MBACP Melania Leanza Counselling BN1

19/01/2025

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Melania Leanza Counselling offers you the chance to explore your thoughts and feelings in a non-judgemental environment. The work is based on a therapeutic relationship and a nurturing approach which creates a strong foundation of mutual trust. Get in contact to discuss therapy and raise any of your...

02/01/2025

Today someone shared this with me

“Imagine if a shark bit you and instead of swimming to shore to save and heal yourself, you search for the shark to understand why it bit you or to tell him that you didn’t deserve it.”

Would you do it?
Probably not. However, many times, you get stuck in a situation where someone hurts you and you find it difficult to let go of the pain and the hanger. You fight to show who hurts you, that you did not deserve it.
Anger and hurt can cloud the right path to follow. You don’t have to explain anything to “the shark”, stop looking for it and heal yourself.

Counselling can help you to clean the path for you to walk in the right direction of self-healing.

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01/01/2025

I wish you the courage to betray everything that chains you to a life that doesn’t belong to you. Betrayal is not a vile act, but a sacred act when what you betray is a lie. You betray the fear that tells you who you have to be, you betray the expectations of those who have never really looked into your eyes, and you betray the script that they put in your hand without asking if it was yours.

I wish you to face your pain, because that is where you will find the keys to your freedom. Dig where it hurts the most, and you will discover that that pain is not your enemy, but a fierce and loving teacher.

I wish you would stop looking for confirmation, stop asking permission, stop waiting.

When everything else collapses, only your truth remains. Hold on to that, and let it guide you. It won’t be easy, but it will be true. And the truth, even when it’s scary, is the only path to freedom.

I wish you would never settle, never stop, never lower your gaze in front of your greatness. You are here to live, not to survive.
Time to go now.

2025 Happy New Cycle

03/07/2024

The relationship mind-body is a connection in which the mind influences the body, and the body influences the mind.

In fact, healthy thoughts may lead to the release of feel-good neurotransmitters - such as serotonin and dopamine; in the same way, when we experience either positive or negative physical sensations our mind can be affected by it. A simple example could be how a headache might affect our mood.
In fact, headache for example, could make you feel stressed . When faced with stressors, the brain perceives a threat and activates the fight-or-flight response.
Our body will respond with faster heartbeats, accelerated breathing, muscle tightening, and elevated cortisol levels. If stress is not dealt with, can result in chronic stress and may lead to physical issues such as digestive problems, fatigue, muscle aches and headaches, and high blood pressure.

Think of yourself as a whole; body and mind.
If the mind is healthy, the body will respond positively.

Simply verbalising your pain, can help you realise the stress.
Counselling can help you navigate through your experience with professional help.
Help your mind to help your body 🌺
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21/06/2024

“Hi, I wanted to tell you that I arrived.

The journey was difficult with many curves and steep climbs. I feared more than once that my heart would slide down some cliff.
But with sweaty hands and eyes always a little wet, I arrived.
I am in that place I told you about, the place where emotions spread when they come into contact with the air. A remote and far away place; luckily I told you everything before leaving, it would have hurt me to leave without telling you about my love.

Unfortunately, I must have lost something of myself during the journey because in this place where you are no longer there, it is difficult to breathe, I have the feeling that there is not enough oxygen to survive.
However, they warned me, that once there, I would have to get used to breathing again!
Now I understand what they meant.
I did this journey holding my breath, you cannot go from extreme love to this without holding your breath.

Okay, I have to go now.
I need to learn how to breathe again.”

-M.L.-
MBACP Melania Leanza Counselling BN1

12/06/2024

Your greatest victory is not having turned into the pain that was inflicted on you. 🌼🌻

-M. L. -

Melania Leanza Counselling BN1

Sometimes we get stuck in situations where we are not able to see our true selves anymore.

You are not your pain and anger. Do not turn into it.
Stay the beautiful person you are. 🌺

02/06/2024

Toxic behaviour can really confuse you and make you feel it’s your fault.

Gaslighting

Denying that something event took place, even if there is evidence to prove it. Lying and contradicting what the victim knows to be true. Making the victim feel like they are crazy or overreacting. Making the victim doubt their memory and perception.

Manipulation

Manipulation is the exercise of harmful influence over others. People who manipulate others attack their mental and emotional sides to get what they want. The person doing the manipulation, called the manipulator, seeks to create an imbalance of power.

Blaming

To blame someone for something is to hold them responsible for something negative that happened.
(Stop crying! Stop overreacting, you always do that!”) -no responsibility from the other side -

Counselling can support you to navigate through toxic and damaging relationships. Can help restore clarity, rebalance reality and find self-esteem and self-love back.
You are not the person you see in your toxic relationship. Get out. Find yourself.
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17/03/2024

All the changes you are making and the things you are accepting, are you doing them out of love or out of fear?
Your fears tell you that if you don’t, you won’t be accepted and therefore loved.
This is just a lie that the wounded part of ourselves made us believe

Every time you keep quiet to keep the peace, and every time you go against your values ​​to make someone else happy, you are losing yourself.

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02/03/2024

At the moment there are a lots of ‘experimental videos’ to show how people can be good with little gesture.
Today don’t use the camera and do something nice for someone.

Life experience taught me, you can change a person’s life with nothing. If you see on the street a lost look, see them, be an anchor for a second.

Those people will never know your name perhaps or they won’t recall what you look like, yet they’ll remember what they felt in that moment forever.

You’ll never know, you can do miracles with little.



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28/02/2024

It feels like I’m caught in the middle. While I’m in between who I was and who I’ll be, all I need is time.

Between past and present between the rest of the world and me.

Just a moment to be, while I’m in between.

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