Charley

Charley Hello, I'm Charley I am a Psychotherapist in the UK. I offer outdoor, face to face or online therapy. Being online means we can work together from anywhere.

If you'd like outdoor therapy I offer services to the Bristol / Bath area.

A lot of human suffering can come down to our desire to distinguish ourselves from others and nature. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣This separat...
03/08/2020

A lot of human suffering can come down to our desire to distinguish ourselves from others and nature. ⁣⁣⁣
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This separateness, (𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝘂𝗱𝗱𝗵𝗶𝘀𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴) ⁣⁣⁣
can leave us feeling isolated or lonely. And at it’s worst can lead us to attack, hate and judge others. ⁣⁣⁣
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𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘈𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘔𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 ‘𝘐𝘯-𝘭𝘢𝘬’𝘦𝘤𝘩’ 𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴, 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶. ⁣⁣⁣
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At our core we are all connected, and I believe one of the biggest cures to our current mental health crisis, is to remember that ❤️
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Here’s something that’s been hitting me pretty hard recently. ⁣⁣Okay so I’m coming up to my one year anniversary of qual...
01/08/2020

Here’s something that’s been hitting me pretty hard recently. ⁣

Okay so I’m coming up to my one year anniversary of qualifying to practice therapy - which is actually crazy when I think about it. ⁣

The last four months I’ve had more clients than ever before, and it’s been amazing as well as intense. ⁣

Something that really motivates me is the responsibility that comes with this job. Like, it’s actually someone’s life your helping make sense of. ⁣

Another human being trusts you to sit opposite them and explore their deepest thoughts, feelings and experiences, together. ⁣

If that ain’t a privilege, I don’t know what is. ⁣

However something else has also hit me. How vulnerable we are when we seek help, and look, this isn’t me speaking as a therapist, this is me speaking as somebody who has struggled with their mental health. ⁣

We are looking for answers when we are vulnerable and well.... I feel a bit sad to say that it feels the answers our system wants to give us is that we are broken. That if we suffer it means something is wrong? ⁣

I mean that’s the real Fcking crazy thing right. A society that places profit over human connection, productivity over compassion, that legalises toxic drugs and bans natural remedies. ⁣

And we are the broken ones? ⁣

Krishnamurti said to thrive in a sick society is no sign of health, and in a system that incentivises Psychopathy maybe it’s good to be struggling. ⁣

I’m not sure about you guys but somethings shifted during this pandemic. The bullsh*t is staring us in the face. ⁣

I guess the question is, how do we actually work to create change, how do we actually build a society we are proud of?

We’re in a transition period right now, and I’m pretty certain in a few years our generations shall get a shot at building something new. ⁣

And I’ve got a feeling, it might be something to be really proud of. ⁣

Hang in there ❤️ we’ve all got this.

Some people may have us feeling like all challenges in our life are a result of a faulty mindset. ⁣⁣“Change your thought...
01/08/2020

Some people may have us feeling like all challenges in our life are a result of a faulty mindset. ⁣

“Change your thoughts, change your reality.” ⁣

This attitude is a kind of self help, meets new age spirituality, meets stoicism. All simplify the human experience and definitely negate the interconnectedness of our psyche. ⁣

You are a complex, multi-dimensional human being that requires many things in order to grow. ⁣

(Side note - all being said, changing belief systems and thought patterns are powerful tools, however they are a very small piece of a larger picture) ⁣
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Something that brings me an inner peace is knowing that even the most beautiful of butterflies was at some point a greed...
31/07/2020

Something that brings me an inner peace is knowing that even the most beautiful of butterflies was at some point a greedy little consuming caterpillar 😄🐛⁣

Life is most certainly a process of fluctuating between the butterfly and the caterpillar, and perhaps you’ve felt more of the latter during lockdown. And that’s okay 😊⁣

However, we only realise we can fly, once we leave the safety of our cocoon.... so spread those wings peeps. ⁣

Now is the time 🦋 ⁣
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One can only fly, once they release the safety of their cocoon. ⁣-⁣-⁣-⁣-⁣-⁣-⁣-⁣
31/07/2020

One can only fly, once they release the safety of their cocoon. ⁣
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We are currently in a very chaotic period for humanity, ⁣⁣The Educational Psychologist and Philosopher Zac Stein calls t...
29/07/2020

