06/09/2025
We often hear the saying, “a friend in need is a friend indeed.” And of course, this is true. But I have also learned that a true friend is not only there in your hardest moments, they are also the ones who celebrate your wins. Regardless of what it might stir in them, they will want to see you blossom and shine.
Like all of us, I have experienced many different kinds of friendships. Some lasted only a season, others for a reason, and some remain still. All of them have held meaning. Research even shows that, on average, we naturally prune or turn over our friendships every seven years. I hope this reassures anyone who feels less-than for not having friendships that survived from high school, it is entirely normal.
What is not a reason to keep investing in a friendship is simply the time already spent. If core values no longer align, then perhaps the greatest act of love is to release. As we grow older, our values shift. Finding common ground isn’t about sharing the same cocktail preference or music taste, but about honouring the same qualities: love, kindness, loyalty, honesty.
Sometimes losing a friend is really choosing yourself. And while there may be grief in that loss, the alternative, to abandon yourself only plants the seed of resentment.
So I ask you gently: do you know what your values are? Do your friends support them? How have your values changed? What once mattered to you that no longer does?
The greatest piece of advice I can offer is this:
✨ be yourself, so your people can find you. ✨
