Ruth Tubbs Coaching

23/01/2026

You’ve spent years managing everyone else’s needs, smoothing over discomfort, keeping the peace. You’re reliable, strong, and capable - but it comes at a cost!

The truth? Those patterns aren’t weaknesses. They are survival strategies. And now, they’re keeping you stuck in “just coping,” instead of actually living.

If you want to respond instead of react,
to feel steadier on the inside - not just look fine on the outside,

and stop replaying conversations, second-guessing yourself, or numbing to get through the day, then

I’m your coach.

I help you work with your system, not against it,
so you can feel the difference in your day-to-day,
and reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been muted by old patterns.

Feeling the way you do is not a life sentence.
It can change.

If this landed in your body, not just your head you know what to do

22/01/2026

Somewhere along the way we were taught that healing should feel effortless.
That discomfort = failure.
It doesn’t.
You can be capable, self-aware, and still exhausted by patterns you can’t seem to shake.
That’s why I don’t do pep talks or quick fixes.
I work with your nervous system - the part that actually runs the show.
If you’re done pretending you’re fine and ready to start responding instead of reacting,
DM me “DONE.”

21/01/2026

If you keep reacting, it’s not a mindset issue.

19/01/2026

Last week I went to a networking meeting and, as I sat listening to the women around the table, something really struck me.

We all had different stories and different circumstances, but there was one thing we shared in common.
That quiet moment of questioning: “Is this it?” or “Is this all there is for my life?”

That moment often appears after a life event or a significant change. Becoming a mother, losing a parent, experiencing illness or redundancy can all create a pause where the life you’re living no longer quite fits.

You can find yourself waking up exhausted from being on a merry-go-round, doing all the things you’re supposed to do to improve your life, the ones that usually start with “I should,” yet still ending up in exactly the same place, only more tired than before.

That was me. 👋

This is usually when the “what is wrong with me?” noise begins to creep in.

The truth is, there is NOTHING wrong with you!
You’re not broken or failing; you’re simply trying to create change using old data and old programming.

At some point in your childhood, your nervous system responded to a real or perceived threat. It doesn’t matter whether that happened once or repeatedly.

Your brain stored that information because it was the fastest way to keep you safe. The thoughts, emotions, and sensations you experienced at the time didn’t disappear; they became held in the body.

As an adult, when something genuinely triggering shows up, those same responses are activated again. And this is the part most women miss ⬇️

When the “is this it?” moment arrives, it’s crucial to work with the nervous system rather than trying to think or push your way out of it.

This is how you give the brain and body new data, process what has remained unresolved, and create change that actually lasts.

This is the work I do through the Trauma Informed Nervous System (TINS) method. It’s a guided, embodied process that requires experience, containment, and discernment, not more effort from you.

It isn’t surface-level work, and it isn’t a quick fix, but for the women who are ready to meet themselves honestly, it is transformative.

My DM’s are always open

02/12/2025

My son openly sharing about his feelings wasn’t just a parenting win.

It was evidence…

Of nervous system safety, co-regulation and a mirror of the internal work I’ve done on myself.

Children don’t become emotionally articulate by chance - they respond to the atmosphere they live in.

If your internal world feels safe, theirs can too.

If your internal world feels chaotic, they adapt around that.

This is the part most people miss: ⬇️

You can read every “conscious parenting” book
and still recreate the patterns you grew up with…

if your nervous system is repeating the same old patterns.

This is the work I do with women every day.

Not behaviour tweaks.
Not mindset hacks.
Not “try harder.”

But the deeper shifts that actually change:
– how you respond under pressure
– how you hold boundaries
– how you show up in relationships
– and how your children experience you

This is nervous system work:
deeper than strategies or self-help.

✨✨If you’re ready to change things at the level where they actually change, send me a message.

👉 This is the work you don’t do alone.

💟 Ruth

-informed

26/11/2025

I didn’t finish a single book!

And it’s not about the books - they were all great, and I learnt something from each of them…but I never found what I was looking for.

I kept reaching for the next book hoping it would be different…
it wasn’t.

I told myself the next productivity hack, organisation system, journaling prompt or meditation tool would be the one to finally help me…
it wasn’t.

At some point I realised the problem wasn’t me.
And it wasn’t the books either.

I wasn’t lacking knowledge (neither are you btw).
I was lacking safety.
My nervous system couldn’t implement what my mind understood.

