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Stop Being Stuck, Brighton and Hove (2026)

09/03/2026

Own your space

You are stronger than you think you are!

The theme of this year’s didn’t resonate with me:

Give to gain

Really?

That’s like celebrating that a dog can bark.

Barking is useful and important for a dog.

And there is a level where a dog barks too much.

Women tend to give a lot (and often too much) already.

So why would we celebrate that?

So own your space:

💪🏻 Pick up that heavier dumbbell

💪🏻 Say no, when you used to say yes

💪🏻 Wear that dress that hugs your hips

💪🏻 Take the break, even if 27 things are still waiting for you

It doesn’t matter how big your space is.

It’s YOURS!

And it can grow ❤️

And if you wonder who the heck created the “Give to gain” theme: Apparently, a marketing agency run by men. The theme from the United Nations is: **“Rights. Justice. Action. For ALL Women and Girls.”** Yes, that resonates.

07/03/2026

Burn baby burn 🔥

What a fiery that was.

We had a ton of dead twigs and small branches in our garden.

Well, they are no more!

05/03/2026

Why I love it when clients cancel their sessions!

Does you calendar look like someone just took all the appointments they could find and crammed them into as little time as possible?

Yes, mine usually does.

And recently, a fairly big regular commitment just dropped out of my calendar.

And created a lot of S P A C E

I stopped and decided to keep some of it.

I blocked it to work on the day-to-day stuff as well as projects I had on my mind for a long time.

And also for myself.

A celebration with a sticky chai latte in the garden for a special kind of client I acquired the other day.

And from tension, I’m going to creativity.

From pressure to freedom.

From frantic to fruitful.

Where can you create a little space today?

Photo by Jason Mitrione on Unsplash

03/03/2026

Welcome back sun! I’ve missed you!

The sun is great for our mental health in so many ways.

☀️ Happy-feel-good drugs: It increases serotonin and vitamin D, which make us feel happy

☀️ Sleep quality: It regulates the circadian rhythm, which helps your sleep quality

☀️ Social interactions: We are so much more motivated to go out and meet friends when we don’t have to put 27 layers and take an umbrella

☀️ Mini me-times: It’s so much easier to sit in the garden after lunch and have your matcha in the sun

I managed my first matcha in the garden today 🍵

The garden and our little garden bench/ nook need a lot of tidying up.

And I completely zoned out of that task and just enjoyed my matcha.

To many more matchas in the garden!

And how would you call that bench/ nook thing in the picture?

27/02/2026

This week, I did something very different from normal day.

I was the one who was told when to breathe in and out.

I had to fill out a questionnaire.

I was guided and put into the right state.

And at the end the whole thing turned again and I was the one taking the pictures.

I did a photoshoot with the brilliant Natasha Jay Baggs.

There were so many similarities:

1️⃣ The questionnaire to understand where the client is at and where they want to get to.

2️⃣ In the session, gently working with the client to get them where they wanted to go.

3️⃣ Giving the client the right cues so they get to a place they didn’t know they can and make it all an easy process.

And I learned two new things:

✅ I can take amazing photos (as long as the photographer sets up the lighting, the camera and the model - in this case the photographer - knows how to move in front of the camera)

✅ It’s very difficult to take pictures of someone eating a banana without making it look like p**n

Thank you Natasha for a brilliant experience!

24/02/2026

Life as a therapist who works online:

Today I did a WhatsApp video consultation call with a potential client with a Saudi Arabian phone number.

And he was driving.

I got so distracted checking out the streets, shops and sights in the background.

At some point I asked and he indeed was in Riyadh.

I miss Saudi.

And it was wonderful to get a glimpse again.

As I get a glimpse into every one of my clients worlds.

Which is what makes working on fear of public speaking still interesting after years of focusing on that fear.

19/02/2026

Have you ever had a brilliant idea that didn’t seem so brilliant a little while after?

I do that all the time.

I just had a brilliant idea for a LinkedIn post.

And needed some bananas.

So I walked to the local shop, bought bananas, came back, looked at my LinkedIn post idea and guess what…

…It didn’t look so brilliant anymore.

My husband and I have made life-changing decisions in a short period of time.

We saw the boat and decided that it was the one.

And we lived on boats for the next several years.

And even when we knew she was the one, we forced ourselves to let it cool off for 24 hours.

