28/02/2025
Grief, a hole ripped through the very fabric of your being. The hole eventually heals along the jagged edges that remain. It may even shrink in size, however that hole will always be there. A piece of you always missing.
For where there is deep grief, there was great love.
Don’t be ashamed of your grief, don’t judge it, don’t suppress it, don’t rush it, rather, acknowledge it, lean into it, listen to it, feel it, sit with it, sit with the pain and remember the love.
This is where the healing will begin.
The Kübler-Ross model describes five stages of grief that people often go through when dealing with loss. Here’s a simple breakdown:
Denial – "This can't be happening." People struggle to accept the reality of the situation.
Anger – "Why is this happening?" Frustration and resentment may arise, sometimes directed at others or even at oneself.
Bargaining – "If only I had done something differently..." People may try to make deals (with themselves, others, or a higher power) to reverse or change the loss.
Depression – "This is really happening, and it hurts." Sadness and withdrawal set in as the person processes the weight of the loss.
Acceptance – "I am learning to live with this." While the pain may still exist, the person begins to find a way forward.
These stages don’t always happen in order, and not everyone experiences all of them. Grief is personal and unfolds differently for each person.
