The Listening Room

14/01/2026

As we step into a new year, it’s natural to think about resolutions. Many people focus on diet, fitness, or work goals — but often the most meaningful resolutions are the ones that strengthen our emotional wellbeing and our closest relationships.
At The Listening Room, I work with individuals and couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR). Both approaches highlight the importance of secure, supportive emotional connections. When these bonds feel safe, we are better able to face life’s challenges, heal past hurts, and move towards the future with confidence. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/3Nmo2Xk

30/12/2025

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time filled with joy, connection, and celebration, but for many, this time of year can be deeply challenging. If you find this period difficult due to past trauma, loss, family conflict, or painful memories, you are not alone. The contrast between societal expectations of holiday happiness and your personal experience can feel isolating and overwhelming. But there are ways to navigate the season that allow you to honour your feelings while protecting your emotional well-being. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/4pZkf0x

30/12/2025

Trauma, whether experienced over a long period (developmental trauma) or in a single, life-altering moment (single event trauma), can shape the way we connect with others. When these past wounds go unresolved, they often create blocks in communication that manifest as disconnection, misunderstandings, and even feelings of isolation within our relationships. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/49e5CPH

15/10/2025

Menopause is a significant transition in a woman’s life, often accompanied by physical, emotional, and psychological changes. It can affect many aspects of life, including intimate relationships. Navigating these changes can be challenging for both partners, but by understanding the impacts and working through them together, this phase can also deepen emotional bonds. For more, please see: http://bit.ly/4oktdUY

08/09/2025

Exploring sexual fantasies can be a profoundly enriching part of a relationship, helping partners to connect on a more intimate level. However, these explorations must happen within a framework promoting emotional and physical safety. One approach that fosters this connection is the Senate Model, a structured communication and exploration designed to enhance trust, create emotional bonding, and maintain a non-judgmental space. For more please see: http://bit.ly/4g9dZiA

15/08/2025

Summer holidays can be a highlight for many, but whether you’re travelling with children or enjoying a more carefree escape, they also come with unique challenges. Finding time to relax, navigating different needs, and balancing fun with practicality can be tricky. Here’s a quick guide for couples—with and without kids—on surviving (and thriving) during the summer holidays. For more please see: http://bit.ly/3Jlw40B

05/08/2025

Becoming parents is one of the most profound transitions a couple can experience. Amidst the joy and chaos of raising children, it’s common for intimacy to take a backseat. Yet reconnecting sexually is key to sustaining the emotional bond that initially brought you together. If you’re feeling distant in this area, you’re not alone—and there are ways to rekindle that connection. For more, please see: http://bit.ly/4mdqPhW

10/06/2025

Sharing your life with someone involves engaging in open and honest conversations, even when those discussions become challenging. However, achieving this can often feel daunting.
During difficult conversations, it’s common for individuals to feel triggered by something their partner has said. One moment, you might feel calm, and the next, you might find yourself in “fight or flight” mode, with your brain perceiving a threat. This primitive reaction can make it almost impossible to communicate calmly and rationally, often leading to conflict. Thankfully, there are strategies grounded in Emotional-Focused Therapy (EFT) that can help couples navigate these tough discussions more effectively. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/3FOfaGD

15/05/2025

Grief is often associated with losing someone or something dear to us, typically following the event. However, many individuals experience a different form of grief known as “anticipatory grief” or “preparatory grief.” This type of grief arises when we know that a significant loss is imminent, even if it hasn’t yet occurred. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/42Z82A1

15/04/2025

Every year, many children fall victim to abuse at the hands of parents, guardians, and other adults. This abuse—be it physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional—can leave deep, lasting scars on their hearts and minds. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/4ij4CfR

10/03/2025

In the wake of infidelity, the path to forgiveness can feel like navigating a minefield. For many, the question isn’t just whether to forgive but how to do so in a way that promotes healing rather than resentment. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/4bJ9IjJ

Is it possible to heal? In the wake of infidelity, the path to forgiveness can feel like navigating a minefield. For many, the question isn’t just whether to forgive but how to do so in a way that promotes healing rather than resentment. Understanding the Pain The initial shock of discovering an a...

11/02/2025

Couples Intensives at The Listening Room
Valentine’s Day often brings to mind flowers, chocolates, and elaborate dinner reservations. While these gestures can be lovely, they usually distract us from our more profound connection with our partners. This year, why not consider a more meaningful way to celebrate your relationship? A Couples Intensive could be the perfect gift, offering dedicated time to focus on each other without the usual distractions of life. For more, please see: https://bit.ly/4hW3NKd