22/08/2025
Grief often leaves us wondering what to do with all the love that has nowhere to go — but sometimes, channelling it into the world through the values and behaviours of our loved ones can be a powerful way of keeping that love alive.
A client of mine has recently discovered this for themselves - by reflecting on how generous her mum was with everyone around her, she decided that the best way to honour her memory was to give back to others and be more present, carrying on her mums traditions and volunteering her time in meaningful ways 💛
It reminded me how important it is for grief - to give it somewhere to go.
Grief can leave us feeling lost, not just because of the absence of the person we loved, but because we’re often unsure what to do with all the emotions that follow. Sadness, anger, longing, guilt — they can feel overwhelming and at times directionless.
One gentle way of navigating this is to notice the qualities you admire most in the person you’ve lost, and to find ways of carrying those forward in your own life.
Perhaps it’s their kindness, their humour, their resilience, maybe even their cheekiness or ways they handled themselves in tough times - or the way they made others feel seen. By embodying these traits, we don’t just honour their memory — we keep them alive through the choices we make and the way we live. It becomes less about holding on to pain, and more about allowing love to take on a new form within us.
