Bourne to Doula

21/01/2023

My new fave parenting style: Adaptive parenting 👏

20/01/2023

😂😂 I find that an electric blanket on the changing mat really does change those night feeds ❤️

The struggle is real 🙄

13/07/2022

Having been in the military myself for nearly 7 years I can totally see how having a doula at birth and postpartum is essential for those families away from their “village!”

A beautiful video

13/07/2022

4 days postpartum!!

Reflection for the week: know when to accept help and enjoy the help!

I’ve moved in with my parents whilst I take the time to bond with my new baby and recover whilst my toddler stays at home with dad and visits!!
Brings me on to another reflection I learnt from the lovley lady who does my eyebrows (this is not an add my eyebrows are very grown out OBVIOUSLY- I’ve just had a baby!!!) anyway she said to me, giving a child a sibling is not child abuse!

Although freddie isn’t having my full attention right now and I do have the mum guilt, she is totally right and I’m allowed to take this time to recover, Bond and binge some tv!

Anyway back to sitting in the egg chair, nursing baby Theodore and listening to the trees creak and the pigeons coo!

12/07/2022

This is stunning

One mom writes a personal essay begging the universe to not let her forget when her kids were little, needed her and loved to be held.

04/06/2022

Breastfeeding is one of the hardest things you can do as a parent. There is no denying it. Breastfeeding is hard work. But it’s worth it.
Things people don’t tell you:
🌼It can be really challenging to figure out how to position your baby for a deep, pain free latch. It takes practice from both of you.
🌼Most babies like to be held all the time. It’s easy to get touched out and that’s a normal reaction when you’re not used to being touched all day.
🌼Bring the baby to you. Stop hunching over to get baby to latch. You should feel comfortable through the whole feeding in a position that works for you
🌼The second night is the hardest. Baby will be up all night cluster feeding. It will make you question your body
🌼Newborn breastfeeding causes your uterus to cramp. Hard.
🌼 Baby’s cues can look all the same. It’s easy to doubt yourself and when baby is actually hunger as they stick their hands in their mouth all the time.
🌼You can love and hate breastfeeding at the same time. You don’t have to love it all the time.
🌼What works for one family will not work for every family. While you may get lots of well meaning advice from others, it may not be helpful in your situation.
🌼 Many are surprised at how hungry YOU are. Hungry. Weary. Thirsty. Smelly. Postpartum is hard core.
🌼Many think they have a supply issue when in fact they have a normal supply. Pumping 2-3 ounces every 2-3 hours is normal. You don’t need any milk in your freezer to be successful at breastfeeding
🌼Babies want the breast for more than nutrition. They want the breast for comfort, emotional regulation, when in pain or sick.
🌼For all the challenges and how hard it is to get going, many are surprised at how sad they are to stop
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04/06/2022

Love this!

I’ll do a good job to remind myself of this in a couple weeks too!

There's so much I'd like to tell that tired face.

One day, you'll wonder if he's ok because he's slept for longer than two hours in a row.

One day, you'll stop posting in sleep forums for advice. You'll stop scouring the internet for solutions. Because you've found the answer within yourself.

One day, he'll let his dad rock him to sleep without screaming. You'll feel redundant but in a good, freeing way. You'll dance around the kitchen in celebration at your new-found sense of freedom, not quite knowing what to do with yourself.

One day, 2.5 years in, he will sleep through the night for the first time, and you'll be really chuffed. But it won't be the all-singing, all-dancing fanfare you've imagined all this time. Because the acceptance came sooner.

One day, you'll catch sight of yourself in the mirror and see a well-rested person staring back at you. The colour having slowly returned to your face.

One day, you'll no longer run on empty but rather a full (ish) tank. You'll start the day with a spring in your step rather than a tired trudge.

One day, you'll think back to those damning conversations and wonder why you ever let them fill your head with doubt.

One day, you'll look back with nothing but pride at the way you responded to your child's needs, in a world that still seems so strangely intent on denying them.

Words taken from "Lessons: Reflections on Early Motherhood"

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01/05/2022

Where am I based and how far do I cover?!

BASED IN BOURNE LINCOLNSHIRE!!

I also cover the following areas 🚗

⭐️ Stamford

⭐️ Peterborough

⭐️ Market Deeping

⭐️ Grantham

⭐️ Spalding

⭐️ Oakham

28/04/2022

Refreshing and real! The postpartum period although full of love can be exhausting, lonely and uncomfortable.

We tend to focus on the baby and the birth and not enough on the woman’s mental and physical health!

You’re very lucky if nowadays you have the “village” and if you don’t or they live far away then why not consider a postpartum doula to help ease the pressure ❤️

28/04/2022

Hello! I’m at the very beginning of my career in being a postnatal doula! If you or anyone you know is pregnant and would like someone to help the family out in those early weeks after having a baby please drop me a message to find out more about how I can help!

The kind of services I offer!
* BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT
*CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE
*CARING FOR ANY OLDER CHILDREN
*A LISTENING EAR
*COOKING (bring my own dishes and cook at home)
*ANY ADDITIONAL HELP YOU NEED!!

I’ve spent the last 7 years in the RAF but now having a son of my own and pregnant with my second, my real passion is enabling and empowering women surrounding birth and particularly the postnatal period as I personally struggled immensely.

I would love the opportunity to get to know you lovley families of Bourne and help in any way I can! As I’m at the very beginning of my career my prices will be extremely reduced so please take full advantage 😊

27/04/2022

What’s a doula I hear you ask?

27/04/2022

Currently at the very beginning of my Postnatal Doula journey! Would appreciate any likes/shares/ follows and of course all the support! 🥰

27/04/2022

27/04/2022

Definitely worth doing your own research before, I love podcasts!!

Yip this bub was born vaginally at home in the birth pool.
5.46 kg
12 pounds
3 hour labour
Intact Perineum
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The midwife had this to say.
“Stop telling women they can’t birth big babies vaginally “
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Midwife