Therapy With Kat

Therapy With Kat Calm, compassionate online therapy for adults. Specialising in anxiety, neurodivergence, and overwhelm.

I’m Kat, a qualified psychotherapist offering online and email therapy for adults across the UK. I help people who are feeling overwhelmed, stuck, anxious or emotionally drained to reconnect with themselves and feel more in control. I specialise in working with neurodivergent experiences (yours or a loved one’s), stress, trauma, and self-esteem. I work holistically and relationally — which means we look at your whole life and experiences, not just a diagnosis or symptom. Therapy with me is gentle, realistic, and rooted in compassion. No pressure, no perfection — just a supportive space to be fully yourself.

Self-care doesn’t have to be big. It has to be yours.When everyone is telling you to “self-care”, but you just can’t, it...
11/08/2025

Self-care doesn’t have to be big. It has to be yours.

When everyone is telling you to “self-care”, but you just can’t, it can feel like you are failing at something.

But what if the vision you’ve been sold of what self-care is, what it can look like, is a fraud?

What if you don’t have a seven-step skincare routine? Or the last time you went to yoga was pre-kids and you just don’t think your workout clothes are up to the job anymore?

And what about time? Who has the time to organise spa days, especially when getting a babysitter is just about impossible.

Self-care should be enjoyable. It should not be another thing on your list that you need to tick off to feel like you are doing life right.

Self-care won’t look the same every day, every week, or every month.

Because life is happening in a big way right now. And there are no guarantees that just because you have the time today for that gym class, that you will next week, or the week after.

So what if self-care looked a bit different to the Instagram picture perfect version?

What if self-care was just you, talking things out with another human who gets it? Slowing down for 50 minutes to re-group and re-frame?

Therapy is self-care. Self-care is therapy.

Book a consultation with me to find out just how therapy can be your version of self-care. Link in bio.

What you are doing is 'good enough'.Remove the pressure to provide 'core memories'.What your children will ultimately re...
04/08/2025

What you are doing is 'good enough'.

Remove the pressure to provide 'core memories'.

What your children will ultimately remember, is a parent doing their best. Not the days spent on the beach, or the expensive activities.

💬 What would a realistic summer win look like for you?

If you’ve ever been told to “just calm down” or “get over it,” this one’s for you.Your nervous system isn’t broken.It’s ...
01/08/2025

If you’ve ever been told to “just calm down” or “get over it,” this one’s for you.

Your nervous system isn’t broken.
It’s trying to help you survive — even if it sometimes gets stuck in overdrive.

In therapy, we explore why you respond the way you do, and how you can bring in tools that actually feel soothing, not shaming.

💬 What helps you feel settled, even a little?

If you’ve never had therapy before — or if you’ve had a clinical, distant experience in the past — it can be hard to ima...
30/07/2025

If you’ve never had therapy before — or if you’ve had a clinical, distant experience in the past — it can be hard to imagine what it’s meant to feel like.

My approach is grounded in connection. It’s shaped by deep listening, relational depth, and a belief that you don’t need to be fixed — you need to be heard.

Together, we explore the patterns that shaped you, and the possibilities that still exist for you.

🌱 Interested in learning more? You’re welcome to ask — no pressure, no push.

You’re not just keeping them entertained. You’re co-regulating, anticipating, soothing, all day long.Getting to the end ...
28/07/2025

You’re not just keeping them entertained. You’re co-regulating, anticipating, soothing, all day long.

Getting to the end of the day and feeling like you don’t have anything left to give doesn’t mean you are doing a bad job.

It actually means the opposite.

The question is, how do you give back to yourself? What is your plan to make sure you keep something just for you?

If you think that therapy might be the answer, then send me a DM. I get it. I can help.

People often ask, “What actually happens in therapy?”And the answer is: it depends. But in relational therapy, what happ...
25/07/2025

People often ask, “What actually happens in therapy?”
And the answer is: it depends. But in relational therapy, what happens between us matters just as much as what you bring to the room.

Relational depth allows us to explore not just the stories you tell, but how those stories feel in your body, how they show up in the room, and how we make sense of them together.

It’s slow. It’s intentional. And often life-changing.

💬Have you experienced this kind of connection before?

Nothing blooms all year long.And neither do you.We all have our seasons of fruitfulness, and our seasons of...less.If yo...
23/07/2025

Nothing blooms all year long.

And neither do you.

We all have our seasons of fruitfulness, and our seasons of...less.