We are currently in a very chaotic period for humanity, ⁣

The Educational Psychologist and Philosopher Zac Stein calls this ‘a time between worlds’. ⁣

This can be defined as a period of time where the current system we inhabit is no longer serving the majority, and we are yet to discover and create a new system that can. ⁣

I guess you could liken it to realising you are lost in the desert, with a group of people all holding separate tools to get you out, but no idea how to use them (or more accurately, lots of different ways to use them and no one can agree on how).⁣

During this time, we often experience something known as narrative warfare. This is when different groups fight for control of our collective story. ⁣

From liberalism, alternative narratives, Q-Anon, Mainstream Media, Woke Culture, mask or no mask, right wing etc…. all are claiming to hold the ultimate truth.⁣

During this time of information overload, we need tools (especially those of us who struggle anyway) to help us move forward in our own personal lives. Without our mental health suffering over things outside of our control. ⁣

Here are a few practical tips that have helped me so far, ⁣
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Okay, let’s be honest - the world is pretty crazy right now and if you’re feeling anything like I am, you don’t know wha...
29/07/2020

Okay, let’s be honest - the world is pretty crazy right now and if you’re feeling anything like I am, you don’t know what to believe!

Zac Stein, an Educational Psychologist and Philosopher calls this period ‘a time between worlds’ - we know we need change, but haven’t quite built the new systems yet.

So, we are in limbo, and that leaves us vulnerable to all kinds of ideas eagerly trying to grab our attention.

It feels important during these times to arm ourselves with psychological tools so that we can make decisions that will positively impact our lives.

Here are a few things I’ve been using to filter information and I promise they’ve been super helpful!
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Okay, let’s be honest - the world is pretty crazy right now and if you’re feeling anything like I am, you don’t know wha...
29/07/2020

Okay, let’s be honest - the world is pretty crazy right now and if you’re feeling anything like I am, you don’t know what to believe! ⁣

Zac Stein, an Educational Psychologist and Philosopher calls this period ‘a time between worlds’ - we know we need change, but haven’t quite built the new systems yet. ⁣

So, we are in limbo, and that leaves us vulnerable to all kinds of ideas eagerly trying to grab our attention. ⁣

It feels important during these times to arm ourselves with psychological tools so that we can make decisions that will positively impact our lives.⁣

Here are a few things I’ve been using to filter information and I promise they’ve been super helpful! ⁣
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15/08/2019

Something I’m really passionate to talk about is our relationship with food, and most importantly removing the guilt that’s often associated with eating unhealthy.⁣⁣⁣
In my opinion good telling people to eat healthy but until we deeply understand why we may be tempted to eat unhealthily then we shall never get to the root cause of the issue.⁣⁣⁣
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Gabor Mate recently spoke about the fact that all addiction is coming from an attempt to numb pain inside. Whether that’s food, p**n, co***ne or he**in, all are different ways of distracting ourselves from issues that need addressing within.⁣⁣⁣
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And unfortunately, our modern society is more than happy to provide and sell us these addictive chemicals... literally meaning there are people in this world getting rich from suffering (oh yeah I went there 😄)⁣⁣⁣
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So for some of us at certain times it’s easy to eat healthy and look after our bodies because maybe we are in a good environment with good people. But for many of us, who work in stressful environments, or find ourselves struggling from time to time, the battle can be all to real.⁣⁣⁣
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So id like to say to anybody who may be struggling with food or as a matter of fact with any addiction, don’t feel guilty, and definitely don’t beat yourself up. Many of us are trying to numb some of that pain that comes with being a human.⁣⁣⁣
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However the wonderful thing is ..... there’s another way, a more holistic and healthy method of taking control of our own inner alchemy and feeling better despite our circumstances.⁣⁣⁣
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Food really is so important, and yes our gut is responsible for creating many of the chemicals that balance our moods. So a great practice I have found is trying to introduce more healthy meals but more importantly asking myself if I’m reaching for a take away, or reaching for a chocolate bar, is it because I want it or is it for a quick fix of a feel good hormone.⁣⁣
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Just a heads up don’t take me food shopping, you may catch me stood at the chocolate aisle pondering the meaning of my actions for a while 😄✌️⁣

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