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Ruth Tubbs Coaching, Bromsgrove (2026)

20/04/2026

You don’t get extra points for being the one who holds everything together.

But you do pay for it.

In your body.
In your patience.
In the quiet resentment you don’t always want to admit is there.

Being “the strong one” was never your personality.

It was a role.

One you learned early on
because it felt safer to cope
than to need.

So now?

You’re the one everyone relies on.
The one who keeps things steady.
The one who can handle it.

Even when you’re running on empty.

And the part no one talks about?

You can be incredibly self-aware…
do all the right things…
and still feel completely hijacked in the moments that matter.

Because this isn’t about knowing better.

It’s about what your nervous system does under pressure.

If you’re tired of being the strong one
but don’t know how to stop without everything falling apart

this is exactly what I’m teaching in my masterclass.

Not more insight.
Not more “just regulate yourself” advice.

You already know the tools.

This is about learning how to use them
in the moment they actually matter.

So you can:
– interrupt the pattern in real time
– stop overriding what you need
– and respond without spiralling into guilt afterwards

If this hit a nerve, don’t scroll past it and tell yourself “I’ll come back to it.”

That’s the pattern.

Break it.

Join here: https://subscribepage.io/k7Lm9v
Or DM me RESET and I’ll send it over.

17/04/2026

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been capable.

Career-driven, focused, someone who gets things done.

That was my identity — and for a long time, it felt like enough.

Then I had my son, and everything shifted.

Suddenly I was managing a career, a home, and a child — and still showing up for everyone around me.

Still performing capable. Still making it look fine.

Until I couldn’t anymore.

I hit a wall. Not dramatically - there was no single moment of collapse. Just a slow, creeping exhaustion that I kept pushing through, because that’s what I’d always done.

Kept going. Kept delivering. Kept holding it all together.

The problem was, nobody had noticed how much I was carrying.

Because I was too good at carrying it quietly.

That’s when something became very clear to me - something I now hear from women everywhere I go:

The stronger you appear, the less anyone thinks to ask if you’re okay.

And that’s exactly why my masterclass exists.

This work matters more than ever because my story isn’t unique - this is happening to women like you over and over again.

I will show you there is another way.

All you have to do is show up.

DM me READY or follow the link in my bio.

16/04/2026

“The woman no one checks on”

I can’t stop thinking about her.

She’s the one who:
Remembers everything
Holds everyone
Keeps things running
Shows up no matter how she feels

She’s dependable. Capable. Strong.

And completely exhausted.

Not always visibly.
Not always in a way other people would notice.

But internally?

There’s a weight she’s been carrying for years.

And the hardest part is…

No one really questions it.
Because she’s so good at being her.

07/04/2026

✋ This one’s for the woman who’s always the one holding it together.

The one everyone leans on. The one who says “I’m fine” because it’s easier than explaining.

The one who lies awake at 3am carrying things no one else even knows about.

I see you. And I want to talk about it.

I’m hosting a FREE live masterclass: The Woman No One Checks On — because the strongest person in the room deserves support too.

📅 Wednesday 22nd April at 1pm

Join me live and let’s finally talk about what it costs to carry it all alone — and what it looks like to start putting some of it down.

👇 Reserve your free spot — link in bio (or comment READY and I’ll send it to you)

05/04/2026

I’ve been a bit quiet on here.

Not because I didn’t have anything to say… but because I refuse to show up from a place that isn’t real.

It’s taken me longer to recover from illness than I’d hoped, but it matters to me that I practise what I preach.

And what I keep seeing — in the women I work with, and in my own life too — is this:

Women who hold everything together. Who become the reliable one, the capable one, the one everyone leans on.

The one who doesn’t get checked on.

And for a long time, it works.
You become really good at coping. At adapting. At keeping things moving.

Until one day… it just doesn’t feel the same anymore.

You’re tired in a way that rest doesn’t fix.
You feel flat, disconnected, sometimes overwhelmed — but you don’t always know why.
And there’s this quiet thought:

“Why doesn’t my life actually feel how I thought it would?”