If you are working at full capacity, that's OK. You don't need to take anything else on.

Give yourself permission to just be.

A routine isn't just about making sure all the jobs get done, or that the kids get to their activities and you still hav...
21/07/2025

A routine isn't just about making sure all the jobs get done, or that the kids get to their activities and you still have time to make tea.

Routine is about nervous system regulation - the predictability of the day has a soothing effect.

Is it any wonder that we, and our children, can end up dysregulated?

Summer holidays can especially feel dysregulating for neurodivergent children, and that inevitably ripples out into the household.

As a parent, the emotional labour can increase, as we try to hold everyone else steady.

So if you find the summer holidays tough, please know it is not you. It is the situation, and the additional pressures that it brings.

💬 How does your child respond in breaks in routine?

Sometimes we tell ourselves that we're not good enough.Not patient enough.Not organised enough.Not strong enough.Not cop...
18/07/2025

Sometimes we tell ourselves that we're not good enough.

Not patient enough.
Not organised enough.
Not strong enough.
Not coping as well as other people.

But what if this isn't about not being good enough?

What if it's about the fact that you've been carrying too much, with too little support, for too long?

What if the problem isn't you - but the unrealistic expectations you've been trying to live up to?

This isn't a personal failure.
It's a human moment.

And you're allowed to ask:
"What would change if I believed I was already enough?"

This very glamorous photo was taken about a month ago. I had just finished the Edgworth 10km trail run. My first ever or...
16/07/2025

This very glamorous photo was taken about a month ago. I had just finished the Edgworth 10km trail run. My first ever organised "race". Just to be clear, the only person I was racing was myself, because I had no delusions about winning anything.

My reason for sharing this today...wow I learnt a lot by taking part in this event.

I felt nervous beforehand. Not because of the running part, but because it felt like a leap into the unknown.

The weather was foul. The route was muddy. There were a lot more steep climbs than I was prepared for, including steps, and an evil switchback to get to the finish line.

Thoughts running through my head included, "Why are you doing this at 42 years old?", and "what's the point of this?"

What I discovered was, the "point" is about self-discovery. Doing things I haven't done before to learn something new about myself.

And what was the thing I learned about myself? That I can do hard things. That if I just let myself go, things can become more effortless than my brain would have me believe.

Was I tired and wet at the end? Absolutely. Was I proud? Oh yeah! But I was also grateful to my body and the people who stood in the rain to support me, and nourished by the beautiful scenery I ran through.

Let's talk about email therapy - and why it can be a game-changer, especially if you're neurodivergent.Some people love ...
14/07/2025

Let's talk about email therapy - and why it can be a game-changer, especially if you're neurodivergent.

Some people love the idea of sitting face-to-face and talking it all through.

But for others, that setup is exhausting, overwhelming, or just not how they process best.

💻 Email therapy offers something different:
✅ Time to think, write, and reflect at your own pace
✅ No pressure to "perform" emotionally in the moment
✅ Space for deeper processing, without masking
✅ A written record you can revisit when you need clarity or reassurance.

If you:
🌱 Process things more slowly or in writing
🌱 Struggle with in-person interactions or phone/video fatigue
🌱 Find speaking about emotions hard in real time..email therapy might offer more comfort, more space - and just as much depth.

For neurodivergent people especially, this way of working can be less draining, more accessible, and much more you-shaped.

💬 Curious what email therapy may feel like?
I'm happy to share more - no pressure, no obligation.

What does relational therapy actually look like in the therapy room?It’s not just about analysing your childhood or fixi...
11/07/2025

What does relational therapy actually look like in the therapy room?

It’s not just about analysing your childhood or fixing what’s broken.

It’s about us, in the here and now — noticing how you relate to yourself, to me, and to others in your world.

You might find yourself saying,
🗣️ “I didn’t realise I always assume people are angry with me,”
or
🧠 “This feels uncomfortable, but I trust you, and that’s new.”

Relational therapy means the relationship between us becomes part of the work — a mirror, a practice ground, a safe space to notice patterns and try something different.

It’s gentle. It’s collaborative. And it’s rooted in the idea that healing doesn’t happen in isolation — it happens in connection.

💬 Does this idea resonate with you? Or have you experienced relational therapy yourself?

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Blackburn
BB2

Opening Hours

Tuesday 10am - 3pm
Wednesday 10am - 3pm
Thursday 10am - 3pm

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+447543386539

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