Elise De Viell Hypnotherapy

24/04/2026

Sunset season for me now! 😍

16/04/2026

This is why we love hypnotherapy!

Fast, effective and lasting change.

27/03/2026

We lose an hour in bed (bad times for one day)
But we gain lighter evenings, those evening walks, the sign that summer won’t be long! (good times for months!)

Gone are the evenings of dark hibernation, it feels like we have more time after work when it’s still light outside. It’ll be after 730pm from Sunday and then continuing to increase by a couple of minutes each day 🙌

21/03/2026

A great post by Mike Mandel, definitely worth the read!

I've noted some really reprehensible treatment of women by the Pick Up Community, as they manipulate hormones like cortisol, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin to create romantic interest, and above all, sexual attraction. If people want to hook-up at an event, that's their own business. But some of my friends and students have been targeted by these slimeballs, and I want to arm women against them. That's why I put this document together: I hope it is useful for somebody.

Here's the hormonal science behind it, for those who wish to go further in understanding what happens. It's shareable with anyone too:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/13aC1d56CTcp9LTPmWzTYk-9CilHd2_Pjraf2-6l9CTQ/edit?usp=sharing

Pickup Manipulation Red Flags Handout

Protecting Yourself From Pickup Manipulation

This guide helps you recognize common psychological tactics used by the pickup community. These tactics are designed to influence emotions quickly and create artificial attraction.

Key idea:
Healthy attraction grows slowly through comfort, respect, and consistency. Manipulation creates confusion, pressure, and emotional turbulence.

The 7 Red Flags of Pickup Manipulation

1. Confidence Underminer: A compliment wrapped in an insult. Examples: You are pretty confident for someone like you. You would be really attractive if you dressed better.
Purpose: Lower your confidence so you seek his approval.
What to do: Do not engage with the insult. You do not need to prove yourself to anyone

Emotional Rollercoaster: Strong interest followed by sudden withdrawal.
Examples: Warm and flirty, then cold or dismissive.Interested one minute, distant the next.
Purpose: Create emotional uncertainty so you chase validation. What to do: Value consistency. If it feels unstable, step back

Instant Intimacy: Pushing closeness very quickly.
Examples: I feel like I have known you forever!
Sharing deep personal stories right away. Intense eye contact
to force connection.
Purpose: Trigger bonding feelings before trust exists.
What to do: Slow things down. Real intimacy takes time

Early Physical Escalation:
Touch increases quickly early on. Examples: Touching your arm or shoulder. Guiding you by the back. Long hugs or hand holding right away.
Purpose: Normalize touch and lower resistance.
What to do" Set boundaries immediately if it feels off. Step back or say no

Manufactured Jealousy: Showing that other women want him. Examples: Flirting with others in front of you. Talking about how many women are interested in him. Showing off attention from others.
Purpose: Create competition so you value him more.
What to do: Do not compete. Genuine interest does not require a performance

Fantasy Future. Talking about a shared future very early. Examples: We should travel together. You would love my place at the lake. You and I would be dangerous together!
Purpose: Create emotional bonding through imagination.
What to do: Treat early future talk as entertainment, not reality

Isolation From Your Support System: Trying to separate you from friends early.
Examples: Let us go somewhere quieter... Come outside with me for a minute... Let us leave your friends and go somewhere else...
Purpose: Reduce your support and increase influence.
What to do: Stay with your group unless you choose otherwise.

Simple Rule: If someone creates confusion, pressure, or emotional turbulence quickly, slow the interaction down. Healthy connections feel calm, respectful, and clear.

Three Questions That Break Manipulation

These questions shift control back to you and expose unclear or manipulative behavior.

"What exactly do you mean by that?"
Use when you receive a backhanded compliment or unclear comment. It forces clarity and removes the hidden jab

"Why would you say that to someone you just met?"
This brings the behavior into the open and makes manipulation uncomfortable to continue

"Are you trying to impress me or get to know me?" This resets the interaction and puts responsibility for honesty back on him

Final Reminder: Manipulation depends on speed and confusion. Confidence comes from slowing things down, asking clear questions, and trusting your instincts. You are never obligated to continue an interaction that feels uncomfortable. Respectful people respect boundaries.

How the Pickup Community Manipulates Hormones and Brain Chemistry Introduction The “pickup community” or PUA (Pick-Up Artist) community consists of individuals who study and practice techniques aimed at seducing or attracting romantic or sexual partners, often with a focus on short-term relation...

07/03/2026

With hypnosis, sometimes we don’t recognise ALL of the changes immediately. Your mind has to work on, and process all of the work that you’ve done. It’s a beautiful thing when you, and others, start to notice all of the change that goes on inbetween sessions.
I can never wait to hear what’s gone well!

04/02/2026

Did you know that you may be able to get a grant from access to work to help you to pay for therapy sessions?

Definitely worth checking if the cost of therapy is holding you back from booking in with a mental health professional.

https://www.gov.uk/access-to-work/eligibility

01/11/2025

November?? Really??
Not that I’ll complain about it all - keep it coming!
And do you know what? Focusing on the good little things in life give you a little happy chemical hit! What’s been good for you on November 1st?

20/10/2025

Life is all about balance…..

10/10/2025

It’s World mental health day today.
I’m one client away from finishing a busy week helping clients to look after their own mental health and wellbeing. To protect my own, I don’t work late on a Friday night as I do during the week, so that gives me time to fully unwind, relax and refresh for the next week. Yes I catch up on ‘life admin’ as we all have to, but I also ensure I do some of the things that make me feel good, even when I feel that I don’t have the time (normally the most important time to do something just for you, as you need it more than ever!)
Looking after your own mental health is an ongoing thing, not something you can just pay attention to when things go a bit wonky!
When I work with clients we don’t just ‘treat the problem’ we look at all aspects of your life, what’s going well, what we’d like to achieve, and how the mind works so that we can maintain the changes achieved through therapy long into the future.
Looking after yourself is a necessity, not an afterthought. ❤️

10/10/2025

My favourite word of the day! Equanimity.
I’ve just used it in a session as a kind of hypnotic anchor to the feelings that they want to experience - they have a big week next week work wise.

24/08/2025

Another great story in the press on how effective hypnotherapy can be for treating fears and phobias.
Not me - but solution focused, so trained to tackle phobias in the same way that I have been, delivering life changing results.

For most of us wasps are just annoying, but when you have a phobia, you go into to full fight or flight mode. It can really ruin the summer months.

Being able to be calm around something that once petrified me is one of the greatest things I have ever been taught

16/08/2025

When you discover a lovely review 2 months later!

-helps