Dr Hayley Trower

Dr Hayley Trower I help sensitive women to reclaim their voices, restore balance, and embrace their sensitivity as a strength.

I offer a synergistic approach, combining talking therapy with mind-body techniques including music, breathwork, mindfulness, & deep relaxation.

Affirmations that every sensitive soul needs to hear 🌼Being sensitive doesn't have to mean that you are also shy, introv...
25/06/2025

Affirmations that every sensitive soul needs to hear 🌼

Being sensitive doesn't have to mean that you are also shy, introverted, anxious, burnt out, or overwhelmed. These are all very different constructs that are developed as a result of environmental and societal conditioning.

The mind loves stories. It's how you create meaning from the incredibly complex and multifaceted world that you live in. Without meaning and stories, you would not be able to make sense of yourself and others, and how you position yourself in the world. ☺️

If you grew up in a home that encouraged creativity and self-compassion, you may create a story about yourself that you are worthy of existing just as you are with no caveats. If you grew up in an unpredictable and anxious home, you may create a story about yourself that you need to be quiet and well-behaved to feel safe, and to feel like home is more predictable.

The second story may feed into more spiralling stories. Stories that you're shy, not worthy, unlovable, or you're not good at certain things.

But these are all constructs made up in the mind. They are not necessarily true. Genetics do play a role, but the environment plays a much larger role. 🌞

An exercise I like to try with clients is to think about how readily your mind believes negative stories about yourself. And then to think about how readily your mind believes positive stories about yourself. Usually, the positive stories are harder to believe. But actually, both sets of stories are figments of your imagination. It's just that your conditioning influences the polarity that you lean towards.

Your mind is a creative wonder. It has the capacity to create anything using your imagination.

If you want to rewrite your story, try out these affirmations. 🌱

Sensitivity does not have to mean playing small. 🌏

Which affirmation is your favourite?

With love,
Hayley 🩡

How do I stop being so overwhelmed by everything as a highly sensitive person? I get it. You've probably Googled it load...
10/06/2025

How do I stop being so overwhelmed by everything as a highly sensitive person?

I get it. You've probably Googled it loads of times before but are still wondering how to manage your overwhelm. Perhps you overthink things you said, can't rationalise properly, get teary and emotional, or you get irritable with your nearest and dearest.

Here are some evidence-based things that you can try, using my TIDE approach.

T: Train your nervous system. I know it's all been said before but you genuinely can train your nervous system to be less reactive, even if you're an HSP. Try breathwork, meditation. Think about what brought you joy as child and do that. Honestly. Being kind to yourself and incorporating stillness into your day can have a profound impact on your nervous system.

I: In the moment tools. When you are in an overwhelmed stressy state, the breath is a bridge between what's automatic and what's within your control. You can regulate your nervous system by slowing down your breath. I tried this last week whilst panic crying in the toilet before holding space for a group and it worked wonders!

D: Discern your deeper truth. Get deep, peel back the layers and see what's underneath. Emotions are messengers, not pests to bat away. Try journalling, therapy, or talking to a friend.

E: Environmental design. Another preventative measure is to be aware of your environment. What activates you and what restores you? What's one thing that you could do to improve your home or work environment? Give this some proper thought - it could be life changing.

You can also downlaod my free Emotional Overwhelm Rescue meditation by clicking the link in my bio 🩡

Let me know what you think!





If you're part of the 20% who feel everything more deeply than most, meditation isn't just a nice-to-have – it's essenti...
19/05/2025

If you're part of the 20% who feel everything more deeply than most, meditation isn't just a nice-to-have – it's essential equipment for navigating a world that often feels noisy and overwhelming.

I've been a meditator for over 10 years and LOVE using meditation and visualisation in my therapy practice. As a highly sensitive person myself, I know firsthand how transformative the right kind of meditation practice can be for your unique nervous system. ✨

As a woman in recovery for almost 8 years, meditation probably saved my life. Sounds a bit dramatic, but that's how it feels. Creating the space to listen to your heart, body, and of course the mind, is more powerful than you might think.

