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Clair Morrow Counselling, 37 Middle Street, Brighton and Hove (2026)

10/01/2026

The abusive parent is often the most visible. But what about the one who chose to look the other way?

The one who minimised, avoided, or walked away —
leaving the child alone inside something they could not survive on their own.

That absence is not neutral. The child wonders: if they know how bad it is, why don't they do something? If they love me, why don't they care?

This kind of negligence or abandonment teaches the child that harm can happen right in front of love,
and still no one will step in.

Over time, this can becomes a template for what care looks like,
what safety feels like,
and how much you are allowed to need.

That is the legacy of the parent who did not protect.

When a parent doesn’t protect, the child doesn’t just lose safety — they lose a map for what love is meant to be.

As adults, this often shows up as staying too long, excusing too much, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions.

We learn to adapt to harm instead of expecting protection.

And that pattern quietly repeats itself in our closest relationships, until it’s finally made visible and healed.

Thank you for posting 💛

10/01/2026

The abusive parent is often the most visible. But what about the one who chose to look the other way?

The one who minimised, avoided, or walked away —
leaving the child alone inside something they could not survive on their own.

That absence is not neutral. The child wonders: if they know how bad it is, why don't they do something? If they love me, why don't they care?

This kind of negligence or abandonment teaches the child that harm can happen right in front of love,
and still no one will step in.

Over time, this can becomes a template for what care looks like,
what safety feels like,
and how much you are allowed to need.

That is the legacy of the parent who did not protect.

When a parent doesn’t protect, the child doesn’t just lose safety — they lose a map for what love is meant to be.

As adults, this often shows up as staying too long, excusing too much, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions.

We learn to adapt to harm instead of expecting protection.

And that pattern quietly repeats itself in our closest relationships, until it’s finally made visible and healed.

23/12/2025

Here's to the ones who made it feel safer to soften. Who offered presence instead of pressure. Who stayed curious when things got hard, rather than pulling away.

These are the relationships that regulate us. They steady the nervous system. They remind us who we are when life gets hard.

As the year closes, it’s worth noticing who helped your days feel lighter. Who showed up without keeping score.

That’s where the real work of connection lives. And that’s worth honouring.

💛 Beautiful reminder - thank you 💛

10/12/2025

'How sublime to have found each other at all.'

And how sublime to have found these beautiful words in my feed today.

Thank you for sharing
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03/12/2025

Why do we run away from the love that we want?

We run away from the love we want for reasons that usually have nothing to do with the other person, and everything to do with what love stirs up inside us. When someone gets close, it’s not just them we’re reacting to — it’s every old memory, fear, and pattern that closeness ever activated.

A lot of us learned early on that love can disappear, or smother, or stay just long enough to hurt. So when we finally meet someone who feels safe or meaningful, our nervous system doesn’t say, “Great!” It says, “Warning — this could be a repeat.” And that fear can be louder than the desire.

There’s also something incredibly vulnerable about being truly seen. Wanting love is one thing. Letting someone witness your insecurities, your needs, your messy edges is another level entirely. It can trigger the quiet belief that if someone looks too closely, they’ll realise you’re not as lovable as they think — so you create distance before they have the chance.

And then there’s the fear of loss. The more we want someone, the more unbearable it feels to imagine losing them. Running can feel like self-protection: “If I leave first, I won’t get left.”

Sometimes people run because they know love would require them to soften, change, show up differently, and that feels overwhelming. Sometimes they run because love feels too big too fast, and their body can’t keep up.

So when someone pulls away from what they want, it doesn’t always mean the love wasn’t real, but rather that they couldn't figure out a way to stay and feel safe.

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18/11/2025

Feeling every word of this lately 💔 Thank you for posting

11/07/2025

Friday! Wishing you all a restful weekend!

11/07/2025

I had to share these beautiful, hope-filled words from because I see it every day — the quiet, relentless strength it takes to heal, to keep going, to rebuild.

The mountains people climb, often invisible to those around them, amazes me, and I’m in awe of every single one of you 💛

29/06/2025

I have just finished and want to recommend this incredible memoir about intergenerational trauma, by Peggy Bell of

It moved me so much, I read it in one 11-hr sitting!

Set In Belfast,
Peggy's depiction of the ways in which the trauma of poverty, devastating loss, and political and domestic violence can reverberate across generations—until someone is brave and equipped enough to break the cycle—is stunning.

This book is for those who know, or who wish to know, about the task of loving those who have hurt us most; how the experience of being poor runs bone-deep, never quite leaving you; and what it takes to survive the loss of those we love.

It will stay with me for a very long time.

Let me know what you think if you read it ☺️

17/06/2025

On my way to work this morning...

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03/06/2025

Kissing — it can be about lust, comfort, safety, or simply connection.

For some, it’s a spark of desire, a prelude to sexual intimacy. For others, it’s a quiet moment of affection. And for many, it’s a mix of both.

Not everyone experiences kissing in the same way—and that’s completely okay. Affection shows up differently for each of us: a lingering glance, a warm hug, a shared laugh, or simply being close.

Whether it stirs passion or peace, the power of physical connection—when it's safe and wanted—can be deeply healing. Sometimes, it says what words can’t.

13/05/2025

Reconnect, Heal, and Thrive — Transform Your Relationships and Wellbeing

I work with both couples and individuals who feel stuck in cycles of disconnection, conflict, or emotional pain.

Whether you're navigating communication breakdowns, loss of intimacy, or unresolved issues from the past, I offer a grounded, compassionate space where healing and change can take root.

As an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I help couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and rekindle intimacy.

With individuals, issues include unresolved childhood experiences, emotional challenges, problematic attachment styles, and relationship dynamics that may be holding them back.

My approach is warm, inclusive, and grounded in deep empathy.

With training in Psychodynamic and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Integrative Humanistic Counselling, and 18 years of experience in social, family, and relationship research, I bring a rich blend of clinical insight and evidence-based understanding to my work.

I work inclusively with clients of all genders, sexual orientations, and cultural backgrounds. You’ll find a confidential, non-judgmental space where you feel seen, heard, and supported.

**In-person appointments are available in central Brighton.

**Online sessions are offered across the UK and Europe.

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