02/02/2024
Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don't want to change.
Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to win the appreciation of those around you, but it's an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. When you start striving for a life with joy, interest, and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to that place.
That doesn't mean you have to change who you are; it means you have to let go of people who aren't ready to accompany you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten, or ignored by people to whom you give your time, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
The truth is, you are not for everyone, and not everyone is for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people with whom you have reciprocated friendship or love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not. There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them you will find at your level of interest and commitment.
Maybe if you stop showing up, they won't look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop sending messages, your phone will remain dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship; it means that the only thing holding it together was the energy that only you gave to maintain it. That's not love; it's attachment.
It's giving a chance to someone who doesn't deserve it! You deserve much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. The people and things you give your time and energy to will define your existence. When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities, or spaces that don't suit you and shouldn't be near you.
You will start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven where only "compatible" people are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone.
You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life! You deserve real friendships, true commitments, and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. The decision to distance yourself from harmful people will give you the love, esteem, happiness, and protection you deserve. β€οΈ
Anthony Hopkins