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Ruth Tubbs Coaching, Bromsgrove (2026)

04/03/2026

Woman down. 🤒

As I lay in bed with a hot cuppa, full of cold, watching the sunlight pour in, I’ve been sitting with the duality of these past few days.

The frustration of being ill again.
The gratitude to finally slow down.

The understanding that my body is processing something it’s been waiting to.
The growth that comes after.

The self-imposed high expectations - the worry, the pressure, the noise.
The quiet knowing that I’m doing a good job.

Slowing down feels like the last thing I need right now. After everything I’ve been building behind the scenes - the meaningful conversations, the new connections, the opportunities taking shape. Every day in bed feels like lost momentum.

But here’s what I know - and what I teach my clients:

This IS the work.

Resting when every part of you is screaming to push through. That’s not weakness - that’s your nervous system finally being allowed to do what it’s been desperate to do.

Accepting help without guilt or shame.

Knowing you would give this grace to anyone else without a second thought.

The high-achieving woman doesn’t struggle to work hard. She struggles to stop. Her nervous system learned that productivity was safety, that stillness was dangerous, that rest had to be earned.

Breaking that cycle doesn’t happen in the doing.
It happens in exactly this - a Wednesday in bed, a hot cuppa, sunlight on the duvet, and the radical choice to stay there.

This is not how I planned my week to look.

But I know the power of choosing myself in these moments.
And this is how I lead my clients to do the same. 💜

30/01/2026

⚡️carrying it all works…until it doesn’t.

28/01/2026

‼️Awareness doesn’t end generational patterns.
 The women who find me are already conscious. They understand the family dynamics. They see what they don’t want to pass on.

And still - they’re exhausted.

Because insight doesn’t relieve the nervous system. Control doesn’t create safety. And holding everything together eventually becomes the problem.

There comes a point where doing this alone stops being brave and starts being costly.

Change begins when the one who has always coped is finally supported.

28/01/2026

You don’t seek validation because you’re insecure.

You seek it because your nervous system learned early on that doing well = staying safe.

So you became capable. Composed. Reliable. The one who holds it together.

Not to impress. To regulate.

If you recognise yourself in: • Over-preparing • Replaying conversations • Explaining yourself “just in case” • Feeling relief when someone understands you

That isn’t a mindset problem.
That’s a nervous system shaped by survival.
And healing isn’t about needing less validation.
 It’s about teaching your body that: – Disapproval isn’t danger – Silence isn’t abandonment – You don’t have to earn safety by being exceptional

You don’t need fixing. You need internal safety.

And that changes everything.

I work with women who are ready to stop earning safety ✨

DM or book a call via the link in my bio if you know you’re ready.

26/01/2026

“I’ve done the work. I understand myself. So why do I still react like this?”

And I’d gently say:

Because insight isn’t the problem.

You can understand why you do what you do and still snap, freeze, over-explain, or shut down.

That’s not failure.
 It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe.

“So am I just like this?”

No.
 But you can’t think your way out of something that isn’t happening in your thoughts.

Change happens when your system feels safe enough to choose a different response - without forcing it.

“That sounds slow…”

Sometimes it is.
 And it’s also the kind of change that lasts.

Because when the body feels safer, the reactions soften, the loops loosen, and responding starts to feel possible.

This isn’t about fixing you.
 It’s about helping your system realise it doesn’t have to live in survival anymore.

If this conversation feels familiar, you’re not behind. You’re right on time.

This is the work I do.

23/01/2026

You’ve spent years managing everyone else’s needs, smoothing over discomfort, keeping the peace. You’re reliable, strong, and capable - but it comes at a cost!

The truth? Those patterns aren’t weaknesses. They are survival strategies. And now, they’re keeping you stuck in “just coping,” instead of actually living.

If you want to respond instead of react, to feel steadier on the inside - not just look fine on the outside,
 and stop replaying conversations, second-guessing yourself, or numbing to get through the day, then
 I’m your coach.

I help you work with your system, not against it, so you can feel the difference in your day-to-day, and reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been muted by old patterns.

Feeling the way you do is not a life sentence. It can change.

If this landed in your body, not just your head you know what to do

22/01/2026

Somewhere along the way we were taught that healing should feel effortless.
That discomfort = failure.
It doesn’t.
You can be capable, self-aware, and still exhausted by patterns you can’t seem to shake.
That’s why I don’t do pep talks or quick fixes.
I work with your nervous system - the part that actually runs the show.
If you’re done pretending you’re fine and ready to start responding instead of reacting,
DM me “DONE.”

