17/01/2026
❤️🩹 Have you ever reached out for help, only to hear the phrase, “But you have a healthy baby!”?
🔺If so, you’re not alone. I’ve sat with parents who have shared their experiences of hearing this from doctors, professionals, friends, and family—and every time, my heart aches for them. It even takes me back to my own experience, making me reflect on why we need to stop saying this.
🔺At first, it might seem like a positive or encouraging thing to say.
But in reality, it can feel dismissive of what you’re going through.
Here’s why:
✋ It can minimise your feelings and the struggles you’re facing.
✋ Parenthood, especially in the early days, can be overwhelming, exhausting, and emotionally intense.
✋ You deserve to have your experiences acknowledged and your emotions validated.
⚠️ New parents often deal with so much more than just their baby’s health—postpartum depression, anxiety, sleep deprivation, and physical recovery, to name a few.
🔺When the focus is only on the baby, it can make it even harder for parents to ask for the support they need.
✋ Yes, having a healthy baby is wonderful, but that doesn’t erase the challenges of parenting.
✋ You might feel guilty for struggling or for not feeling as joyful as you expected.
✋ This kind of comment can add unnecessary pressure at a time when you need understanding, not judgment.
⚠️ Every parent’s experience is different. What feels manageable to one person might feel overwhelming to another. Saying “but you have a healthy baby” can make you feel like your struggles aren’t valid—when in reality, they are.
✨So, what’s more helpful? Instead of minimising feelings, we can listen, acknowledge emotions, and offer practical support.
❤️🩹 Sometimes, just being present with someone, without judgment, is the most powerful thing we can do.
You deserve to be heard, seen, and supported on this journey.