What I actually needed wasn’t another technique…
it was understanding the patterns underneath why I kept searching.

I was overwhelmed.
And overwhelmed systems don’t integrate - they survive.

When I started working with my nervous system, instead of against it, everything changed.

I stopped collecting techniques.
I stopped trying to fix myself.
I slowed down.
I listened to my body.
I named the emotions.
I built self-trust.

If you’re done collecting tools, let’s chat.

05/11/2025

🔹New Name. New Title 🔹
✨Same heart, deeper work ✨

After completing my Trauma-Informed Nervous System Certification, it felt right to bring everything I’ve learned, personally and professionally, under one name: .

This and my new title: Nervous System & Emotional Resilience coach now reflect the work that I do.

I help high-achieving, caring women who hold it all together on the outside but feel stuck on the inside to find safety, regulate their body and release old survival patterns so they can reclaim lasting emotional resilience, calm and self trust.

So many women I work with have spent years caring, achieving and support everyone else…

Yet quietly, they feel burnt out, disconnected and unable to slow down.

Through my 1:1 coaching program Regulate • Rewire • Rise, I help you:
🍁Regulate your nervous system and feel safe to rest
🍁Rewire the survival patterns that keep you in overdrive
🍁Rise into calm confidence, energy and self-trust

Because healing isn’t about becoming someone new - it’s about remembering who you were before you put on your survival amour and life demanded that you hold everything together.

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start feeling safe to rest, receive and ride - you BELONG HERE 💫

👉DM me “RISE” to learn more about 1:1 coaching or to see if it’s a good fit for you.

09/10/2025

“Life feels hard…even when it looks successful on the outside”

You tick every box
You show up, you achieve, you hold it all together
From the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all sorted.

But inside?
You’re exhausted
You’re running on autopilot
And no matter what you accomplish, it never feels enough

You tell yourself to push through
But the more you push, the further away peace feels

What if the problem isn’t that you’re not doing enough…but that your nervous system has been in survival mode too long?
It doesn’t know how to be anything else right now.

This is what I help my clients untangle
- the hidden patterns of pressure
- perfectionism
- self protection
that keeps you striving, burning out and doubting yourself.

Because life isn’t meant to feel like one long endurance test!

You deserve to feel safe, content and enough - without needing to earn it.

DM “enough” and I’ll share how I can support you to feel enough, reclaim your energy and live from a place that actually feels good.

15/09/2025

The truth? My old work was only half the story…

I helped people move better, ease their pain, and function again…but something was missing

So many didn’t know how they really felt.
“How are you?” ➡️ fine
“How does your body feel” ➡️ fine

It wasn’t their fault.

The truth is, many of us have learned to disconnect from how we feel just to get through the day!

I realised I wanted to help people feel beyond ‘fine’

That’s why I trained as a trauma-informed nervous system coach ™️

Because I want you to know the calm of being content in your own skin.

This work feels like the truest version of me.

🌟 I’m opening 2 more 1:1 spots this month
If you’re ready to move beyond ‘fine’, I’d love to hear from you.

Comment FINE below or drop me a DM

29/07/2025

This past week, I’ve started talking more about the shift I’m making - into trauma informed nervous system coaching.

The response has blown me away.
People reaching out. Sharing their own stories.

I’ve decided to open up 5 free 1:1 calls, 2 have already gone before I pressed post!

So if you feel the pull - don’t wait too long.

Message me directly or tap the link in my bio to book.
Ruth x

28/07/2025

It’s not therapy. It’s not mindset work. So what is Trauma Informed Nervous System Coaching™️?

You know that version of you that gets through the day…but feels tight, tired or just slightly disconnected?

That’s your nervous system talking.

Trauma Informed Nervous System Coaching™️ is about learning to notice what’s happening underneath your thoughts - in your body, in your breath, in the way you brace or freeze or shut down when life gets loud.

It’s not about fixing you.
It’s about making space to feel what never felt safe to feel before.

Grief. Anger. Shame
Even joy.

This is slowing it down work. Safe work.
The kind of work that doesn’t demand more from you - but gives you more room inside yourself.

And the more I’ve started sharing it, the more I’ve heard things like:
🗣️”This is exactly what I’ve needed but didn’t know existed”
🗣️”I didn’t realise how much I was stuck in survival mode”

If you’re curious, stay close. I’ll be opening up a handful of free intro calls (some have already gone, before I’ve posted - wild 🫣)

30/07/2024