14/03/2025
This is a great explanation of an issue I often see in clients that come to work with me. The revisiting events in the past and giving our younger self what was needed in that situation is exactly what we do in hypnosis. It can create huge shifts for people, changes in the way they feel that they’ve been unable to access through other types of therapy.
If you’re struggling with these beliefs, get in touch for a completely free, no obligation chat to discuss in confidence what a difference a course of hypnotherapy could make to your life 🙏🏻
Linda
Certified Transformational Hypnotherapist 
Many of us carry two powerful beliefs that silently shape our lives: that we're responsible for other people's feelings, and that disappointing others is something to be avoided at all costs. These aren't just passing thoughts - they're deeply embedded cultural programming that affects our physical health in ways we rarely recognize.
Think about how these messages were delivered throughout your childhood. When adults said "you're making me angry" or "don't make me sad," they weren't just expressing emotions - they were teaching you that their feelings were your responsibility. This conditioning likely came with consequences - punishment, withdrawal of love, or criticism whenever you failed to manage someone else's emotional state properly.
What makes this particularly damaging is how our nervous systems adapt to these expectations. Our bodies develop a state of continuous hypervigilance, constantly scanning for signs of others' displeasure while simultaneously suppressing our own authentic needs and emotions. This isn't just psychologically taxing - it creates a persistent state of stress that demands enormous physical resources from our bodies.
The connection between this chronic stress response and physical illness is profound but often overlooked. When our systems remain in perpetual alert mode, constantly monitoring others' reactions and suppressing our own truth, we deplete the very resources our bodies need for immune function, tissue repair, and overall health maintenance.
What might be possible if we could release these burdensome beliefs? Imagine if our wiser, more compassionate adult selves could revisit those moments of early conditioning and offer our younger parts what they actually needed - permission to have their own emotions without responsibility for others', validation that their needs matter, and assurance that disappointing someone doesn't make them unworthy of love.
This internal shift creates ripples that extend outward. When we stop participating in the cultural pattern of codependency and self-suppression, we challenge the very notion that these patterns are "normal" or healthy. We create space for a new paradigm based on authentic self-expression and healthy interdependence - where relationships thrive on mutual respect for each person's sovereignty rather than emotional management and control.
This transformation begins within but ultimately becomes a profound act of cultural change - one person, one relationship, one community at a time.
