
22/04/2025
Softer will get you further faster
Something I wish everyone who works or owns horses knew, is this. Softer will get you further faster with horses.
This doesn't mean not having safe and clear boundaries when being around horses. These keep us and them safe.
What this does mean, is that horses respond well softness. They relax more, they trust more, and so they open up and give more in return.
Recently I was teaching a CPD course on joint alignment. I love doing this CPD because my techniques are soft and look like nothing, but they work incredibly well, and it often surprises people to see it.
During the course I talk a lot about not fighting with our patients and working with them, I explain how I take my time and adjust what I do to what they tell me they're comfortable with.
As we were talking about these concepts and I was encouraging people to slow down on some techniques so that they could test joint mobility further while really listening to the horses feedback, we started talking about what people expect when they call a bodyworker.
Because I know that how I work isn't how people expect me to work. They expect movement, elbow grease, leg lifting and joints popping. And instead I give them stillness, slow movements, and the odd manipulation if needed.
But the reason I still get work is because this approach works incredibly well.
Wanting to make sure I always gave my best to horses, I have tried a lot of ways of working. And what I've seen again and again is that they respond best to slow, soft, kind techniques.
Their bodies relax, their mind start to trust and we take it further and further into their fascia, their emotions and their energies. Deeper and deeper we go.
Most therapists know this. But a lot are worried about looking like they're doing nothing in front of owners. And I get it.
But here's the thing.
By not showing owners that softer is better, we perpetuate the idea that horses need to be "man handled". That the way to interact with them is through fast, big and impressive movements. And I think that's a disservice to people, and most important, it can be a disservice to horses.
Because truly, when it comes to bodywork at least, I can tell you that slow, soft and "looks like nothing", usually is where the deep changes occur.