Your Body & Mind

07/04/2026

I have had many therapy sessions with countless people that worry excessively and have no idea why. There can be many reasons but ultimately, its a coping mechansim. A coping mechanism to:
To process our experience
To problem solve
To prevent something bad from happening
To prepare for something
To avoid feeling the emotion

If you worry excessively, CBT can help you to understand why this may be and how to manage it.

Therapy can help us to explore this further and make sense of it all.
Do get in touch if you would like to understand why worry has gotten control of you

06/04/2026

If you’re someone who people-pleases… this is for you…
You learned early on that being liked = being safe.
So you became easy, agreeable, low-maintenance.
You read the room before you spoke.
You said “yes” when your body was screaming “no.”
And when you don’t people-please?
That heavy feeling shows up… shame.

Shame isn’t random.
It’s learned.
It often comes from moments where being your full, honest self wasn’t received well—
maybe you were criticised, ignored, rejected, or made to feel “too much” or “not enough.”
So your mind adapted:
“Let me be who they need me to be… so I don’t lose connection.”
Because as humans, connection feels like survival.
But here’s the truth:
That shame you feel when you set a boundary or disappoint someone?
It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
It means you’re doing something different.
You’re unlearning the idea that your worth is tied to how comfortable you make others.
And that’s not selfish.

You don’t have to earn love by abandoning yourself.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to say no.
You’re allowed to be real.
Even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

People pleasing is another maintaining factor of burn out or worry that i see often in therapy. Its never too late to start being authentically YOU? Start today..reach out to me via email or my website for support

31/03/2026

Are you really lacking motivation… or are you just overwhelmed?
We’re so quick to label ourselves as “lazy” when things don’t get done. But sometimes it’s not about discipline — it’s about capacity.
When your mind is juggling too many tabs, even the simplest task can feel impossible. That’s not a motivation problem. That’s overload.
I see this alot in the therapy room with people that are burnt out. Its one of the contributing factors..and the belief that maintains it. The perfectionism..the ‘all or nothingness’ due to underlying beliefs about who we should be or how we should show up in the world.
People wanting help to be more motivated yet, the lack of ‘doing’ is because of overwhelm.

The shutdown

The freeze

The nervous system can no longer function. It simply says no!
Instead of asking:
“Why can’t I just do it?”
Try asking:
“Is this too much for me right now?”
Perhaps we have gone past our window of tolerance. Too many demands, stress, traumas even sensory sensitivites can all contribute.

Rest isn’t quitting. Slowing down isn’t failing. And breaking things into smaller steps isn’t weakness — it’s strategy.
Maybe you don’t need more motivation.
Maybe you just need less pressure.
Take a breath. Start smaller. Be kinder to yourself.
I can help you to understand this pattern and SLOWLY build the coping tools to change it. You can reach out via my website or email me for more information.

29/03/2026

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight… it builds quietly in the space where your boundaries should be.
The truth is, many of us were never taught how to set boundaries. We learned to be “easygoing,” to not disappoint people, to say yes even when we meant no. Sometimes it comes from wanting to be liked, fear of conflict, or feeling like our worth is tied to how much we give. So we overextend, overcommit, and slowly disconnect from ourselves.
The signs? They’re subtle at first. Constant exhaustion. Feeling resentful but still saying yes. Dreading messages, work, or even people you care about. Having no time to recharge, yet feeling guilty when you try. That’s not just being busy—that’s burnout knocking.
Boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re necessary. They protect your energy, your time, and your mental health. Without them, you’re pouring from an empty cup and calling it love, success, or responsibility.
Learning to set boundaries is uncomfortable at first. You might feel guilty. You might worry about how others will react. But every time you choose to honor your limits, you’re choosing yourself—and that’s where real balance begins.
You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to explain every “no.”
And you don’t have to burn out to prove your worth.
Start small. Stay consistent.
I am a CBT Therapist that specialises in burn out. I can help you to understand where these patterns have come from and how to change them. Email me or visit my website to find out more and book an appointment.

19/10/2025

Discover what sets my therapy approach apart! Many clients feel a notable difference compared to previous CBT sessions they've had elsewhere. I invite you to learn more about how we can work together to invest in your mental well-being. Read more at https://wix.to/IoUzWUD

What makes therapy with me different?I have been a therapist for quite a while now, most of that time has been spent in the NHS. And whilst I do not claim to be the world best therapist (although I get good feedback frequently) many people that tell me that they have had Cognitive Behavioural Therap...

13/10/2025

Finding the right support for your mental health is a crucial step towards well-being. Check out my latest blog post to discover valuable tips on how to locate the right therapist for you in Birmingham! Read more here: https://wix.to/jcriNd1

Finding the right support for your mental health is a crucial step towards well-being. In Birmingham, there are many options available, but choosing the right therapist can feel overwhelming. This guide will help you understand how to find a therapist who suits your needs, what to expect, and how to...

04/10/2025

Have you ever found yourself stuck replaying a conversation that you had yesterday? You're not alone. Delve into our latest blog about rumination and how to manage it effectively. Read more here: https://wix.to/iOAhWOZ

Rumination (or dwelling) involves repeatedly thinking about the same thoughts or images, with particular focus on negative ones. It's like being trapped on a mental treadmill, preventing you from being present. In this post, we'll dive deeper into rumination, why we do it, and its impact on our live...

02/08/2025

https://www.yourbodyandmind.net/post/worrying-helps-me-to-prepare-the-common-beliefs-that-keep-worry-going

What if I said that worry helps you to prepare thats why you can stop. Have you ever thought about that? Perhaps there is some truth to that; you worry then problem solve and get rid of the worry. Some people aren't aware of why they worry and of course, when they come to therapy, they want to get r...

27/07/2025

Self-care isn’t always bubble baths and yoga.
Sometimes it’s doing absolutely nothing — and being okay with it. We can often hold beliefs that doing nothing means we are lazy. Up bringing and societal pressure can play a part. This can certainly contribute to burnout.
Your nervous system needs a reset sometimes so that you can do all the lovely things you like doing in life!

You don’t need to earn your rest.
You don’t have to justify your stillness.
Rest is productive. Silence is healing.
Pausing is powerful.

If today your self-care looks like lying on the couch, ignoring the to-do list, and just being — that’s more than enough. 🤍

📌 Reminder: You are allowed to rest simply because you exist.

27/07/2025

What if I told you that your endless worry is making you worse and isn't preparing you. Discover the truths behind this common belief and how to change your mindset! Read more: https://wix.to/E1WbdeP

15/07/2025

https://www.yourbodyandmind.net/post/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt-or-counselling-which-is-right-for-me

It can be really hard to know what type of therapy would be helpful to us when all we really want is for our problem to just go away. We feel that just any solution to help the anxiety go away as quick as possible would be most helpful but knowing the difference between therapies can be really helpf...

13/07/2025

https://www.yourbodyandmind.net/post/tips-for-managing-anxiety

Anxiety can feel like a storm taking over your life. Common methods like therapy and medication work for many in combination or separately. This post looks at other things you can take to manage your anxiety.Understand Your TriggersIdentifying what triggers your anxiety is crucial. Once you recogniz...