03/07/2025
I often get asked why stopping a bad habit or addiction, is so hard to overcome.
The truth is that one of the main obstacles to overcome, is down to mainly one thing, and that is...
FEAR
Many fear change because they fear what they don't know, they fear what they don't understand, they fear the unfamiliar, they fear what they may find out about themselves, they fear what they may lose, they fear failure - even success, they fear not having that little 'crutch' - that 'coping mechanism', they fear missing out, even a fear losing their identity.
For me (and others I now help), during the past 8 years I have been working on my emotional and behavioural self, has been a whirlwind combination of good and scary. But taking time to understand my own fears, understanding how fear itself works so that I can escape from my demons, and grabbing the bull by the horns, has allowed me to have the freedom to become the me I *want* to be.
Instead of seeing things I wish to eliminate as 'losses' or feeling deprived, I see them as positive 'gains', because what I claim back far outweighs anything I "lose". Personally, my biggest gain has been reclaiming my **peace of mind** and that's been something money could never buy 🙏
It will be different for everyone, but feeling IN control again, rather than being controlled by something external to me, is the icing on the cake.
With this attitude (which does take practice), I continue to grow because I now embrace change...
Don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise - YOU have that power - yes YOU.
Sitting on your arse, thinking about it, though, and being all talk no do, won't cut it. It's a practical and physical action. You HAVE to put that reframing into practice and do, so that you can *be*.
No-one can do the work for you. Sure - they can coach, guide, offer advice, be a helpful aid, but ultimately, it's YOU that has to do the work, and *BELIEVE*.
The more you do - no matter how small - the stronger you become.
BE the change.
F**k judgement.
F**k shame.
F**k what others think.
Be the you, that YOU want to be ❤️
You are in control of your own destiny ❤️