Bethany Rose Independent Midwife

Bethany Rose Independent Midwife �Independent Midwife working in Suffolk and the surrounding counties �

16/04/2026

My gorgeous friend and mumma to be uploaded this to her Instagram, got several disapproving remarks (of course 🙄) and I just HAD to share.

LOOK AT HOW INCREDIBLE SHE IS!!!! 32 weeks pregnant 😍

Okay, so I’m not advising that you all go out and do a load of handstand pushups at 32 weeks pregnant, Kat can do this because she has years of CrossFit experience and is confident in her body and her abilities.

But this is your reminder that moving your body is good for you and your baby… And don’t let anyone tell you anything different! 🫶🏻

16/04/2026

Early birth planning and consultant midwife involvement!

Following an appointment with a client yesterday, I thought I’d share some of our discussion and how early birth planning can really benefit you in pregnancy!

Early discussions and plans saved later stress and worry. As independent midwives we can support you with these plans, and often work alongside the NHS for many of our clients.

Want to know more about how we can support you? Send us a DM to find out about our care!

Thanks to our client for consenting to me share our discussion to help others 🫶🏻

08/04/2026

I get up with my baby about 4 or 5 times a night… getting up with the dog in the night and vaxing the carpets that he’s 🤢 and 💩 on was not part of the deal when I said yes to him 6 years ago 🫠🫠🫠

It’s a good job deep, deep down I do love him right? 😅

Something that really grinds my gears is the lack of discussion around sweeps and that it’s not “just a sweep”… Below is...
06/04/2026

Something that really grinds my gears is the lack of discussion around sweeps and that it’s not “just a sweep”…

Below is a screenshot from NICE guidance… Methods for induction of labour 🫠

When I qualified 10 years ago you would rarely offer a sweep… If you were giving someone a membrane sweep before 41 weeks you’d need a really good reason to justify this, and anything before 40 weeks needed a consultant obstetrician “sign off” to do so…

Now the guidelines state they can be offered from 39 weeks, and I’ve known of many women being offered before this point with little reasoning.

Hospitals are publishing stats showing their “spontaneous” birth rates, but not including how many women have had sweeps… So I wonder how many women are ACTUALLY getting a truly spontaneous labour and birth.

In my opinion, based on what I’ve seen in practice, sweeps rarely work and often cause more issues than benefits… 24 hours of niggly tightenings that lead to a lack of sleep and false hope, amongst many other things.

In the right context and right reasoning, sweeps can occasionally be beneficial. But this is a decision that needs to be made after an individualised discussion, and not just because you’ve reached 39 weeks.

Interestingly, I’ve not performed a single membrane sweep since being an independent midwife…

What’s your experience of membrane sweeps? Tell me below! 👇

02/04/2026

🐨 babies…

It’s relentless… It’s the constant carrying. The co-sleeping. The screams as soon as you put them down whilst you wee. It’s the worrying about how they’ll be when you leave them for a couple of hours. It’s the feeding to sleep, sneaking away and then being back up next to them 20 minutes later.

But it’s also the cuddles and closeness in the sling. It’s the smile you see light up their face as you walk in the room. It’s the warmth and connection at 3am when they’ve woken you for the 4th feed of the night. It’s the beaming grin that you wake up to every morning.

Unless you’ve lived it, you can’t understand it. Sometimes I wish I had a bit more space, and occasionally envy those who have babies who go in their cots and sleep through the night.

But really I wouldn’t change it for the world ❤️ (just an occasional evening alone on the sofa would be appreciated 🤣)

Midwifery myth busting… Booking inductions just incase the diary gets full…On one hand, having a date might be helpful f...
29/03/2026

Midwifery myth busting… Booking inductions just incase the diary gets full…

On one hand, having a date might be helpful for you to prepare around, if you are accepting an induction after you’ve been truly informed and advised about it. Some people find this helpful and this is absolutely ok!

However, if you don’t particularly want an induction, having the pressure of a date to “birth by” will likely add an extra layer of unnecessary stress. And this is something you definitely don’t need whilst trying to support those happy hormones that are needed for spontaneous labour!

It might be sold to you as a good backup, or that it helps the hospital to know a date. However I’m almost certain that should you decline booking an induction at one appointment, but then decide a few days or weeks later that the time is right for you - the hospital will find you a space.

This might not be right away, but considering that approx 1 in 3 women are induced nowadays - it’s quite likely that your set date for induction may be delayed either before or during the induction process.

What are your thoughts? Share with me below 👇

28/03/2026

Thankyou to for gifting me one of your feeding nighty’s!

Softest cotton material, super warm and really convenient for feeding… I wish I had found this sooner in our feeding journey!



22/03/2026

IYKYK 🤣🤣

21/03/2026

CONNECTION ✨✨

What independent midwifery is all about ❤️

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08/03/2026

Just updating this golden-oldie post of my daughter from aaaages ago!!! This gave me a laugh today ❤️
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A little reminder that your feelings are valid, and that social media is a front for perfect parenting and unachievable ...
28/02/2026

A little reminder that your feelings are valid, and that social media is a front for perfect parenting and unachievable standards.

It’s been a rough week of teething, sleep deprivation, a migraine and too higher expectations of myself.

I’ve also had several conversations with other parents about their experiences and a few reality checks. Thanks to the mum at gymnastics yesterday (after it took 20 minutes of tough love to get the small one in for the class that SHE insisted she wanted to start!!) who reminded me that “parenting is HARD” ❤️

I cried to my husband as I tried to get to bed last night, because the 👶🏼 obviously woke up in the 10 minutes that I put him in bed and left him to brush my teeth… restarting the whole settling again, with my sore 🍈 🍈 as I tackle eczema for the second time round!! I told my husband I felt suffocated… which is true. Yet I wouldn’t give up breastfeeding and co-sleeping as I know it’s right for us.

Sending love to those of you in any stage of your parenting journey, and hoping that a bit of reality might help someone else 🫶🏻

I’m currently walking with my 14 week (how?!) old today crying. Thankfully I haven’t yet bumped into anyone, as big fat ...
06/11/2025

I’m currently walking with my 14 week (how?!) old today crying. Thankfully I haven’t yet bumped into anyone, as big fat tears roll down my cheeks.

Why? Because the birth world at present is breaking my heart. Our midwives and doctors are being dragged through the press. Those of us who homebirth with risk factors are labelled as dangerous. Women’s needs aren’t being met in the compassionate way that they need to.

But it’s not one individual’s fault, it’s much bigger than that.

Everything feels heavy. I feel so eternally grateful that I had the experience that I did, yet so very guilty that in the circles that I am in, other women have experienced the complete opposite.

I love being an independent midwife and couldn’t now practice in any other way. I have some changes coming up when I return to work that I’m so excited about. I’m grateful that there are families who have the ability to access my support, yet I know there is a massive majority who cannot.

Something needs to change, but the responsibility cannot continue to be put on women and families to “do your learning” “enrol in courses” “take charge of your birth”. Why can’t midwives be enabled to support and facilitate this.

The problem is much larger, the system needs an overhaul. Yet I’m at a complete loss as to how I can do anything (especially with my current postpartum brain!)

Our women, babies and families deserve better.

I’m checking out of social media for a few weeks, whilst I let my thoughts bubble over and my brain calm a little. (No more ranty posts of silly MP posts 😂)

But I’m at the end of my emails if anyone needs support that I can facilitate whilst navigating my own postnatal journey - admin@bethanyroseim.com

So much love ###

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