19/01/2026
Today’s reading at Uni got me thinking about the link between my career choices and offerings. They are so deeply linked, of course they are. When I read this I remembered how guilty I used to feel about taking time for me-after all I chose to have children and had the luxury of working or not working at different times… who was I and how dare I feel exhausted, like I was running on fumes or worse still, feeling not much at all. When I found yoga and then eventually a very helpful therapist I had already begun the process of making self care decisions despite any guilt (not in the absence of guilt-that came much later) and what I noticed was that those that used to roll their eyes even behind their eyelids, husbands, MIL, other mums started to receive me differently as I landed differently. Eventually, husbands start packing your yoga bag for you and kids notice how you return, with more to give, more eye contact, more patience, more kindness and play, more present moment investment instead of planning always for the next meal, wash, activity.
We confuse productivity with busyness, stress & exhaustion with fulfilment of duty and impatience with discipline.
I read Gina Ford when I was pregnant and it is one of my biggest regrets… not much mention of love in there in my opinion…
‘Why love matters’ is a book I would recommend to all parents and reminding yourself that your nervous system, its regulation, your time to reflect, breathe, move and nourish mind body and soul is like putting the oxygen mask on first before helping anyone else-necessary not indulgent.
Take care of you too ❤️