21/01/2026

If you keep reacting, it’s not a mindset issue.

19/01/2026

Last week I went to a networking meeting and, as I sat listening to the women around the table, something really struck me.

We all had different stories and different circumstances, but there was one thing we shared in common.
That quiet moment of questioning: “Is this it?” or “Is this all there is for my life?”

That moment often appears after a life event or a significant change. Becoming a mother, losing a parent, experiencing illness or redundancy can all create a pause where the life you’re living no longer quite fits.

You can find yourself waking up exhausted from being on a merry-go-round, doing all the things you’re supposed to do to improve your life, the ones that usually start with “I should,” yet still ending up in exactly the same place, only more tired than before.

That was me. 👋

This is usually when the “what is wrong with me?” noise begins to creep in.

The truth is, there is NOTHING wrong with you!
You’re not broken or failing; you’re simply trying to create change using old data and old programming.

At some point in your childhood, your nervous system responded to a real or perceived threat. It doesn’t matter whether that happened once or repeatedly.

Your brain stored that information because it was the fastest way to keep you safe. The thoughts, emotions, and sensations you experienced at the time didn’t disappear; they became held in the body.

As an adult, when something genuinely triggering shows up, those same responses are activated again. And this is the part most women miss ⬇️

When the “is this it?” moment arrives, it’s crucial to work with the nervous system rather than trying to think or push your way out of it.

This is how you give the brain and body new data, process what has remained unresolved, and create change that actually lasts.

This is the work I do through the Trauma Informed Nervous System (TINS) method. It’s a guided, embodied process that requires experience, containment, and discernment, not more effort from you.

It isn’t surface-level work, and it isn’t a quick fix, but for the women who are ready to meet themselves honestly, it is transformative.

My DM’s are always open

02/12/2025

My son openly sharing about his feelings wasn’t just a parenting win.

It was evidence…

Of nervous system safety, co-regulation and a mirror of the internal work I’ve done on myself.

Children don’t become emotionally articulate by chance - they respond to the atmosphere they live in.
 If your internal world feels safe, theirs can too.
 If your internal world feels chaotic, they adapt around that.

This is the part most people miss: ⬇️

You can read every “conscious parenting” book
and still recreate the patterns you grew up with…
 if your nervous system is repeating the same old patterns.

This is the work I do with women every day.
 Not behaviour tweaks. Not mindset hacks. Not “try harder.”

But the deeper shifts that actually change: – how you respond under pressure – how you hold boundaries – how you show up in relationships – and how your children experience you

This is nervous system work: deeper than strategies or self-help.

✨✨If you’re ready to change things at the level where they actually change, send me a message.

👉 This is the work you don’t do alone.

💟 Ruth

-informed

09/10/2025

“Life feels hard…even when it looks successful on the outside”

You tick every box
You show up, you achieve, you hold it all together
From the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all sorted.

But inside?
You’re exhausted
You’re running on autopilot
And no matter what you accomplish, it never feels enough

You tell yourself to push through
But the more you push, the further away peace feels

What if the problem isn’t that you’re not doing enough…but that your nervous system has been in survival mode too long?
It doesn’t know how to be anything else right now.

This is what I help my clients untangle
- the hidden patterns of pressure
- perfectionism
- self protection
that keeps you striving, burning out and doubting yourself.

Because life isn’t meant to feel like one long endurance test!

You deserve to feel safe, content and enough - without needing to earn it.

DM “enough” and I’ll share how I can support you to feel enough, reclaim your energy and live from a place that actually feels good.

15/09/2025

The truth? My old work was only half the story…

I helped people move better, ease their pain, and function again…but something was missing

So many didn’t know how they really felt.
“How are you?” ➡️ fine
“How does your body feel” ➡️ fine

It wasn’t their fault.

The truth is, many of us have learned to disconnect from how we feel just to get through the day!

I realised I wanted to help people feel beyond ‘fine’

That’s why I trained as a trauma-informed nervous system coach ™️

Because I want you to know the calm of being content in your own skin.

This work feels like the truest version of me.

🌟 I’m opening 2 more 1:1 spots this month
If you’re ready to move beyond ‘fine’, I’d love to hear from you.

Comment FINE below or drop me a DM

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