NLP & EFT Kids, Teens and Parent Therapy, Training and Books.

03/03/2026

https://youtu.be/3lsIeY5sh5k?si=mkb0bHmle-nkAGZr

Learn how to control those unhelpful thoughts and change them to helpful onesSilence the annoying negative words in your head.Learn techniques to manage pre-...

27/02/2026

I get a lot of enquiries from parents who are concerned about their child's angry and sometimes explosive outbursts of shouting, hitting, kicking, throwing things and tears.

Anger doesn't just appear. It doesn't come from nowhere. We need to be curious about what happened just before. They are not doing it deliberately to wind you up. The anger is a last resort when they do not feel heard.

Here's a great worksheet that I'd love you to try with your child, not when they are 'in' the anger but a while after, when they have calmed down. Let me know how it goes.

20/02/2026

Does your teen have exam anxiety? Help them turn worry into motivation. Read practical tips to open conversations about ambitions, reframe exams as steps toward their dreams, and build calm study routines. Full post: https://wix.to/lLjh8kO

What are their compelling outcomes? Get chatting about their ambitions, what would they like to do? What are their dreams, however mad and wild?! What are these exams the next step to.

13/12/2025

I've nearly finished writing the updated Engaging NLP for Parents. It will be published next month. It will be of course Engaging NLP and EFT for Parents.

I am therefore selling the NLP for Parents stock for £5. The new one will be £9.99 and will include EFT Tapping.

If you'd like to buy the NLP book here's the link.

What have readers said about his book?Amazon reviews:"De-escalate" conflict situations with these very practical techniques. When we realise how powerful language is to not only "modify" behaviour but replace bad habits with better ones both parities can benefit from the experience. Also useful for....

09/12/2025

I noticed this tree on my dog walk today and particularly the different roots from the one tree. It made me think of the Matrix Reimprinting work I do with teens where each memory takes us back to a younger version of themselves as we try to find the core limiting belief from their 0-6yrs that had been triggering them.

Once we find each one and heal it, they are free to grow without being held back by beliefs that don’t serve them like “I’m not good enough”, “It’s all my fault “.

18/11/2025

Whilst this new updated book for 10-14yr olds is written for children to engage with, read, complete, learn from and apply, many children prefer a live experience of learning.

So I have created mini courses from each of the completed books. Check out Tweens - 10-14yr olds.

I will take your child aged 10-14yrs through four one hour weekly modules covering the content of the book and applying it to their own situations. In this course we will cover - how to manage emotions - how to manage and change thoughts - how our brain works and how to apply this to our learning -....

30/09/2025

I'd like to share with you a chapter from my Early Years book that will be out by the end of October. Although there is a paywall you'll find the subscription is only £5 a month and if you are a teacher, coach, counsellor or work with children in any way then I am prepared to gift you the paid subscription.

From Engaging NLP & EFT for Early Years (currently in production)

20/09/2025

Do you have a child in Year 6 or Year 7?

This book covers:

Moving from Child to Teen with Confidence and Resilience

The transition from childhood to the teenage years is a huge step. Between school pressures, changing friendships, and growing independence, many children feel anxious, lack confidence, or struggle to express themselves.

This practical workbook is written especially for children aged 10–14 years. It offers clear, engaging strategies that help them thrive during this exciting stage of life.

Inside, young readers will learn how to:

Understand how their mind works and how they learn best

Challenge limiting beliefs and build empowering ones

Grow confidence, focus and motivation

Develop resilience and bounce back from setbacks

Manage emotions with EFT (tapping) techniques

Improve communication skills and make stronger friendships

Written in a supportive, easy-to-read style, the book combines NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) with practical exercises that children can use right away. It empowers them to feel confident, resilient, and ready for life’s challenges.

About the Author
Judy Bartkowiak is an NLP & EFT Trainer, Kids Coach and Author with over 20 years of experience working with children, teens and families. Through her therapy and training practice NLP & EFT Kids in Berkshire, UK, she helps children build confidence, manage emotions and develop the resilience they need to succeed. She has written numerous books on child development, parenting and resilience, and also trains professionals worldwide in using NLP and EFT with children and young people.

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01/09/2025

If you know anyone with children worried about school this week, please share this little EFT tapping workshop with them.

This will be a session for any children or teens who are anxious about the start of the school term. No need for camera on. It will be a tapping session using chat for comments.

13/08/2025

As we navigate these anxious times with our kids and teens, parents are asking me what they can do to help them. So I thought I'd share these suggestions. Let me know how they work for you.

1. When they seem anxious, nervous or worried. Instead of asking them 'why?' questions, instead ask them "what do you need right now?" By doing this, you send the responsibility for fixing straight back to them. This shows them that you have faith in them to know the answer to what they need. This makes them feel more in control of their feelings which helps move them out of anxiety state.
2. Another good question is "is there anything I can I do to help you?" here again you're giving them the autonomy. They tell you if they need something rather than you either trying to guess or trying to fix.
3. Anxiety focuses on what they don't want to happen. It is what we call in NLP 'away from' thinking and the brain struggles with this. For example, if I say to you "Don't think about pink elephants" what do you immediately think of? Yes, pink elephants because you had to imagine them in order to decide not to think about them. Well anxiety is just like that. If your child is conjuring up all the things they don't want to have happen, they are already focusing on them. So instead of saying "don't worry' say "I hear that you are worried about these things that you don't want to have happen, but what would you really like to have happen instead. If you ask them as they think about that, to look up to their right this connects their brain to a future picture and works like a mental rehearsal. You're moving them from 'away from' thinking to 'towards' thinking and a positive focus.
4. Anxiety is about what might happen in the future, possibly based on what has happened in the past. Bring them back to the present by asking them for 5 things they can see, 5 things they can hear, 5 things they can touch.
5. Mindful breathing is where you breathe in as you take your index finger up the side of your thumb then out as you do the downward motion.

For more on how to help your child with anxiety, read 'Empower your Kids' available on Amazon or from my website judybartkowiak.com

02/08/2025

Here's the welcome video for my youtube channel talking about the content I share there: EFT tapping videos (you can get the tapping diagrams free from my website -judybartkowiak.com) 'how to...' videos, my podcasts, descriptions of my books - useful for the children so you know which one would suit them best.
https://youtu.be/W75AjO2aqZw

On my channel you will find- EFT tapping videos to help you and your family regulate emotions: anxiety, anger, overwhelm, sleep etc- Information about each o...