24/04/2024
5 ways to be a calmer parent
Watch your thoughts
Notice the thoughts you are having before you lose your temper. What judgements are you making about yourself or your child? Are those judgements true or could they be challenged/updated?
Notice your feelings
Try setting an alarm to go off several times a day. When the alarm rings, notice how you are feeling and take a moment to offer yourself some compassion. Increasing your awareness of your feelings overall will make it more likely that you notice when you are starting to feel stressed.
Look for patterns in your mood
What tends to happen before you notice your stress levels rising? Does it is happen at a similar time of day or when you are feeling unsupported or tired? Are there things you can do to tackle the root causes?
Communicate your feelings
Naming your feelings can help to switch on the thinking part of the brain which can serve to increase your feelings of calm. It can also help your child to empathise with you and provide good role modeling for them: Supporting them to regulate their feelings.
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