Character Matters. Time to Talk

27/05/2026

Have you ever frozen up when a friend tells you about a devastating loss? You're not alone. In this episode, Cole James and Ed Owens break down exactly what ...

27/05/2026

03/05/2026

ARE CHILDREN REALLY RESILIENT?

As a child I was never encouraged to express my feelings. I was never allowed to say I felt sad.
And I was sad a lot!
I was raised in a dysfunctional home which was physically & emotionally oppressive.
I was sexually abused (from outside the home)
But I learned very early on to keep how I felt a secret.
‘Boys shouldn’t cry’ or ‘go to your room’ were common commands…sometimes much worse happened.

So of course I lied alot to hide how I felt
If I did something wrong I lied & lied until the accusations went away.
Telling the truth was way too risky for my health.

That kind of grief affects you throughout life.
I’ve developed a very unhealthy ‘internal world’

Unhealthy for an adult that is.
As a child it made perfect sense, it meant I survived

So…I am so grateful for the Grief Recovery Method. Using it has allowed me to ‘complete’ the grief I’ve carried for years.

It has allowed me to communicate what I need to get free, being heard by a loving, safe person.

So I wasn’t resilient, I just learned how to hide, a survival mechanism.
You don’t need to live with childhood grief.

Contact me now to learn about this evidence-based programme that will bring you freedom.

Hello, my name is Ben Brady and I am a Grief Recovery Method Specialist working online & from my home on the beautiful Fife coast in Scotland, UK. Grief is the normal & natural response to loss. I treat grievers with the respect they deserve & give them the dignity to share their story, without judg...

18/04/2026

You're allowed to still be grieving.

You're allowed to not be "over it."

You're allowed to be angry that nobody taught you what to do with this.

You were told to be strong. You were told to stay busy. You were told it just takes time.

And none of it worked.

That's not because you failed at grief. It's because you were given bad information by good people who didn't know what else to say.

You're allowed to want more than "learning to live with it."

You're allowed to believe that recovery is possible.

16/04/2026

In this episode, I sit down with Judy Giovangelo, a grief recovery specialist who has experienced unimaginable loss. After losing her son to su***de, followe...

01/01/2026

Ok, Ok, I admit it…I feel things alot more deeply than I let on.
& because I don’t let on, my internal world can feel like a mass of spaghetti.
Take this Christmas. My family & I spent 3 days together. Great food, lots of presents, great tv, chocolate…fun times!
But by Boxing Day I was consumed with strong feelings. Shame, guilt, rage. I felt angry at everyone, I felt judgemental, I was desperately unhappy.
So what was happening to me?
In another part of my world my childhood friend is going through hell.
He lives 350 miles away so I don’t get to visit him often, but I’m in touch with those around him & know what he’s going through.
He has cancer in his throat & tongue.
He can no longer speak. He can no longer eat with his mouth, he has a tube directly into his stomach & 3 times a day a carer pumps goo directly into him.
He also has alcoholic dementia. He forgets close friends, he forgets from minute to minute. He is slipping away, not slowly, but he is gradually going.
So my inner turmoil is because deep down I’m desperately sad & angry that I’m losing my friend.
I need to communicate events & feelings around them that I experience in our relationship.
Our connection is forged through our friendship in early childhood, our scrapes as teenage pals, & the crazy times we spent together in our 20’s.
I need to apologise, I need to forgive, I need to issue important statements, & all while being heard.
This is the beginning of the path to my healing.
Walk with me in 2026 towards emotional freedom.
Regain strength to help & not just hurt.

17/12/2025

Have you ever thought how important recovering from grief is?

Your future depends on it ❤️‍🩹

Grief damages the heart
Grief damages the brain
Grief damages the body

Recovery means healing ❤️‍🩹

Join an online Grief Recovery Method support group early in January 2026.

13/10/2025

Children Grieve Too ❤️‍🩹

When a child experiences loss while at home, like loss of safety & trust when they are abused, or the bereavement of a loved family member like a grandparent, or the losses experienced when they witness physical violence, CAN THEY REALLY BE PRESENT AT SCHOOL?

As a child I experienced a home life that was tense & violent both physically & emotionally. When the adults in my home were preoccupied with their own fear of safety & trust.

So when I was packed off to school, with the hope that I would learn & be engaged, MY HEAD WAS SCRAMBLED.

I was living with grief & that grief occupied most of my concentration.

Grief is the name for the range of conflicting emotions felt after experiencing loss.

At home I never felt safe. The fear I felt as a result was with me everyday.

At home I hardly ever felt comfort. The insecurity I felt was with me every day.

At home I witnessed & personally experienced abuse both physically & emotionally. The shock I felt was with me every day.

So how could I be present at school? How could I concentrate enough to learn? How could I be calm enough to build meaningful relationships?

In fact any qualifications and pleasant experiences I had at school were due to my innate character that fortunately wasn’t fully squashed.

Many children today endure very similar, & unfortunately much worse in their homes & are then sent to school with the intention that they should learn.

I would have really benefited from someone intuitive enough to notice my emotional discomfort. Someone that gave me time to share how I felt & that intervened to prevent me experiencing further discomfort.

So for me being a Grief Recovery Method Specialist now is so fulfilling.

I teach those that teach, to notice. To see when a child is struggling to concentrate or build relationships.

Then to give them space to share & to put words to the emotions that they feel.

….and then to deliver the necessary communication to recover from the grief they carry.

Children need grief recovery too ❤️‍🩹

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

05/10/2025

We get a broken leg fixed…

We get a flat tyre repaired…

Why do we just wait for our broken heart to heal? ❤️‍🩹

Contact me to begin healing ❤️
ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

01/10/2025

Christmas Grief 🎄

If you’ve spent many Christmas’ with a loved one then you tragically lose them, Christmas can be filled with emotional pain.
The tree, the presents, the family gathering round can all now be painful.
Special traditions that you both upheld can now be filled with dread
Then there is the big meal, maybe they traditionally cooked, maybe they had a favourite dish, sitting down to eat now can be a very difficult time.

BUT IT DOESN’T NEED TO BE THIS WAY

You can enjoy Christmas again.
You’ll be sad, but you’ll enjoy the memories.
Moments that have great meaning to you will no longer be painful.
You owe it to yourself & your loved one’s to recover

The Grief Recovery Method helps you take the pain away.
Please contact me & let me help you enjoy Christmas again.

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

www.griefrecoverymethod.com