06/08/2025
Here we are again with another Q&A with Ross - this week’s question comes from Debbie.
Why do Funeral Directors wear Top Hats? 🎩
“When you picture a funeral director, chances are you imagine someone in a smart black suit, polished shoes, a calm expression — and, of course, a tall black top hat. It’s an iconic look. But in a world where even weddings are getting more casual, you might wonder… why are funeral directors still donning formalwear from the 1800s?
Well, pull up a chair (no need to tip your hat), and let’s explore the history — and a few quirks — behind this long-standing tradition.
The top hat tradition dates back to the Victorian period, when mourning was just as serious as it was stylish. This was an era when people wore black for months (or years), when parlours became “mourning rooms,” and when even jewellery was made from human hair. Yes — actual hair.
During this time, funeral processions were incredibly formal. The undertaker — but we are now known as funeral directors — was expected to look the part: respectful, composed, and authoritative. And what better way to say “I’m in charge of this very solemn occasion” than with a towering black hat?
The top hat wasn’t just a fashion statement — it was a symbol of status, professionalism, and respect. In those days, the taller the hat, the taller the social standing. (Although there’s no confirmed link between hat height and how good you were at organising a funeral.)
Today, we might not wear top hats to meetings or dinner parties, but at funerals, they’ve stuck around for good reason. The top hat adds a sense of occasion. It tells people:
“This moment matters. Let’s show respect, and give this person the dignified farewell they deserve.”
Plus, when walking in front of the hearse — as I mentioned last week — the funeral director becomes a ceremonial leader. The hat gives them a visual presence. Let’s face it: it’s hard to miss someone in a top hat, even on a rainy Tuesday in traffic. Although some road users aren’t always that polite!
Some directors also perform the gentle tradition of removing or tipping their hat as the coffin passes — a quiet, dignified gesture of farewell. No words. Just a small moment of grace. It’s a powerful example of how little touches — even in the way we dress — can carry deep meaning.
Of course, not every funeral calls for a top hat. Some modern services are more relaxed — and that’s absolutely fine. Funeral directors are there to honour your wishes, not impose Victorian fashion rules. But when the top hat does make an appearance, it brings with it a little piece of tradition, care, and timeless respect.
Plus, if we’re being honest… we do look rather good in them!
Funeral directors wear top hats because tradition matters — and so does honouring people properly. The hat is a symbol of respect, formality, and leadership that’s stood the test of time. It might seem old-fashioned, but in moments of loss, a bit of ceremony can bring unexpected comfort.
Besides, if anyone’s going to rock a top hat in 2025, it may as well be someone who helps people say goodbye with dignity” - Ross
