Hidden Gem Psychology Service

09/10/2025

Researchers have developed the first-ever blood test capable of diagnosing chronic fatigue syndrome, known as M.E.
https://www.itv.com/news/2025-10-07/scientists-develop-first-ever-blood-test-to-diagnose-chronic-fatigue-syndrome

04/10/2025

Repair Template:

Step 1: Apologize, no excuses, no deflection, no blame shifting, just a sincere apology

Step 2: Do what you can to make things right. This includes stopping what your child said was hurtful. This can also include paying for therapy, etc.

Step 3: Sit with the discomfort. Just like any other relationship an apology may not result in a restored relationship. If you are apologizing with the only goal to have a restored relationship, you’re doing it wrong.

03/10/2025

I’m sure many can relate to this ☹️

02/10/2025

People love to say “be the bigger person” like it’s some badge of honor. But sometimes, that phrase is toxic. It teaches you to swallow your pain, silence your voice, and accept mistreatment just to look like the “better” one. That’s not growth that’s self betrayal.

Being the bigger person doesn’t mean letting people disrespect you, walk over you, or never face accountability for their actions. It’s okay to set boundaries. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. It’s okay to say “no, I’m not tolerating this.”

Growth isn’t about who can stay quiet the longest. Real growth is learning that you don’t have to shrink yourself to keep the peace, you can protect your peace by demanding better.

01/10/2025

01/10/2025

You didn’t “fail” because you didn’t know better back then. 🌿✨
You were doing the best you could with the tools you had. Now you’ve grown, now you know better—and that is where your power begins.

Forgive yourself. Self-shame only keeps you stuck, but self-compassion sets you free. 💫

30/09/2025

29/09/2025

You’re not broken. 💔✨
You’re responding the best way you can to situations no one was ever meant to endure.
Give yourself grace. What you’re feeling is valid. What you’re carrying is real. And the way you’re surviving is proof of your strength. 🌿

Healing starts with remembering: you’re not “too much,” you’re simply navigating too much.

27/09/2025

Men who abuse women... physically, mentally, emotionally... are often some of the nicest, most charming, friendly men you’ll ever meet.

And that’s exactly how they get away with it.

They smile in public. They hold conversations with ease. They seem respectful, well-mannered, maybe even generous. To the outside world, they’re the “good guy.” The one everyone likes. The one no one would ever suspect.

But behind closed doors? It’s a different story.

That charm turns cold. That “gentle tone” becomes condescending. That kindness flips into manipulation. The same man who compliments strangers can go home and slowly break down a woman’s confidence until she no longer recognizes herself.

Abuse doesn’t always show up with bruises. Sometimes it looks like silent control. Like guilt trips. Like gaslighting her until she questions her reality. Like isolating her from friends and family with a smile on his face and “good intentions” in his words. It’s emotional warfare… dressed up in charisma.

And the worst part? When she finally speaks up… people don’t believe her. Because he’s so nice. Because he would never. Because he seems like such a great guy. So she stays quiet. Or worse, she starts to wonder if she’s the problem. That’s how deep emotional abuse runs.

This is why so many women stay longer than they should. Not because they’re weak, but because psychological abuse is confusing. It’s a cycle of love and harm… of “I’m sorry” and “You made me do it.” It’s being made to feel crazy for having boundaries. It’s having your pain questioned because he smiles in public and only shows his darkness in private.

So let’s stop equating niceness with goodness. Let’s stop assuming someone can’t be an abuser because they’re well-liked or successful or soft-spoken. Abusers don’t wear name tags. They don’t always yell. Some of them walk through life with perfect masks... and leave destruction behind closed doors.

Believe her when she says something’s not right.

Support her even when it doesn’t “look” like abuse.

Because sometimes the most dangerous man in the room…

is the one everyone’s busy praising.