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Insight & Connection, Brighton and Hove (2025)

Supporting couples with practical tips that work, to communicate better, resolve resentments and enjoy more intimacy. Relationships are my thing. Maybe you’re reading this because you’re having trouble with yours? I’m glad you’ve found your way here, and I would love to see how I can help. I specialise in helping couples to reconnect after they have kids, and stay close for years to come. Usually, that means improving communication, finding a path to understanding each other better, and enjoying more intimacy. I work with individuals and couples, online and in my hometown of Brighton and Hove, on the south coast of England. I’m a bit of a geek, and all of my work is grounded in years of research into what makes a healthy, satisfying relationship. Are you ready to get back to enjoying yours? Get in touch https://insightconnection.uk/contact/

20/11/2025

Caught up in a cycle of snappiness and defensiveness?

I’ve been there too and it’s horrible - especially when it starts happening in front of the kids.

But it 𝗶𝘀 possible to break the cycle - and these 7 strategies can help you start.

For more help with this, comment/DM me SNAPPY and I’ll send you my next newsletter.

It’s all about how you can 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 each other in moments like this (instead of 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁 each other 💔) - especially when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

It includes lots of advice on how to:

- build emotional closeness while raising children together
- encourage your partner to open up to you and strengthen your bond
- take a time-out when things escalate (and actually stick to it)
- talk to your partner about getting professional help if you need it

All you have to do is comment/DM me SNAPPY to get it in your inbox this weekend 💌

In the meantime, here are those 7 tips for what to do when you’re snapping at each other more than you’d like.

Share this with your partner if you want to work on this together ✈️💝

1. Acknowledge the issue
2. Take responsibility when you snap or get defensive
3. Be patient and empathetic (agreeing to work on this together helps!)
4. Take a break if it gets heated
5. Focus on solutions, not blame
6. Have some fun together to feel like a team again
7. Seek professional help sooner rather than later ❤️‍🩹

Add this post to your favourites so you can come back to it when you need a reminder 💾

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, relationship therapist & coach, helping parents stop arguing and feel close again 💞

Go to my profile , tap ‘following’, then ‘add to favourites’ for more relationship tips on your feed ⭐️

17/11/2025

You think you’re just tired and irritable…

But what if that snappy feeling is trying to tell you something?

I didn’t realise at first that I was reacting to his sighs and tiredness like they were a judgement of me.

Like I was somehow failing at the job of being “the mum who holds it all together”.

It wasn’t about him being fed up.

It was about me carrying an invisible weight - one I didn’t know how to talk about.

That’s the thing about snapping.

It’s not a flaw.

It’s a warning light 🚨

When you start to notice what’s underneath it – the fear, the stories, the unmet needs – you can transform your relationship.

You don’t have to stay stuck in a cycle of snappiness and defensiveness.

You can learn to understand each other again 💞

You can model something different for your kids 💪🏼

Want help getting to the root of what’s going on?

Comment or DM me the word SNAPPY and I’ll send you my blogpost about this, with practical strategies and mindset shifts to help you break this cycle and get on better.

📌 Save this post to come back to next time you’re feeling on edge. 

🔄 Share it with a partner or friend who might need to hear this too.

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, couples therapist, relationship coach, and mum of two. I help parents reconnect and communicate better so they can enjoy a happier home life together. 
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13/11/2025

Want to feel close again?

Parenthood changes everything - your time, your body, your energy, even your s*x life.

It can make everything feel like work, including staying connected with your partner.

If s*x feels like one more thing on your to-do list, you’re not alone.

So many parents experience a dip in desire or even a s*xless patch after having kids - but that doesn’t have to be the end of intimacy.

Back in the Sack helps you change that, one honest conversation and one small moment of connection at a time.

This isn’t a “get your spark back in seven days” kind of thing!

It’s a workbook for real people - parents who are tired, touched-out, trying their best… and still want to feel emotionally and physically close again.

Inside, you’ll find gentle, practical guidance to help you rebuild intimacy and desire after kids - mentally, emotionally, and physically - at a pace that feels right for you.

Thanks so much to Emotionally Focused Integrative Therapist .jones for your kind words about the workbook 💞

Find out more about Back in the Sack: the s*x after kids workbook via the link in my bio →

03/11/2025

Ever worry you’re not compatible?

Here’s how I’ve come to see it, after years of struggling with this in my own marriage, and helping couples with theirs:

Compatibility isn’t something you find, it’s something you build.

This idea often surprises people… especially when they’re in a relationship that’s started to feel hard.

You might be wondering:

🤔 Are we just fundamentally incompatible?

😬 Is it always going to feel like this?

Here’s what I want you to know:

If you’ve started wondering whether you’re still compatible, you might actually be feeling the effects of *emotional disconnection* - a sign you’re stuck in a cycle that isn’t working, not that your relationship is doomed.

When got in touch to ask me about romantic compatibility, I shared some signs of possible incompatibility (like constant conflict or feeling lonely even when you’re together) - but also that those signs don’t always mean you’re with the wrong person!

Sometimes it’s about learning a new way of relating - one built on emotional connection, not just shared hobbies or life goals.

Swipe through to read more from the article 👉🏼 and click the link in my bio here to read the rest →

And if you’re noticing these signs in your own relationship, please know that you’re not alone, and things can change with the right support 💛

💾 Save this post to come back to if you ever have a panic about your compatibility.

Thanks for reaching out !

👋🏼 Hi, I’m Catherine Topham Sly, BACP accredited relationship therapist and coach. I can teach you how to build a sense of compatibility, whether your partner’s up for doing the work or not. Drop me a DM to find out more!

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Monday	9:30am - 3pm
Tuesday	9:30am - 3pm
Wednesday	9:30am - 3pm
Thursday	9:30am - 3pm

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Website

http://insightconnection.uk/

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