Sensory Therapy

20/11/2025

Polyvagal theory explains why tantrums happen and why our responses are sometimes less than effective in creating a zone of safety. The other thing is, sometimes when we feel safe, we release emotions. Emotions get bigger before they resolve. Often our emotions have to reach a peak before we start to regulate again. Co-regulation is the Sherpa, supporting you to climb that mountain, not the avalanche in your way. We can send cues of safety, that let our child know we are holding space for them.

Do you enjoy my posts about parenting? This post made the cut for my latest book. It’s a concept I’ve never seen before and I’m excited to be the first content creator to do this. I’ve taken my posts and created a book. The book is visually appealing and easy to read, just like when we scroll online or read a book to our child. You can read one post or a whole section. I know I’m bias but it is a must have for all parents who enjoy this page. It is also a way to pass on the knowledge you have gained from this account, to someone else.

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20/11/2025

It’s not you!

Babies cry.
Toddlers melt down.
Kids push back.
Teenagers test edges.

None of this means you’re failing — it means they’re developing exactly the way humans do.

A lot of what we label “difficult” is simply growth in motion.

Their nervous systems are practicing.
Their emotions are stretching.
Their independence is waking up and trying to find its shape.

Our job isn’t to prevent these moments —
we couldn’t, even if we tried.

Our job is to stay steady enough to help them move through them, to notice when the behaviour is part of normal development and when it signals they need more support.

Because healthy children don’t avoid big feelings — they learn, over time and with us beside them, how to navigate them.

So let the noise, the mess, the friction remind you: this is not failure.
This is the work of becoming.
And you’re doing better than you think. ❤️

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17/11/2025

✍️ An awkward grip can still be functional!

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16/11/2025

Meltdowns can take longer than parents believe to calm down .

SECOND CHANCE SUNDAY

A meltdown isn’t a child 'losing control' on purpose.
It’s the nervous system moving into overwhelm — often because things have felt too loud, too fast, too uncertain, or too much for too long.

When we understand the phases of a meltdown, we can respond with care rather than correction.
We can spot the early signs.
We can keep connection safe.
We can help a child return to calm without shame.

Today we’re exploring the Timeline of a Meltdown— what’s happening in the brain and body, what it looks like, and how we can support at each stage. Visuals for parents/educators and child voice style for young people. For more support, see our Timeline of a Meltdown Resource Pack – link in comments below ⬇️ or Linktree Shop in Bio.

13/11/2025

A simple pool noodle and a stretch band can help with fidgety feet

These creative accommodations are worth keeping in mind for your own child’s IEP or 504 plan!

>>> https://www.understood.org/en/articles/surprising-iep-and-504-accommodations-self-regulation-managing-emotions

12/11/2025

This is a truth many children have described to me 😢

When someone can’t say what they need, that’s a disability.
But when someone CAN articulate their needs, everyone acts like it’s a character flaw.

Two stories. Same struggle. One gets patience, the other gets punished:

❤️A child with “severe” autism covers their ears and screams as the classroom noise rises. Immediately, staff turn the volume down and offer headphones to help.

💙But across the hall, another autistic student—verbal, politely asks if others can please talk more quietly. The response? A reprimand.
“You’re always complaining about something, aren’t you? Too hot, too cold, too loud. Are you ever just content?”

❤️A student with higher support needs walks toward their usual seat to find someone sitting there. The person notices, quickly moves, and playfully teases, “I know where you’re headed!”

💙But when the “mildly” autistic adult approaches and sheepishly points out, “that’s normally where I sit”
the other person responds, “there’s plenty more seats”, before turning back to their conversation.

We have GOT to stop using people’s vocabulary as a measuring stick for how much support they should need.

The more words someone has, the easier it is to miss their pain.
Don’t make that mistake.

Language is JUST an indication of what someone can say, not what they can handle.

12/11/2025

My latest google review. Feeling so grateful for the lovely feedback ❤️

We’ve just had a full assessment for our 10-year-old and I honestly can’t thank Suzie enough. She has such a natural, gentle way with children — our daughter felt completely at ease with her straight away which is so important during an assessment.

The process was incredibly thorough. Suzie really understood our daughter — she listened, noticed every little detail and remembered the small things that made it easier for her. Her expertise is exceptional - she identified other key areas where support would really help. An assessment can often feel daunting for both children and parents but Suzie made it fun and engaging. Our daughter actually enjoyed it, which says so much!

Often as parents we can feel completely burnt out but we’ve come away from this experience with hope, a clear plan and a much deeper understanding of what will truly help our daughter and how we can best support her as a family. Suzie genuinely cares and has a wonderful ability to explain things clearly to both us.

She made our daughter feel so special — and when everyday life can be full of challenges that means the world. Thank you so much Suzie, for your kindness, insight and for such a thoughtful, detailed report. We’re so grateful for everything you’ve done and are really looking forward to our follow-up sessions with you.

11/11/2025

Good advice 🥰

https://www.facebook.com/share/1DNsSd3HNk/?mibextid=wwXIfr

From: The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents

10/11/2025

Thank you Marion Burgess for looking after the families of children with Autism ❤️

A MUM from Bournemouth who struggled to get support for her autistic sons is now helping hundreds of families across BCP through her charity.

07/11/2025

What a privilege to be entrusted with the shaping of a life —
to love someone so completely,
and be the place they come home to. ❤️

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05/11/2025

Research that indicates many of the motor components of Autism are often missed.

01/11/2025

Masking looks different to how it feels to a child 😔

Words Worth Holding Onto is a gentle collection of quotes, reminders and affirmations for children and young people navigating big feelings. Sometimes, the right words at the right time can make all the difference.

Masking, a Toolkit for Parents & Educators
Electronic download available at link in comments ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.