Becky Goodings, Funeral Celebrant

30/05/2025

I often talk about those little signs that feel too coincidental to be so; so, it’s my late Mum’s 83rd birthday today and the only little solar light we saved from her house usually turns itself off by dusk. Not tonight…. out of sight perhaps, but still they shine ✨

30/03/2025

Thinking of those amongst us without the woman they’ll never not need or miss today. Me and my Treasure - the Thelma to my Louise (although she hated being ‘Thelm’!) Forever blessed, forever changed 💕

24/12/2024

A message for all of those amongst us facing a difficult, a poignant Christmas after saying farewell to a treasure this year and in all of the years that went before them. Sending you my love ❤️

22/10/2024

This is so, so beautiful ❤️

17/10/2024

Ten years ago today my lovely Dad took his gentle leave. Whilst the anniversary of their departure will always be poignant, cherish, when you can, all of the love-filled days that went before them. All the world and back again Dad 💕

13/09/2024

So true; we wouldn’t trade a single tear if it meant forfeiting the joy and privilege of knowing and loving them. Gratitude can be so hard to cling onto during the dark days, but just how blessed have we been 💕

I’ve found myself thinking “I couldn’t go through this again.”

But when I think about it -
I mean, really think about it –
that’s not true.

If I had my time again…

I would know you again.

I would love you again.

And if that meant I would lose you again,
I would still do it.

Because this is hard.

But,
whilst I think I couldn’t do it again,
the alternative is never knowing you.

Never loving you.

And that is even more painful than this.

And that’s how I know I’ll be ok. In the end.
Because I know that my love – our love – is stronger than my loss.

Because I know that I would lose you all over again.

As long as I had the opportunity
to love you.

*****

Becky Hemsley 2023
Beautiful painting by Snehal Pendurkar

'Again' is from the book When I Am Gone - poems for grief and loss.
https://a.co/d/0Nkb9X1

19/07/2024

This - exactly this 💕

21/05/2024

The most precious and abiding gift we have 💕

24/04/2024

It’s taken over two years but I’ve started going through my late Mum’s things - heart-wrenching and hilarious by turns. Happened upon two hand-written notes that she would have known I’d find. Wanted to share thinking they might resonate … ‘May love bring you comfort and time bring you peace’ & ‘to live in the hearts of those we love is not to die’ Bless you Momma 💕

10/03/2024

For those amongst us without our lovely Mums - today especially. We’ll never be ready to be without them, that’s certainly true, but how blessed have we been to have had them 💕

14/01/2024

This ❤️

12/12/2023

I came across these words today - just wanted to put them out there as what I know will be a difficult, a poignant Christmas for some approaches. Attributed to Bruce Coville’s book Dragon Thatcher: ‘Nothing you love is lost. Not really. Things, people, they all go away sooner or later. You can’t hold them, any more than you can hold moonlight. But if they’ve touched you, if they’re inside you, then they’re still yours. The only things you ever really have are in your heart.’ Thinking of the treasures that are inside yours. And mine too 💕