Onika Moses Counselling

26/02/2026

Sexual consent

26/02/2026

I am thinking of getting a venue to offer face to face counselling sessions.

Do you prefer face to face or online counselling?

I specialise in r**e and sexual violence, trauma and kink awareness. I have also supported clients who have addiction, domestic abuse, narcissistic abuse.

01/02/2026

🌿 How Do You Receive Love? 🌿

In trauma‑informed practice, this question carries a deeper layer. Many people who have lived through relational trauma — whether in childhood, partnerships, or family systems — learned to give love in ways that kept them safe, not necessarily in ways that felt nourishing.

It’s common to discover:
✨ You give love generously, yet struggle to feel deserving of it
✨ You care for others instinctively, but find it hard to let others care for you
✨ You learned to anticipate others’ needs, while your own needs stayed hidden
✨ You feel more comfortable giving than receiving, because receiving once felt unsafe
Trauma can shape love languages.

It can teach you to minimise your needs, stay hyper‑aware of others, or equate love with responsibility, performance, or survival.
In therapy, we gently explore:
🌱 What “love” meant in the environments you grew up in
🌱 How your nervous system responds when someone tries to love you
🌱 The difference between familiar and healthy
🌱 How to build safety around receiving care, not just giving it
🌱 How to recognise when your patterns come from protection, not preference

There is nothing wrong with the way you learned to love.

Those patterns kept you safe.

But you’re allowed to grow beyond survival.

You’re allowed to receive love in ways that feel steady, warm, and safe in your body.

💡 If this resonates, you’re not alone — and exploring it is an act of healing.






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18/01/2026

🌿 “How are you?”
Most of us answer “I’m okay.”
Not because everything is truly okay, but because explaining what’s really going on can feel heavy. And often, the person asking isn’t prepared for the real answer.

If you’ve been carrying more than you let on… if you’re tired of pretending you’re fine… or if you’re simply ready to talk to someone who genuinely wants to understand — you deserve that space.

✨ I offer a warm, supportive environment where you can speak freely and be heard.
To help you decide if I’m the right fit, I provide a free 15 minute consultation — a gentle first step toward feeling lighter, clearer, and more supported.

When you’re ready, reach out. You don’t have to navigate it alone.

04/01/2026

We all wear masks… not because we’re fake, but because somewhere along the way we learned that certain parts of us felt safer hidden.

The strong one, the easygoing one, the always‑fine one — roles we slip into without even noticing.

But beneath those masks lives the version of us that’s aching to breathe… the one who’s tired, hopeful, scared, brave, healing, growing.
The one who just wants to be seen without performing.

💡So here’s the question: When do you feel yourself hiding the most, and what would it feel like to finally put that mask down?

25/12/2025

Christmas is a time to spend with friends and family.
I spent my Christmas Eve evening with the homeless Christmas Shelter

07/11/2025

Addiction looks different to different people!

15/10/2025

When can you give consent?

10/09/2025

Check on each other. Don’t be afraid to ask the question!
Do you feel like taking your own life?
Are you feeling suicidal?

It's , but every day is su***de prevention day at Shout. If you're struggling to cope, whether you're thinking about ending your life, feeling anxious or overwhelmed, or dealing with something else, text 'Shout' to 85258 to speak to one of our trained volunteers, 24/7.

06/09/2025

26/08/2025

🌟Ways to distract yourself when you have self harming urges:

💚 Call or message a friend.
💚 Watch a film or TV show.
💚 Read a book or magazine.
💚 Go for a walk, a run or a cycle.
💚Do another form of exercise. You could go to the gym or an exercise class, or find a free exercise class on YouTube.
💚 Give yourself a manicure, pedicure or facial.
💚 Try some self-massage, either over your clothes or with some oil or cream.
💚 Cook a meal or do some baking.
💚 Write to-do lists or plan how you're going to spend the rest of your day, week or month.
💚 Focus on caring for another person or an animal.
💚 Do some tidying up, cleaning or gardening.
💚 Listening to music or a podcast.
💚 Drawing, painting or colouring-in.
💚 Do some DIY.
💚 Do a crossword, Sudoku or puzzle.

What works for you?

27/07/2025

Never give up, even though how tough your journey has been. This team shows that.

With strength, determination and drive you will find a way to succeed!