26/11/2025
The power of eight minutes with a friend is the idea that a short, focused conversation can significantly help combat feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression, without being an overwhelming commitment for either person.
This concept, popularized by Simon Sinek, is often used as a code to ask for support, as the question, “Do you have 8 minutes?,” signals a need for help without the pressure of an extended conversation.
For the person in need it makes asking for help easier: Saying “Do you have 8 minutes?” is less intimidating than asking for help with no time limit, making it easier to reach out when you’re struggling.
It’s a signal: This phrase acts as a clear and direct code to communicate “I need you” and is understood by those who have adopted the practice.
It provides support without a burden: It offers the comfort of knowing you are not alone and have a friend ready to listen, without expecting them to solve your problems.
For the friend offering support it’s an achievable commitment: Eight minutes is a small amount of time that most people can spare, which reduces the guilt of not being able to offer more.
It shows you care: Taking just eight minutes to listen shows a friend that they are seen, valued, and supported, which combats isolation.
It’s a way to be a better friend: It provides a concrete way to show up for your friends during difficult times, even if the interaction is brief.