You might have heard me talking about analysis paralysis and the indecision roundabout.

Those things are an issue.

And the reverse of it is as well.

Decisions need to feel right in the moment.

And they still need to feel right 24 hours later.

If they don’t feel right anymore, it might be your unconscious mind trying to tell you something.

Or it might be some fear creeping in because you’re about to do something big.

If it’s the second, you can always let go of the fear.

If it’s the first, you might want to find out what the issue is.

What brilliant ideas or decisions did you look back on and realised that they weren’t so brilliant after all?

(And yes, I also want to hear about the late-night online shopping fails.)

Picture: View from said boat.

17/02/2026

I’ve just eaten my last rice pudding…

…until the end of Kapu.

Kapu is the Hawaiian word for ‘forbidden’.

If you get to a sign in Hawaii saying ‘Kapu’ it means ‘You shall not pass’ (even if there is no Gandalf).

In the context I’m talking about (the context of food), I’m starting today something like lent.

Before big events, Hawaiians cleanse their bodies by not eating certain foods.

❌ Foods that are considered ‘dirty’ (e.g. animals that eat waste like bottom-feeding fish and sea food)

❌ Food that bump your energy up (like caffeine, refined sugar)

❌ Anything that is too grounding (like beef)

❌ Some other stuff (like squid and octopus because the Hawaiians believed that they take your voice away

For me the big event is Huna, the workshop I’m going to in March.

You can guess where it takes place.

And I’m doing “Kapu light”.

I tweaked the rules to what makes sense to me and my body.

And very important: I set an intention: 🖊️

✨ To feel the impact of food and drinks on my body ✨

So any chocolates (ouch), desserts like rice pudding and beef are off the table.

Still going to have my matcha though.

I did a Kapu once where I didn’t have any matcha or coffee.

I usually pick something to stop where I thought I couldn’t live without for a month.

And as you noticed, I survived them all!

Is there something in your diet that you feel you can’t live without?

Picture: Sunset in Kona before I flew back last year. Can you see the canoe?

12/02/2026

Do you want to fly through your life with a massive grin on your face?

Today I sat next to Natasha Brown from Haus of Hera at our monthly The Ribbons Network Hampshire networking meeting.

And she talked about the analogy of a catapult.

You have to put some energy into it to load it so it can then boost you forward.

We talked about it in terms of the effort it takes to outsource or delegate.

And it later reminded me of how you start the day.

Figuring out a morning routine that sets you up perfectly for your day is one of the things you can do to make the whole day easier.

I love a slow morning.

Days when I can create space for journaling, meditation and obviously some kind of weight-lifting are my favourite.

And for you, it might look very different.

So what works for you?

So for the next few days, I’ll be pondering how to get more of that back into my mornings, even if it isn’t all of those things.

What are you bringing in?

10/02/2026

Why do you have a coach? Don't you know what to do yourself?

Yes, and so does every coaching client I had and ever will have.

Coaching is not about giving answers.

Coaching is about enabling a client to find the answers they already have in them.

Coaching is about challenging their mindset and seeing around corners they didn’t even know existed.

Coaching is about being that sounding board that lets you process what is in your head.

And yes, having someone across the screen who asks you if you have done the things you said you’ll do definitely helps.

Coaches are also accountability partners, cheerleaders and the shoulder to cry on.

And for all of that, I have a coach.

Do you need any of those?

Photo by Colin Lloyd on Unsplash

05/02/2026

"I am confident, assured and calm, where previously I was anxious and frantic with worry."

February is 'Boost your-self esteem month.

There are loads of ways how to do that.

I'll share more in a few post throughout February.

And let's face it: Therapy is probably the quickest and most efficent way of doing it.

Thank you, Phil for your amazing feedback.

This is what I get up for!

03/02/2026

Who has had the experience that people did exactly what you didn’t want them to do?

Now don’t think of a blue tree!

Let me guess, you just thought of a blue tree.

And I told you not to!

Why is that?

Our unconscious mind can’t process a negative.

If I tell you not to do something, the unconscious mind only hears the ‘something’.

That’s very powerful in communication and training.

Say it how you want it!

So don’t say what you don’t want.

(Did you notice what I did there - read the sentence without the two negatives)

Where can you implement this idea in your life?

Photo by Wolfgang Hasselmann on Unsplash

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