14/10/2025
⚠️ Talk of pregnancy/baby loss ⚠️
“I never imagined miscarriage would become part of my story, let alone four times.
"Each time, I carried hope, and each time, that hope was taken away too soon. The grief has been heavy, raw and isolating. There were days I felt my body had failed me, and days when the silence from others made the loss feel even more invisible.
"As a Mixed Black woman, that invisibility often felt twofold. Miscarriage affects 1 in 4 pregnancies, but for Black and Mixed Black women, the risk is doubled. Yet when I asked for treatment, I was met with excuses, inconsistencies, or outright refusals.
"Women like me are told we can’t be referred to a miscarriage clinic until we’ve had three miscarriages. By then, the emotional toll is already devastating. I’ve lived this - four pregnancies, four losses, and still having to battle to be heard.
"These inconsistencies, and the failure to adapt care for women at higher risk, add another layer of trauma. We cannot all be treated the same if we don’t all start in the same place.
"What helped me hold on were the people who didn’t minimise my grief: friends who checked in, family who sat with me, and women who let me speak my truth without judgement.
"To other Black and Mixed Black women going through pregnancy or baby loss, I want you to know: your grief is valid. You don’t have to shrink it for anyone else’s comfort. You deserve care, compassion, and a plan that recognises your risks. Not excuses.
"Sharing this isn’t easy, but silence helps no one. If my story reaches even one person who feels unseen in her grief, it’s worth telling."
Thank you to Simone for sharing her story, highlighting the importance of compassion and support 💚
