27/10/2025
šæ Understanding Our Core Beliefs
From the moment we are born, our minds are like soft sponges, open, absorbent, and shaped by the words, actions and beliefs of those around us. In our most vulnerable years, what weāre told, by parents, teachers, or even friends, begins to form the foundation of how we see ourselves and the world.
Those messages, whether spoken with love, frustration or carelessness, can stay with us for the rest of our lives. Youāre not good enough. Youāre too sensitive. Youāll never achieve that, amongst many other statements. These words become part of our internal dialogue, quietly embedding themselves in our subconscious minds. They turn into our core beliefs, the invisible scripts that influence every decision, every relationship, and every level of self-worth.
But hereās the beautiful truth: once we become aware of those beliefs, we have the power to change them. We can begin to see that the things we were told werenāt facts, they were often reflections of other peopleās pain, fear, resentment or misunderstanding. Through self-work, awareness and compassion, we can unlearn what was never ours to carry.
This has been deeply personal for me. My own upbringing, and the things I was told as a child, and well into adulthood, things that werenāt true, once shaped how I saw myself. But instead of breaking me, they became my greatest teacher. They inspired me to study, to question, to understand human behaviour on a deeper level. They made me determined to grow, to heal, and to prove not only to others, but to myself, that I am not the person I was made to believe I was.
Healing is not about blaming; itās about understanding. Itās about realising that our beliefs are not fixed, they are learned, and therefore, they can be unlearned. And when we do, we discover a higher level of self-awareness, strength, and truth, the kind that allows us to finally live as who we really are, not who we were told to be. š«