Even when it looks good from the outside.

This isn’t about being ungrateful. It’s not about doing something wrong.

There’s a reason so many women feel this way.
And it’s not being talked about enough.

That’s exactly what I’m going to be doing in my upcoming masterclass.

Details coming very soon. 🤍

16/03/2026

Two weeks ago I had momentum.

Clear plans. Excitement. Direction.

Then I got ill.

For two weeks I couldn’t even think about my business. It was like the plan had been completely erased.

Old me would have panicked.
Scrapped everything.
Started again.

But here’s what nervous system work teaches you:

You don’t change the plan.
You shift the timeline.

Rest wasn’t failure.
It was necessary.

And yes — I hate letting people down.
But the people I serve deserve me at my best, not pushing through at my worst.

So the plan still stands.

Just… a few weeks later.

04/03/2026

Woman down. 🤒

As I lay in bed with a hot cuppa, full of cold, watching the sunlight pour in, I’ve been sitting with the duality of these past few days.

The frustration of being ill again.
The gratitude to finally slow down.

The understanding that my body is processing something it’s been waiting to.
The growth that comes after.

The self-imposed high expectations - the worry, the pressure, the noise.
The quiet knowing that I’m doing a good job.

Slowing down feels like the last thing I need right now. After everything I’ve been building behind the scenes - the meaningful conversations, the new connections, the opportunities taking shape. Every day in bed feels like lost momentum.

But here’s what I know - and what I teach my clients:

This IS the work.

Resting when every part of you is screaming to push through. That’s not weakness - that’s your nervous system finally being allowed to do what it’s been desperate to do.

Accepting help without guilt or shame.

Knowing you would give this grace to anyone else without a second thought.

The high-achieving woman doesn’t struggle to work hard. She struggles to stop. Her nervous system learned that productivity was safety, that stillness was dangerous, that rest had to be earned.

Breaking that cycle doesn’t happen in the doing.
It happens in exactly this - a Wednesday in bed, a hot cuppa, sunlight on the duvet, and the radical choice to stay there.

This is not how I planned my week to look.

But I know the power of choosing myself in these moments.
And this is how I lead my clients to do the same. 💜

30/01/2026

⚡️carrying it all works…until it doesn’t.

02/12/2025

My son openly sharing about his feelings wasn’t just a parenting win.

It was evidence…

Of nervous system safety, co-regulation and a mirror of the internal work I’ve done on myself.

Children don’t become emotionally articulate by chance - they respond to the atmosphere they live in.
 If your internal world feels safe, theirs can too.
 If your internal world feels chaotic, they adapt around that.

This is the part most people miss: ⬇️

You can read every “conscious parenting” book
and still recreate the patterns you grew up with…
 if your nervous system is repeating the same old patterns.

This is the work I do with women every day.
 Not behaviour tweaks. Not mindset hacks. Not “try harder.”

But the deeper shifts that actually change: – how you respond under pressure – how you hold boundaries – how you show up in relationships – and how your children experience you

This is nervous system work: deeper than strategies or self-help.

✨✨If you’re ready to change things at the level where they actually change, send me a message.

👉 This is the work you don’t do alone.

💟 Ruth

-informed

09/10/2025

“Life feels hard…even when it looks successful on the outside”

You tick every box
You show up, you achieve, you hold it all together
From the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all sorted.

But inside?
You’re exhausted
You’re running on autopilot
And no matter what you accomplish, it never feels enough

You tell yourself to push through
But the more you push, the further away peace feels

What if the problem isn’t that you’re not doing enough…but that your nervous system has been in survival mode too long?
It doesn’t know how to be anything else right now.

This is what I help my clients untangle
- the hidden patterns of pressure
- perfectionism
- self protection
that keeps you striving, burning out and doubting yourself.

Because life isn’t meant to feel like one long endurance test!

You deserve to feel safe, content and enough - without needing to earn it.

DM “enough” and I’ll share how I can support you to feel enough, reclaim your energy and live from a place that actually feels good.

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