12/01/2026
So many of us internalise someone’s inability to show up as proof that we weren’t enough.
But when you look closer, the story often changes.
A relationship rarely falls apart because one person isn’t worthy.
It often falls apart when one person isn’t ready for the level of growth, honesty and emotional work the connection requires.
Sometimes they couldn’t meet you because they weren’t prepared to rise into that version of themselves.
Sometimes you stayed longer than you should because you were still learning your own worth.
Both things can be true without turning you into the problem.
This post is for anyone who has ever carried the weight of someone else’s readiness as if it were a reflection of their value.
It wasn’t.
It was simply clarity about the limits of what that relationship could offer.
And with clarity comes choice.
You get to move toward connections that can meet you fully.
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