That's why I've created a meditation designed specifically for highly sensitive people. It combines breathwork, emotional awareness, and plenty of space to return home (to your mind and body). 🏑

Click the link below to download my 'emotional overwhelm rescue meditation' for free.

https://subscribepage.io/emotional_overwhelm_rescue

Love, Hayley
🩡

These ideas aren't just what I teach – they're how I live.As a highly sensitive person, I spent years trying to be someo...
14/05/2025

These ideas aren't just what I teach – they're how I live.

As a highly sensitive person, I spent years trying to be someone who I thought I 'should' be - someone who could drink the lads under the table, who could run gruelling trail events, and who was 'tough' and 'strong' (whilst also doing a PhD because I thought that would solve my inadequacy).

I'd push through sensory overload, say yes when my body was screaming no, and wonder why I'd end up completely drained.

The turning point came in 2017 after a period of too much drinking and partying – I was numbing my sensitivity but I had no idea how disconnected I really was. I crashed – hard. My body was falling apart.

That breakdown became my breakthrough. I stopped drinking and slowly began rebuilding my identity, piece by piece. I realised I wasn't broken for needing what I need. My sensitivity isn't a design flaw – it's a different operating system that requires different care. 🩡

These slides share the daily practices that have transformed my relationship with my sensitivity. They're simple but profound shifts that have allowed me to feel at home in my body rather than constantly at war with it.

The most revolutionary act wasn't changing everything – it was finally accepting myself exactly as I am. πŸ™ŒπŸ»

If you're a highly sensitive woman who's exhausted from trying to fit into a world that wasn't designed for you, know that another way is possible. Book a free 30-minute connection call with me to explore how we might work together to see your sensitivity as the gift it truly is. Link in bio.

Love, Hayley 🩡

Being sensitive was something I always hated about myself. I worked so hard to be someone different. I did everything in...
13/05/2025

Being sensitive was something I always hated about myself. I worked so hard to be someone different. I did everything in my power to appear cool and confident, and in some ways, I succeeded.

I succeeded in having an identity that was completely the opposite of my true nature. But it wasn't sustainable. I drank myself into oblivion, partied hard, numbed my feelings, and spent precious energy on the wrong things.

πŸ›πŸ¦‹

My life nowadays is a stark contrast to the way things used to be. I no longer abandon myself to fit in. Instead, I accept my gentle nature. I even moved to the countryside, away from the 's*x, drugs & rock & roll' band lifestyle that I used to have - rubbing shoulders with Brummie musos and hanging out in city centre lock-ups.

I still love a lot about my old life, especially the music and the mates, and sometimes I still pine for it. But I know that my needs are different. My pleasures are different. My purpose is different. ✨️

I've made peace with who I am, and most of the time, I no longer feel the need to wear that mask.

To feel at peace is to be in my truth, and my sensitivity is the compass. My sensory boundaries keep the good vibes in check. πŸ§­πŸ’™

πŸ“· Photos from this evening's walk at The Roaches, Peak District. It has its own kind of intoxication anyway πŸ˜‰.

There is a misconception that being highly sensitive means that you're introverted or shy. But acutally, these are three...
06/05/2025

There is a misconception that being highly sensitive means that you're introverted or shy. But acutally, these are three very different concepts. πŸ‘‡πŸΌ

Being a Highly Sensitive Person isn't about social anxiety or needing alone time (though you might experience those too).

It's about how your nervous system processes EVERYTHING. 🎢✨🌏

Despite common misconceptions, Dr. Elaine Aron's research has proven that high sensitivity is a distinct neurological trait that affects how you process all sensory input – separate from shyness (which can be overcome and isn't something that you're born with) or introversion (which is about social energy).

In fact, 30% of HSPs are actually extroverts! πŸ™ŒπŸ»

If you've been told you're too sensitive but the labels of shy or introverted never quite fit, these slides might explain why.

Your sensitivity isn't just about how you feel in social situations. It's actually related to how you notice subtleties that others miss, how you process experiences more deeply than others, and that fact that you feel both positive and negative stimuli more intensely.

It's not a flaw to fix. It's your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do. 🩡

Swipe to understand the research-backed differences between being highly sensitive and being shy or introverted β†’

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