Character Matters. Time to Talk

01/01/2026

Ok, Ok, I admit it…I feel things alot more deeply than I let on.
& because I don’t let on, my internal world can feel like a mass of spaghetti.
Take this Christmas. My family & I spent 3 days together. Great food, lots of presents, great tv, chocolate…fun times!
But by Boxing Day I was consumed with strong feelings. Shame, guilt, rage. I felt angry at everyone, I felt judgemental, I was desperately unhappy.
So what was happening to me?
In another part of my world my childhood friend is going through hell.
He lives 350 miles away so I don’t get to visit him often, but I’m in touch with those around him & know what he’s going through.
He has cancer in his throat & tongue.
He can no longer speak. He can no longer eat with his mouth, he has a tube directly into his stomach & 3 times a day a carer pumps goo directly into him.
He also has alcoholic dementia. He forgets close friends, he forgets from minute to minute. He is slipping away, not slowly, but he is gradually going.
So my inner turmoil is because deep down I’m desperately sad & angry that I’m losing my friend.
I need to communicate events & feelings around them that I experience in our relationship.
Our connection is forged through our friendship in early childhood, our scrapes as teenage pals, & the crazy times we spent together in our 20’s.
I need to apologise, I need to forgive, I need to issue important statements, & all while being heard.
This is the beginning of the path to my healing.
Walk with me in 2026 towards emotional freedom.
Regain strength to help & not just hurt.

17/12/2025

Have you ever thought how important recovering from grief is?

Your future depends on it ❤️‍🩹

Grief damages the heart
Grief damages the brain
Grief damages the body

Recovery means healing ❤️‍🩹

Join an online Grief Recovery Method support group early in January 2026.

11/11/2025

13/10/2025

Children Grieve Too ❤️‍🩹

When a child experiences loss while at home, like loss of safety & trust when they are abused, or the bereavement of a loved family member like a grandparent, or the losses experienced when they witness physical violence, CAN THEY REALLY BE PRESENT AT SCHOOL?

As a child I experienced a home life that was tense & violent both physically & emotionally. When the adults in my home were preoccupied with their own fear of safety & trust.

So when I was packed off to school, with the hope that I would learn & be engaged, MY HEAD WAS SCRAMBLED.

I was living with grief & that grief occupied most of my concentration.

Grief is the name for the range of conflicting emotions felt after experiencing loss.

At home I never felt safe. The fear I felt as a result was with me everyday.

At home I hardly ever felt comfort. The insecurity I felt was with me every day.

At home I witnessed & personally experienced abuse both physically & emotionally. The shock I felt was with me every day.

So how could I be present at school? How could I concentrate enough to learn? How could I be calm enough to build meaningful relationships?

In fact any qualifications and pleasant experiences I had at school were due to my innate character that fortunately wasn’t fully squashed.

Many children today endure very similar, & unfortunately much worse in their homes & are then sent to school with the intention that they should learn.

I would have really benefited from someone intuitive enough to notice my emotional discomfort. Someone that gave me time to share how I felt & that intervened to prevent me experiencing further discomfort.

So for me being a Grief Recovery Method Specialist now is so fulfilling.

I teach those that teach, to notice. To see when a child is struggling to concentrate or build relationships.

Then to give them space to share & to put words to the emotions that they feel.

….and then to deliver the necessary communication to recover from the grief they carry.

Children need grief recovery too ❤️‍🩹

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

05/10/2025

We get a broken leg fixed…

We get a flat tyre repaired…

Why do we just wait for our broken heart to heal? ❤️‍🩹

Contact me to begin healing ❤️
ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

01/10/2025

Christmas Grief 🎄

If you’ve spent many Christmas’ with a loved one then you tragically lose them, Christmas can be filled with emotional pain.
The tree, the presents, the family gathering round can all now be painful.
Special traditions that you both upheld can now be filled with dread
Then there is the big meal, maybe they traditionally cooked, maybe they had a favourite dish, sitting down to eat now can be a very difficult time.

BUT IT DOESN’T NEED TO BE THIS WAY

You can enjoy Christmas again.
You’ll be sad, but you’ll enjoy the memories.
Moments that have great meaning to you will no longer be painful.
You owe it to yourself & your loved one’s to recover

The Grief Recovery Method helps you take the pain away.
Please contact me & let me help you enjoy Christmas again.

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

www.griefrecoverymethod.com

01/10/2025

The Grief Recovery Method offers Grief Recovery Certification and Support

30/09/2025

Ditch Your Grief for Christmas 🎄

Christmas can be a wondrous time.
I remember festive times in my childhood when the adults in my life were relaxed & seemingly happy.
This meant I could relax, drop my guard a little.

But the fear was always there.

You see, when it wasn’t Christmas, the adults in my life took up their usual tense & angry state. I again needed to be hyper vigilant, attempting to avoid the physical & emotional I would be subject to.
So Christmas now can be a time when my loss of safety & trust can be uppermost in my mind.
This can mean I am unable to be fully present with my amazing family.
That’s unfair on them but mostly it’s unfair on me!
Every day is a gift, especially Christmas Day, a day to fully enjoy.
So as Christmas approaches on all our horizons, let’s Ditch Our Grief ❤️‍🩹

The Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence based programme in the world.
It’s an action programme, it’s the actions you take that bring your recovery ❤️‍🩹
Let me, a Grief Recovery Method Specialist, guide you in taking those actions.

ben.brady@character-matters.co.uk

09/09/2025

In this powerful episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I chat with Amy Diane Ross, a Grief Recovery Method Specialist and Bible teacher, about her transfor...

20/08/2025

19/08/2025

13/08/2025

Have you ever lost someone or something?
The way you are feeling is normal & natural.
But it limits your life.

I’d like to help you love again. Because you can…

I help people recover from the pain of grief.
I have a 100% success rate
Every person that has comes to me with their grief story has left recovering.