements:
- Malvern is famous for its springs and well waters. Visit the Malvhina water statue in town, and drink the waters
- Climb the hills, and notice the birds flying high. Breathe in the fresh air. Watch the clouds gently floating by
- Notice the soil, stone and soft grass under foot. Walk through one of Malverns many parks. Visit the ancient stone priory
- Be on a hill at sunset or sun rise with incredible 360° views. Feel the warmth on your skin

15/04/2026

Your Beautiful Life by Alexa

15/04/2026

Every infant is born with the ability to dissociate.

For some whose caregivers were attuned and responsive, it becomes unnecessary.
For others, who endured neglect or abuse, it helps them survive.

The problem is, this same strategy that once kept them safe becomes the very thing that makes them most vulnerable as adults.

Trauma therapist Lisa Ferentz shares how to help clients move from reflexive dissociation to genuine choice.

🔗 Read full article here: https://bit.ly/3P0igvf

15/04/2026

13/04/2026

Finding a simple, cost effective, no stress accesible environment like a coffee shop is a good tool to have in the bag. This can hit all the sensory markers in a good way. Create a routine, time to stop and be still, read a book or people watch, smell and taste the gorgeous aromas.

09/04/2026

Spring is such a beautiful season. Take time to notice colour, fragrance, textures and sounds. Listen to the birds - and feed them! Sensory connection can feel uplifting at this time. Take time out to breathe in the fresh air.

Box breathing:
- You may want to visualise a square in your mind's eye, look at a square object or hold something square shaped to help keep focus and direction.
- Breathe in for 4 - Hold for 4 - out for 4 - Still for 4.
- Repeat

02/04/2026

28/03/2026

Connection, support, and safe relationships are a big part of the healing process

If you want to support someone who’s struggling:

1. Listen without ranking.
You don’t need to relate or share your own story. Just let them speak.

2. Validate what you can’t understand.
You don’t have to get it to believe it. You can say, “That sounds really hard,” or “I can see how that would stay with you.” Those phrases go further than you think.

3. Check your instinct to minimize.
If your first thought is “at least…,” stop! Anything that starts with “at least” is usually an attempt to avoid your discomfort, not offer support.

4. Remember that pain is pain.
Someone else’s trauma doesn’t make yours smaller or less valid. Compassion isn’t a limited resource. You don’t need to take turns being worthy of care.

5. Be curious, not judgmental.
Instead of “Why did that mess you up so bad?” ask, “What about that moment felt so unsafe?” That small shift opens doors instead of slamming them.

28/03/2026

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit you walked through the wrong door.

Not because you failed.
Not because you weren’t paying attention.
But because you were willing to try.

But here’s the important part to remember: You don’t need to stay in a room that no longer fits just to prove you belong there.

You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to choose yourself again.

Growth doesn’t always happen in the big moments. Real change happens when you decide to stop shrinking yourself. It happens in the small, daily actions you take - where you show up even when you don’t want to, even when you’re scared.

Because you are not behind. You are not broken. You are learning.

And the moment you choose a room that feels more like you - that’s the moment everything starts to shift. ❤️

What’s one thing you’re finally giving yourself permission to change?

27/03/2026

As humans, we’re narrative beings. Our ancestors have told stories since the beginning of life. Telling stories is how we make sense of our life and what happens to us.

When we tell our story we shape neural pathways in the brain. The more we tell that story (to friends, family, or anyone who listens) the more those pathways become solidified. Meaning, the more true it becomes. What actually happened isn’t important. It’s the story we tell ourselves that becomes our reality.

People with high narcissistic traits have issues with emotional processing. This means when something highly triggering happens to them, they become emotionally rigid. They can’t see outside perspectives. They struggle to listen and hear another’s point of view. And if they’re challenged, they can become very aggressive or shut down. This black and white thinking makes their narrative skewed. They will become a victim, unable to acknowledge their role or unable to see a part they played.

Because people with high narcissistic traits have an addiction to external validation, they spread narratives to anyone who will listen. They cannot rely on their own knowing or internal experiences, they need people to mirror their version of reality back to them. This becomes delusion. Delusion is a fixed false belief. When someone has a fixed belief, they are the only person who can ever change that belief. Not you.

Your reality of the experience might be completely different. You may want to set the record straight, to argue your point, or to prove them wrong. But, safe yourself the cortisol spike. Unsubscribe. Silence is your most powerful response because it keeps your body regulated and it’s the best boundary you have.

Trust the truth. Protect your body and nervous system. Gift yourself the power of peace.

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