28/09/2025
How can you look after yourself today?
Buy yourself some flowers, cook a nourishing meal, meditate, hug a tree, contact a freind, have a nap.
Big or small, purposely carving time in your day to focus on tending your inner fire will help prevent you from burning out. Whether it's 5 minutes of stillness or an hour of walking, dancing to your favourite songs or putting your phone on aeroplane mode. You are in control of your time.
When I feel my worst, I begin with slowing down. Allowing the emotions to be felt fully, through sobs, wails, writing down "how am I feeling right now?" which is usually pretty sad and angry and self loathing for a while. I allow myself to write exactly what my thoughts are spiralling and unravelling, no judgement or curating. I allow what needs to come out.
Then on to gentleness. Acceptance. Re reading and and being kind to myself knowing all thoughts are not truths and how can I change these feelings into redirecting affirmations. Seeing myself as a freind and knowing I would listen first, and then remind someone else how brilliant and beautiful they are for simply being. I would challenge the negative spirals after fully hearing them and not interrupting them. I ask permission if they want reflections or just to be heard. I do this with myself.
I then often change the words from vicious to vitality, for example:
"I feel incapable" to "I am enough"
"I am so tired and overwhelmed" to
"I am alive and feeling fully"
"I don't know my purpose" to
"I am so grateful for each breath"
I often then burn the spiralling thoughts after I've got them out on paper. Another act of transformation. The positive affirmations I keep and redirect my focus. Words are spells and we can feel bound to them.
Other modes of self care I know help me: going for a run, alternative nostril breathing, chanting om, a cold swim on sea or river, letting people know I'm feeling down and giving thanks to to loved ones.
I'd love to know what you do to keep yourself well. "What are the tools to your toolkit?"
The ultimate self care: Treat yourself and allow rest and repair by booking massage and reiki energy healing with me. DM for details.
Abigail Hope
